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To think this "friendly guy" has crossed the line and I should tell his wife?

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revolution909 · 24/10/2017 23:33

There's this guy in my running club he's shy in person but not so much on social media. He's married I know his wife. There have been a few red flags here and there but mostly I assumed he was just being friendly... Well he sent me this DM today:

"This is such an inspiring image you've come so far and will continue on your quest to achieve your goals ps I need to borrow your abs xx"

Ive already deleted him/blocked him but also thinking of telling his wife.

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missevelina · 27/10/2017 04:23

You come across as a very immature, self obsessed, attention seeker!

What a very boring life you must live to have become so obsessed over this.

I actually feel sorry for the man involved...you sound absolutely bonkers!

BigFatGoalie · 27/10/2017 04:51

"darling you're fabulous"
Are you sure he’s not Paul o’Grady?!

JonSnowsWife · 27/10/2017 05:59

No I have no crush. He also explained that he constantly compliments as a way to give something good to the world / good karma. Today he said goodbye with "you're an incredibly beautiful person inside and out".

So he's chose to be a nice person and compliments everyone in this manner, instead of being a misogynistic bellend?

What a twat. Trying to be nice to people. Have him hanged by the balls. Hmm

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 06:35

I'm sure now that I misjudged him. Yes, sometimes he's too sweet for my liking but maybe that's because I'm not used to it :/ . Everything makes sense now. I'm glad I was able to get over my first impressions.

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woosey35 · 27/10/2017 08:25

Did he send a pic of his legs solely to you? Or display them on strava?
I don’t think it’s wierd at all. I think he seems very friendly, that’s all.
What I do think is wierd is your reaction to it. If you REALLY felt uncomfortable with it all, you wouldn’t respond or make a big deal out of it. You also wouldn’t put photos of yourself with next to nothing on. I think you are secretly loving the attention ??

LazyDailyMailJournos · 27/10/2017 08:29

Gosh and we are also so, so "glad" that you have been able to "get over" it as well, because it's not like you are dragging this out at all - is it? Hmm

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 08:32

All the pics he's sent me have been sent privately to me. But I understand the rationale of everything now. He's embarrassed, so doesn't want to post them publicly. But he does want someone's opinion on his progress so far. I think he's very sweet by nature (or that's what I can tell anyways) and that's what freaked me out.

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Roussette · 27/10/2017 08:38

So he wants an opinion on what his legs look like in the bath? Hmm

You've made a new best friend then OP. Are you going to tell his wife about your new friendship, you were so worried about it to start with not

RebelFreddyVSRogueJason · 27/10/2017 08:45

So it was his sweetnesses not creepiness that made you block him,starts two threads and wanting to tell his wife?

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 08:49

He's so OTT that yes I found that creepy. But now I think that's just the way he is. And we'll I'm glad I didn't tell his wife that would have been a mess :/

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InspMorse · 27/10/2017 08:53

I've been holding off but honestly OP? Get over yourself!

woosey35 · 27/10/2017 08:54

And what are you truly feeling about this??!!🙄🙄

LadyWithLapdog · 27/10/2017 08:57

I can be seen as sweet and shy but I wouldn't ask for buffing up advice from near strangers on IG. How bizarre.

Sunbeams · 27/10/2017 09:03

Hi

Just a thought...are you sure it's him posting? I have a "family" Facebook account, I post and my DH does too...maybe his wife is trying to make friends with you??

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 09:07

Nope, it's definitely himself. I've given advice to people on FB groups so I don't find it that bizarre. After all we do love on the same town and attend the same running club

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 09:12

live in

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woosey35 · 27/10/2017 09:13

So now you don’t think it’s bizarre?! I’m so confused 🤷🏻‍♀️

LadyWithLapdog · 27/10/2017 09:13

"Show me your muscles and I'll show you mine." I don't usually feel I'm getting old but this is schoolchildren level to me Grin

hmbn · 27/10/2017 09:18

How does he know what your abs look like?

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 09:21

No, I don't it's weird anymore. The whole thing had a purpose so it now makes sense to me. My IG is a fitness account and included!

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revolution909 · 27/10/2017 09:21

abs

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WhataHexIgotinto · 27/10/2017 09:29

Well this is an odd thread.

OP if you don't want people to comment on your photos, particularly your spectacular abs, then perhaps don't post photos of them on social media in a sports bra. You do that for likes and comments, that's the only reason for it.

SallyAnneMarie · 27/10/2017 09:46

Omg, are you still banging on about this OP? Go for a long run, a very long run....... Really take your time.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 27/10/2017 09:55

I've reported because I really don't believe this is genuine. And even if it is, is it really in the spirit of MN? Dissect a perfectly innocent bloke in a thread and cast aspersions about his motives and marriage, all to garner some attention from strangers on the internet? Then when - happy days - it all comes good in the end, show zero self awareness.

Coconutspongexo · 27/10/2017 10:20

You were shocked someone commented on your abs when you have a fitness IG Hmm yeah okay..

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