I know IBU to spend £1k but I'm depressed. Is it a justifiable IBU? Or unjustifiable?

[DownbutnotfullyOut]

I'm thinking of spending £1k (slightly over that in fact) for a full set of new 300 thread count Yves Delorme bedding. It looks amazing and in my head will make my bedroom look like an interior designer has landed.

I'm feeling really depressed about all kinds of life shit issues at the moment.

I can afford it but not without thinking about it. I suppose what I'm saying is it won't put me in debt but it is a big spend for me and one I need to justify.

I feel like I have no happiness and some expensive luxiourous bedding might be a symbol of a fresh start and a clean out.

AIBU? Is it worth it? Or should I just by cheaper stuff? Or forget it all together?

I like good quality bed linen/bedding, and think buying the best you can afford DOES perk you up (good bed linen and tea mugs are things you use daily, so "worth" it imo)

Saying that, I have never spent 1k, but have bought expensive duvets and french linen covers, and love them.

Hi OP. Agree luxury bedding is worthwhile if you can afford it but 1k is quite extreme unless you're really well off. Yves Delorme has an outlet at a place called Kilver Cour in Somerset. They had quite a good selection last time I went in. Don't know where you are in the country but if you're anywhere near the south/southwest might be worth a trip or phone call.

I get fixated on buying stuff when I am low. Even when I'm not actually, but Def when I'm low. Can't stop thinking about it, obsessive internet searching. It's like an itch that needs to be scratched.

I have no doubt that it will make you feel amazing. I can't blame you for considering it.

Do you have any way of putting some distance between yourself and this train of thought? For me a run, swim or yoga class would do wonders and I would find I'd stop obsessing. A massage might help if the above seem too strenuous.

Next have a 600 tc set at under £200 for sheet, King Sized duvet set and extra pillow cases. Feels like silk.

How will buying expensive bedding make you happy. Will you be spending all your time day and night in your bedroom? I think it’s a little bit silly that you would need to ask people’s advice on this matter. Why don’t you spend 1k on some therapy, counselling sessions etc to work out why your so unhappy. Expensive bedding will not give you enlightenment darling xxx

I have this bedding. I love it. It is basically the sea but with a beach and people on it. It makes me happy every time I look at it.

And it was only $25 from Target. It's surprisingly good quality. Do you like it? If so, I would be happy to send you a set from Aus.

I have been thinking about you op.

£1k is alot of money and bed linen will do nothing for you.

How about spend a fraction of that on a yoga course and some lovely new gym clothes for yoga.

Yoga benefits body and mind and may help your mood and improve your body.

Don't do it. It's silly money. You could get a nice diamond something which wouldn't wear out or need ironing. I know when I am feeling down catching a glimpse of my sparkly earrings perks me up. Or (and this is probably the best idea) about 20 sessions of counselling.

I love nice htc bed linen but that is such a lot of money I think buyers remorse would outweigh any feelgood factor.

I’d get cheaper (I have yves whatisface from my kind aunt as a wedding present - it is a pain to iron which I don’t do post-DC and I don’t really enjoy it more than nice pure cotton cheaper ones) - spend less but get all matching at White Company etc and give bedroom a good clean and clear, but some lovely candles, vases and flowers and create just as lovely a feel that way for a great deal less.

A good shag will sort you out. Nothing like a good shag lol and if in luxurious bedding even better. Get your partner to bounce you around that bedroom. Exercise in any form does wonders for depression. Sit on top of your man and work it gurl xxxx

Honestly my 100% cotton stuff from Next feels just as nice as my mums designer stuff that cost near enough a grand, she sends hers out to be laundered and ironed too because it’s such a pain. I’m sure you could find something just as nice for cheaper but if you really want it and can afford it then go for it - it will only give you a temporary lift though

Keep a scrapbook of screenshots of lovely things and dont spend that sort of money trying to fix your feelings.

Something really smart always makes the rest of the room look shabby. In 6 months time you could start to feel down again and fixate on something else.
The world is full of lovely things. Admire them, be pleased they exist to brighten your life, let them go and move on.

When you are depressed that is precisely not the time to make major decisions like spending £1000 on bedsheets.

You can get amazing bedding for a couple of hundred pounds (sites like Achica have great deals). Spend a couple of hundred more on a really nice duvet and pillows. Spend a couple of hundred on some amazing luxury pyjamas - then you still have £400 left for whatever!

Personally I love fancy bedding and pyjamas - getting into a freshly made bed in lovely pyjamas is one of the finest feelings on earth. I have never spent anything like this though and I think it's perfectly possible to have the same result for a lot less money. I'd have to literally be a millionaire to spend £1k on sheets. Would rather spend £200 and go to Florence or something!

Christy's have a flash sale on bedding. You could get some a bit cheaper and still have enough to go away on holiday for some sun.

Hope you feel better soon.

I wouldn't. You can get 15-20 sessions with a private therapist with that amount - a more better investment for the long term. Sorry you don't feel great

Can I suggest you don't get white

Do you know what always lifts my spirits? Lying in my garden and looking up at the trees behind me in the woods swaying. It’s so peaceful. Or looking up at the stars on a clear night. Both free but priceless.
Try to find something else to lift your spirits, as I said buying the bedding will only give you a temporary lift and next time it might be a £2000 outfit, £20,000 on a car etc etc and it could spiral out of control.

have 300 thread count expensive bedding (birthday gift from lovely parents). It absolutely needs a fuck load of ironing to look beautiful! Even when I hang it on the line to dry, it’s gorgeous and I feel like a princess but you can get it less than 1k... dry cleaners all the way.

WOW! I thought I was a spendy lady, you've put me to shame.

Are they meant to last forever?

It's your decision, but I'd buy the 1,000 TC ones from Ebay. They're a dream