I know IBU to spend £1k but I'm depressed. Is it a justifiable IBU? Or unjustifiable?

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I'm thinking of spending £1k (slightly over that in fact) for a full set of new 300 thread count Yves Delorme bedding. It looks amazing and in my head will make my bedroom look like an interior designer has landed.

I'm feeling really depressed about all kinds of life shit issues at the moment.

I can afford it but not without thinking about it. I suppose what I'm saying is it won't put me in debt but it is a big spend for me and one I need to justify.

I feel like I have no happiness and some expensive luxiourous bedding might be a symbol of a fresh start and a clean out.

AIBU? Is it worth it? Or should I just by cheaper stuff? Or forget it all together?

‘Honestly I don't think it will make you feel as special as you'd hoped, I think you'll feel guilty about the cost and that will lead to further feelings of depression.’

Completely agree with @Insomnibrat, it could put more pressure on you to feel better (especially at such a cost) and make it all worse.

Ultimately, we’re dealing with an emotional hunger. Some people try to fill this with food, some with shopping, some with ‘wholesome life’ activities, high-risk activities, counselling, holidays, yoga.. your methods may vary, but I would encourage you to choose something that you absolutely definitely won’t regret for that amount of money. I find that investing in other people often brings a stronger and more dependable sense of well-being and self-esteem, but that doesn’t have to be in a monetary way. However you choose to help combat your depression and lift yourself, I wish you the very best.

Surely at an absolute minimum you'd have to buy two sets so you can have the same quality of bedlinen while the other set is being laundered? Absolutely buy good bedlinen. You spend 1/3 of your life in bed so make it as damn near perfect as you can. But you can achieve the same level of perfect for a lot less.

interestingly the two posts that leapt out at me (other than the one about unicorn bedding were:

Insomnibrat

For instance, I recently convinced myself I needed a saxophone. Bought one at great expense.

Can't bloody play it.

Are you having lessons?

&

NikiBabe

I think it is a symptom of the depression tbh.

I spent £195 on a necklace at my birthday when I was depressed. Now I wonder what the fuck I was thinking!

I made poor decisions when I was depressed and bought things thinking it would make me happy. It didnt.

Maybe you are right. It could be that the lovely so lovely Yves Delorme bedding is a bad depressed idea.

I'm even more confused than when I posted.

At least I spent £195 & not £1000.

Oops ignore the last line which was from Nikibabe's post.

for the MNers saying get a matress - I already have a supercomfy matress so I don't need a new one.

weirdly it;s the ironing stuff that is now deterring me - although the dry cleaners . . ..

I splashed out on an Yves Delorme duvet cover some years ago, not 1K though but quite a lot. I was so disappointed with it, it creased terribly after one night on the bed, and once it was washed it never had that lovely sheen to it again. It took a lot of ironing as someone mentioned. I'd say don't waste your money,

I know this thread isn't really about bedding but just to say op I bought a lovely Yves Delorme duvet set 13 years ago that I still love to this day. The quality is just gorgeous, does wrinkle but I don't mind the lived in look.

I do agree though, depression can provoke rash decisions. I think I'd spend some cash on a retreat to get away and have time to sort out your head.

Op what type of bedding do you have now? I’m investing in good bed linen as it makes such a difference to have good quality bedding. I refuse to have anything poly cotton now we have good cotton sheets. I sleep so much better. I would suggest shopping round as you might find something cheaper so you don’t question the spending.

Hope things improve for you soon

I absolutely get it, OP - I love top quality bed linen , it's such a treat, but really, 400 TC is the minimum to go for. I wash them all myself but send them to an ironing parlour and they come back beautifully smooth and crisp.
(John Lewis also does very high TC bed linen as well as the White Company. I have a 1000 TC bottom sheet from JL.)
But you do realise you have to have the white Siberian goose down pillows and duvets too? Totally worth it -- my bed is my sanctuary and slipping into beautiful satiny sheets with a light as air but wonderfully warm duvet makes me feel happy and that all's right with the world.

I think you know the bedding is just a quick fix but if you really must have some new stuff take a look on the Soak and Sleep website. My 600 count duvet cover has been used about twice because it looks a crumpled mess after one night even after being in a hot press thing. I use the pillow cases with 200 count sheets and duvet all in the same colour. How about using the cash to start saving for a holiday, a training course, something to look forward to.

Go to the website soak and sleep. Buy high quality bedding from there. It is the best bed linen I have found and considerably cheaper than YD. Does not need loads of ironing too. You could get yourself a marvellous new duvet and pair of pillows too.

I agree however that new bed linen is a good thing to treat yourself to.

Could you offer a pet a good home? I found my dog and cats hugely beneficial for my mood.

I had a similar reacion to depression. It was clothes rather than bed linen in my case but the end result is the same..................

When in my new clohes, and you in your new linen, it is still us. It is still the same brain with the same thoughts and the same issues.

Why not promise it to yourself in a years time? I wish I had done that because after a year I didnt need the clothes iykwim.

Hope you find a better therapist that can help you, it took me a while to find one that could help me.

@EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard
What brand was the bed linen you bought?

@haba yes, I got it last week - bought it online. It's white with grey stags on it because they amused me

They had other patterned ones. However if you're looking for plain I've had nice brushed cotton in dunelm before. I have peripheral neuropathy and brushed cotton is much kinder to my jangly nerves.

Bargainbedding . Co . Uk I think it is.

Hotel bedding that is terrific quality might have a teeny mark but generally invisible flaw and cheap as chips.

Don’t do it, it will not help you and you’ll be £1K worse off.

OP I do think the ironing is something to consider. We bought some lovely White Company cotton sheets in a quest to make our bed feel as much like a hotel as possible. I quickly realised that cotton crinkles like a bugger so matter how quickly you hang it up! The first time I did spend about an hour ironing it before I decided that life’s too short. The sheets are still fab without ironing but they definitely don’t look as lovely and hotel-like as they would.

I’ve heard of people putting the sheet on the bed and then just ironing it there, but I’m nervous about what that would do to the latex top on my mattress.

I’m a big believer in spending on things you’ll use and enjoy every day, so in principle I don’t think it’s that crazy to splash out on sheets (although even the nicest ones I’ve seen didn’t cost £1000) but you might come to hate them if they’re constantly crumpled

Thank you, Welsh!

Wow!!!! People spend 1k on bedding??????? I had NO idea!!!!!!! I would spend max £50, actually don't think I've ever spent more than £30 on a duvet! And around £3 to £6 for a fitted sheet!!!!

I live in another world!!! 🌎

... I don't even know what. "TC 2000" is ????? !!!! ..... where have I been??!

You could buy it and it will look beautiful,it will be lovely the first night you sleep in it but then what? Money won’t bring you happiness. It’s easy to get trapped into thinking that material things are going to help and people can get into a cycle of buying to make them feel better. I bought a sheet from M&S which is a 400 count and it feels amazing but without a big price. It was £30 for a single sheet. Look at the root of what is causing you to be feeling sad and possibly seek out some counselling. At the end of the day it’s your money and you can spend it as you wish!

Buy pure linen bedding from Ada and Ina.
Far more luxurious, no need to iron, effect fine.

How about a, cheaper, new set of bed linen and some beautiful decorative cushions to arrange on the bed?

Nothing beats good quality sleep, one of life's simple pleasures is to get in to a freshly made bed with new pyjamas, but I don't think they need to be £1k sheets.

Spend the rest on pampering yourself with massages, haircuts and frivolous stuff, sometimes life just needs a bit of tlc

Hi OP, has this just been a year of shitty things happening to you, and you feel like a one off spend will lift your spirits, and you normally have a frugal(ish) lifestyle? or do you have recurrent bouts of feeling sad?
I think if it's the former then sure splurge away, why not?
On the other hand if you get period bouts of sadness then i think the suggestion up thread of getting some therapy might be a good idea.
from what you have written, and the quotes you have picked out, makes me think this is more of an impulse buy and needing instant gratification, in which case it won't make you happy in the long run. Personally I'd get some post office bonds and sit on it for a while, whilst you decided what to do.