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AIBU?

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DP has ‘found his faith’

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Grumpybear16 · 27/10/2017 06:40

Be kind please. My DP has been very odd this past week, claiming that he suddenly has found his faith and talking excitedly about it. It’s all he thinks about and he didn’t sleep at all last night. He is being a much kinder more attentive person, but I’m worried it might be a mental health issue. AIBU to think this? Does anyone else have stories about finding faith?

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mygorgeousmilo · 27/10/2017 16:38

A lovely friend in our old apartment building found Jesus, it all got really intense until she was speaking in tongues. After a few weeks it was a full on psychotic episode and she was sectioned. She’s fine now but definitely needed lots of family/professional support to get through it.

KitKat1985 · 27/10/2017 16:45

I'm pleased to see your update OP. It's really good that he's still got some insight and knows he needs help, and is seeking this out. Best of luck to you both.

RiversrunWoodville · 27/10/2017 16:58

Glad to hear that op

kinkajoukid · 27/10/2017 17:18

Aw Grumpybear it's great that he's been able to come to you and say how he feels and realise himself that something is not right.

Rethink have been marvellous in my experience so I hope you can find great support for you both.

to you both and wishing both you well.

LoislovesStewie · 27/10/2017 18:19

Hope all is well; look after yourselves.

YellowFlower201 · 27/10/2017 19:08

Pleased to see your update! I hope he gets the help he needs quickly.

All the best

Ellendegeneres · 27/10/2017 19:48

I don't mean to repeat, but if you call your emergency mh team (called home treatment team in my area) they will organise for him to be seen as a matter of urgency. They are very good, very discreet and caring. It could save time, save him suffering over the weekend. In fact, I'm certain it will having been there myself.
Hope he's feeling better fast

Haffdonga · 27/10/2017 19:58

It's great he's taking action himself.

I strongly suggest you call the GP confidentially before his appointment and tell them your concerns about his behaviour. They wont be able to tell you anything about him of course but if you alert them to your concerns about your dh they are less likely to dismiss him lightly when he goes to his appointment. You cant be sure he's going to give them the full story.

Good luck to you both

Outnotdown · 27/10/2017 20:15

I have been in your shoes op, and I would strongly recommend going to the appt with your husband. You don't have to speak for him but it will be beneficial to him, the gp and to you if you all understand what is going on.

In my opinion a mental breakdown happens to a family, not to one member of the family. You can support your husband by going to the appt, and he can support you by ensuring you are fully informed.

It is encouraging that he has the insight to know something is not right. Our situation was similar, and the worst was over within a week (strong meds for a few days, and lots of sleep). Everything is completely back to normal now, but a lot of talking about what had happened, triggers and so on was really essential.

Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you

LadyB49 · 27/10/2017 20:21

My ex h was paranoid schizophrenic and I lived with him for 22 years until I could no longer cope. I have no medical training but speak with the benefit of experience.
Please please ensure he receives Urgent medical care. I could have written your script. Its full of signals and red flags. Also, You must take care of yourself.

I hope your dh got an appt for today so that you dont have to wait over the weekend. I also hope that you were able to accompany him into his appt to ensure he tells all.a

Creampastry · 27/10/2017 20:30

I know a couple who found God. Sold their house, moved away and now.... totally screwed, has nothing, with one of them being manic depressive.

Whereisthegin1978 · 27/10/2017 20:47

I grew up in a Christian household, going to Christian camps, big music events etc. I have met lots of people who have been converted and are as you describe in the first post. There is a real excitement and sometimes that enthusiasm can be too much for those around the person. If you're worried maybe you can talk to the vicar or church leader? or casually ask your do if he's chatted with them about the last 5 years and ask how they've helped him?

happinessbythekilowatt · 27/10/2017 20:55

I would go with him to the GP if you are able

dnwig · 27/10/2017 21:09

I am late to this thread but glad to hear that he is accessing medical help.

I am a (tongues speaking) Christian GP who also works in psychiatry and agree that this could be mental disorder. No one can really advise properly on a forum such as this so it is good that he is speaking to the GP in oerson.

dnwig · 27/10/2017 21:12

Sorry, "in person"!

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Grumpybear16 · 28/10/2017 07:23

Thank you all. I wasn’t able to go to the app with him (2 young dc’s) but the Dr called me to find out my side of everything that had been going on. I told him as much detail as I could. The Dr then called the MH team and they have said as long as his thoughts aren’t muddled then to give him tablets for his anxiety and they will make an appointment with him next week. He took his first tablet last night and is still asleep since 7.30pm. He had a U-turn last night and confessed that he still strongly believes in God, but he can see now that there was no-one watching him etc (hopefully he’s not lieing about that) and I hope the tablets actually help. I didn’t want to admit there was a problem, but all your posts made me realise how serious it actually is so hopefully we can pull together as a family and make sure he stays well.

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annandale · 28/10/2017 08:24

Thanks so much for updating Grumpy. The GP sounds like a keeper.

I hope when the dust settles and he's better that he does find faith helpful. Meditation and in the past prayer have really helped my dh.

Anatidae · 28/10/2017 10:11

If he’s got some insight and such a supportive partner then he has a good chance of making a full recovery. Keep a close eye on him and don’t hesitate to call for emergency help if it’s warranted.
I wish you both all the best - you can make a full recovery after an episode of psychosis - what’s critical is that he is assessed fully and treated appropriately short- mid term, and you both know what to watch for/action trigger points in the future.

Good luck.

mygorgeousmilo · 28/10/2017 11:48

Grumpy thanks for updating! As pp have said, people can and do have psychotic episodes and come out on the other side with professional help. If he starts showing more extreme signs then of course get emergency help, and know that early access to help is crucial to recovery. I know a good 5-6 people (and probably more that I haven’t been told about) that have suffered with psychotic episodes and are now living their normal lives again with their work and families. I know more people that have had severe mental health problems than have had cancer, it’s pretty common and your GP sounds like they have a good understanding and is proactive. Read up as much as you can and keep up your own strength and mental health, too.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 28/10/2017 12:13

You should get him to a g p ASAP, if things escalate get him to accident and emergency department and on call mental health team will. Hopefully it will pass but this is totally sounding like mental health issues especially the not sleeping. Loosing a parent is always traumatic and 5 years is recent so maybe he needs grief counselling?
Very best of luck, I think you are in for a bumpy time to be honest x

Nofunkingworriesmate · 28/10/2017 12:16

Thank you for update, So glad he's sleeping, our church has a lovely grief group which has been a wonderful source of comfort.

TooManyPaws · 28/10/2017 13:01

I hope it goes well for you over the weekend. If you are worried about his behaviour before his MH team appointment, don't hesitate to call for emergency help. There will also be a team of Mental Health Officers in your local SW Adult Services who will be able to help you to access emergency services as there will be duty social workers.

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