To think this "friendly guy" has crossed the line and I should tell his wife?

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There's this guy in my running club he's shy in person but not so much on social media. He's married I know his wife. There have been a few red flags here and there but mostly I assumed he was just being friendly... Well he sent me this DM today:

"This is such an inspiring image you've come so far and will continue on your quest to achieve your goals ps I need to borrow your abs xx"

Ive already deleted him/blocked him but also thinking of telling his wife.

Are you going to tell his wife that you're chatting away with him?!

Hope you do! It was a problem earlier on!

I think OP wants us to be in awe over her ability to attract fit married male runners away from their wives. Gosh OP, you must be one hot runner

Exactly what Ben Lui said.
Op you're not listening.

This is such a weird thread! It's not often on here you get:

Op: aibu?
Mn: mixed response overall but not really
Op: yes I am!

You obviously think a lot of yourself OP.

I have read the full thread. Got to say I am quite exhausted, and no, I haven't been for a run.

I think you fancy him really OP.

It’s not just this thread. This is the second thread this week about the same subject.

I can only assume the OP isn’t genuinely asking for advice but funds these repeated threads entertaining for some other reason.

I’m out.

This is the second thread that this poster has started, where people take time to offer advice. Unfortunately it has become apparent that the OP has no intention of listening, because she enjoys the attention and drama, as well as the opportunity to endlessly pick over every tiny element in forensic and tedious detail.

And it is bloody annoying as well as frustrating, because it takes time away from posters who genuinely want help.

Gosh really?? Wow
People dont stand a chance with snowflake attitudes like this anymore. Guy did nothing wrong. Get over yourself

Step back if you want to but don't tell his wife. Christ you could ruin her life!

Eh?! You sound way too precious

Step back if you want to but don't tell his wife. Christ you could ruin her life!
Did you RTFT?
OP has now decided that she actually was wrong and clearly quite likes the attention as well as the 'does he fancy me?' drama llama potential and is now quite happy to be chatting to him. All concerns about his wife have mysteriously vanished.

Nice he's noticed you have abs - if you have them on show then people will look/see them. If you don't want people to see, wear a longer top. Sounds like he's just being nice.

Sounds harmless enough to me. Think you might be over reacting here

Actually I've only just seen your other comment and TBH you sound a little neurotic OP.

Maybe he does fancy you. If you're offended by his comments tell him or just don't respond. FWIW I think he possibly is trying to see if you'll bite. However telling his wife is a massive over reaction.

Well I think he does probably fancy you or maybe isn't sure of social media etiquette. In cases like this I would just ignore or say "thanks" no x but I wouldn't block as that is a massive overreaction. Just continue not to engage.

No one ever compliments my abs

nice abs lljkk

(please don't tell my wife!)

As a bloke, I think he’s creeping. 100%.

Is this teenagery drama still going on?

OP, if you think it's inappropriate, shut it down. I feel you're enjoying the attention though.

He has actually been ok today nothing out of the extraordinary or inappropriate. I think he either got the message or I really misjudged him . It was nice to chat to someone about the highlight of my day which was buying running shoes.

You want a puppy . He reminded you that he’s a person with thoughts and actions and “replies” so you got pissy and “uncomfortable “ about it. Now you’re happy because he’s being a puppy again.

Nice work ignoring literally everything that everyone has posted, OP.

He has actually been ok today. Geddaway.

I reckon 'it' is sorted then.

If someone I don’t know was DM’ing me that kind of message I’d be suspicious too.