To think this "friendly guy" has crossed the line and I should tell his wife?

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There's this guy in my running club he's shy in person but not so much on social media. He's married I know his wife. There have been a few red flags here and there but mostly I assumed he was just being friendly... Well he sent me this DM today:

"This is such an inspiring image you've come so far and will continue on your quest to achieve your goals ps I need to borrow your abs xx"

Ive already deleted him/blocked him but also thinking of telling his wife.

On second thoughts, I think you're a massive attention seeker

Your an odd one
You should have just
Let it Go

Trust your instincts as you know him. I have known lots of running club members to have affairs!

Well if you think that he is flirting then you both need help. It reads as a compliment to me . If he had said something like "wow you look fab wish my wife had abs like yours" then I might begin to wonder but as others have posted think you are reading more into these comments than there is imo

nothing out of the extraordinary or inappropriate. I think he either got the message or I really misjudged him .

He didn't do anything inappropriate in the first place

It turns out that he wants me to help him get fit that's about it.

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No shit Sherlock 🕵️

ODFO

Enjoy your man crush, I'm out!

Haven't read all the messages, but that sounds like messages my STBXH would write to countless women (and I'll have only seen a handful). He is a member of a running club as well!! If that message came from someone like him, then the OP is spot on.

I actually feel annoyed with myself for reading this whole thread. You sound utterly ridiculous OP, you clearly fancy him, love the attention and just want an excuse to talk about it. Ugh.

Oh God. Are you one of those women who is always looking for indications that every man fancies them?

Stop thinking that way and please don't do anything to upset his wife or jeopardise his relationship FFS. It's unfounded. He's just getting excited about his new fitness plan etc and is inspired by you.

I think the bloke needs to stop messaging the Op. I dont think he has a crush. But she clearly does.

Probably based on him being an established member of her running club.

No I have no crush. He also explained that he constantly compliments as a way to give something good to the world / good karma. Today he said goodbye with "you're an incredibly beautiful person inside and out".

Aww isn’t that sweet?
Here have a cookie.

What a fucking shock

Hhhhahhahhhhaaaaaaaaa

Yes trust your instincts. And xxx are a big no no if you are in a relationship. Would aany posters want their husbands doing this?

My Ex did similar, and private messaged a woman in his sports group, telling her how stylish and classy she looked. I saw the message after realising he was having an emotional affair with someone else. It made me as his live in gf feel terrible. Both counts. It’s a preamble into cheating.

Any my Ex was also shy in rl. Still an asshole!

Well, I've laughed and laughed.

Jesus.

Can't believe this is still going...

You post a picture of your new hair and people generally feel it's polite to say, 'Love the new hair,' Checks out.

I tend to say nice things on boast posts because I imagine that's why people put them there.

He also explained that he constantly compliments as a way to give something good to the world / good karma. Today he said goodbye with "you're an incredibly beautiful person inside and out

I can't move for people saying that to me.

Enjoy your weekend OP.

...constantly compliments as a way to give something good...

He's cheered me up, that's for sure. But does that mean he's doing it to everyone and you're not the special one?

I have a few people that i comment on most of the time on ig.

However, If you post yourself in sports bra and shorts, new hair, etc. Aren't you asking people to look at you?

Do as you wish, but photos of oneself invite comments on the same.