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Original poster

To think this "friendly guy" has crossed the line and I should tell his wife?

423 replies

revolution909 · 24/10/2017 23:33

There's this guy in my running club he's shy in person but not so much on social media. He's married I know his wife. There have been a few red flags here and there but mostly I assumed he was just being friendly... Well he sent me this DM today:

"This is such an inspiring image you've come so far and will continue on your quest to achieve your goals ps I need to borrow your abs xx"

Ive already deleted him/blocked him but also thinking of telling his wife.

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Roussette · 28/10/2017 13:36

If I wanted to start a thread and answer to annoy people in the most irritating way possible, this thread would be it.

You're having a larf OP.

Talk to him, don't talk to him, block him, don't block him, admire his legs in the bath, tell your DH, don't tell him, tell his wife, don't tell his wife - I don't think anyone cares in the slightest what you do!

Your DH must be a very patient man!

BuzzKillington · 28/10/2017 13:41

Cut the oxygen to this thread everyone.

Think of it as a mercy killing.

Grin Grin Grin

MaisyPops · 28/10/2017 13:52

Cut the oxygen to this thread everyone.

Think of it as a mercy killing.
Grin
Brilliant.
But then how will the OP know what's acceptable or if the man wants to sleep with her? Grin

CakesRUs · 28/10/2017 14:02

YABU. Don’t tell his wife.

PumpkinSquash · 28/10/2017 15:04

Isn't the reason people post pictures of their new hair cut so that other people will like it and comment 'I like your hair'?

This! Instagram posts of posing and hashtag #newhair #newme #feelinggood #newlook #ihairspiration blah blah blah.

I thought the whole reason of posting those were that you got loads of "gawjus hun!" "Rockin the new look!" "stunna" "so pretty!" and racking up the likes.
That's what I always see on posts like that anyway.
Do you not want people to comment and post? As I thought that was kind of the point.

MaisyPops · 28/10/2017 16:26

I agree pumpkin

I know if I'm happy with something fitness based and I post it then I get a slap on the bavk or a gold star from my fitness friends. It's nice to share good things (i'd rather see good thinhs than 'FFS David. You go out again and I'll look after the kids' ... 2 days later 'Love my man David. Having cuddles with this boy. Best dad in the world to DC') but we all know sharing is only about the things we want people tosee.

ohmywhatamisaying · 28/10/2017 16:44

Look, if you want to screw hím, just get on with it Hmm

MaisyPops · 28/10/2017 16:47

ohmywhatamisaying
GrinGrinGrin

RebornSlippy · 28/10/2017 16:51

You so fucking fancy this guy, OP. This is one of the most cringey things I've read on here. And that's saying something. Seriously love, cold shower, stop with the selfies and get a big fucking grip.

You'd love it if he crossed the line. Just admit it.

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revolution909 · 28/10/2017 17:06

RebornSlippy he's not my type but I can tell you all the things he's done in the past couple of days. A few selfies in the bathtub (of him having a bath and a glass of wine... ), Selfies of him with little. Hearts ( yeah I guess both of us act like we're 12)... Telling me constantly how amazing I am. Telling me how much I make him smile and blush...

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RebelRogue · 28/10/2017 17:17

So we’re back to he’s creepy and makes you uncomfortable?

PumpkinSquash · 28/10/2017 17:21

he's not my type but I can tell you all the things he's done in the past couple of days. A few selfies in the bathtub (of him having a bath and a glass of wine... )

thought you said you'd blocked him? Confused Hmm

RebornSlippy · 28/10/2017 17:23

@revolution, seriously... You fancy him. It's as clear as day!

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revolution909 · 28/10/2017 17:25

I blocked him and then unblocked him. No I don't think he's creepy (but he's indeed socially awkward), and I'm thinking it's safe to assume he does have a crush on me.

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PumpkinSquash · 28/10/2017 17:27

Ah, OK. See you blocked him then un-blocked him, and spend hours chatting with him.
(Like most people do with people they find creepy and inappropriate. Hmm Sarcasm mode in case you missed it!) )
You obviously like him.

PumpkinSquash · 28/10/2017 17:29

Why are you following him on Instagram to see his selfie shots?
It's not the law to follow back everyone on there that follows you, you know.

MiaowMix · 28/10/2017 17:30

How curious. I don’t have a clue what your latest update could mean though.
I mean what is he trying to say. The old running buddy? 🤔

Good job you totes don’t fancy him or enjoy the attention 😄, block and move on I say.

He’s creepy, right? Or are his confusing messages bamboozling you? 🤔

RebornSlippy · 28/10/2017 17:31

"I'm thinking it's safe to assume he does have a crush on me."

And you are absolutely loving it. Which is why you've posted here so we'll all agree with you. Because you want him to fancy you because you fancy him. OMG, it's so juvenile.

OP. What the hell are you looking for out of any of this? You originally claimed you didn't welcome his advances. Yet, you've spend fucking hours talking and listening to music. You're unable to block him on social media. You're posting numerous threads here. OK, so what if he fancies you? And you clearly fancy him back.

You're both married. Now again, get a fucking grip and forget about him. Or shag him sensless in the bath while taking numerous selfies. Fuck it, instagram the shite out of it with hearts. Then, embark on a passionate yet socially awkward affair. You guys, you have so much in common...

Whatever you want. Just don't keep up the pretence. We all know.

SilverySurfer · 28/10/2017 17:41

OP I don't know WTF you are on but it is so obvious you are gagging for this bloke. He goes from someone with whom you have exchanged two words to your 'running buddy'; from a creep who you think you should talk to his wife about, to someone you now like and talked with him all evening. I'm sure your DH was thrilled and I bet he would love to read this thread Hmm

You should seriously be cringing with embarrassment after your last post, it's beyond pathetic.

Coconutspongexo · 28/10/2017 18:04

Ffs I can't believe this thread is still going.

Surely OP is a teen ? No adult acts like this do they?

Yes OP you're too gorgeous everyone wants you

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revolution909 · 28/10/2017 18:07

I'm not proud of myself at all. I feel annoyed with myself because I saw it coming. I'm pathetic, I know.

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PumpkinSquash · 28/10/2017 18:56

Block him again, then, FFS. Or just feed off the attention, lap up the compliments and carry on with your hour long chats to him like you are doing already.
Which, no-one would do with someone who they didn't like. Hmm

woosey35 · 28/10/2017 19:20

You have no intention of telling your husband how you spent the evening!!!! Be honest!!!! This is classic start to an affair. And you know that and seem absolutely up for it. You don’t give a monkeys about his wife at all!! And you just seem annoyed by your husband!! Why did he leave stressed this morning?? Were you so wrapped up in yourself and your abs that you didn’t think to ask??
I’ve never read anything like this where someone is sooo self obsessed and egocentric !! And then to pull the naive card out the bag!! Ha!! Nothing naive about you!! Totally know what you’re doing!! I’d be ashamed!!

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revolution909 · 28/10/2017 19:39

I know why my husband was stressed, he was late for work. I know this already sounds like it's in affair territory. I won't full myself it doesn't.

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SparklyMagpie · 28/10/2017 19:51

Just admit it OP

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