Friend of 20 years assaulted me

[Awomansworkisneverdone]

Absolutely gutted this has happened!
Me and my closest friend went out on a night out last night,the night started brilliantly! Few drinks,dancing the night away.
My friend noticed a old colleague if hers and a few of his friends and pretty much left me to it,at this point I wasn’t that bothered it was 1am and I was ready to go home. I told her I was heading home and do you want to taxi share, she said no going to stay here, I said I didn’t want to leave her there alone with all the men as they starting taunting her one put his lime from his glass down her cleavage. I told her I didn’t feel comfortable leaving her with all of them, she then said il go home with ** !! The colleague! She then said text “husband” tell him Iv gone home with you!
I refused to go along with it and left pretty angry!
She came down the road, staggering all over the place. I was flagging down a taxi. She walked up to me but fell back falling on her bum I picked her up linked her arm and tried to get her in the taxi!
She pulled her arm from me and slapped me hard in the face muttering something. I looked at her told her fine and left myself !
I burst into tears on the way home!
She’s never been aggressive towards me. Iv known her along time. She’s one of my closest friends.
I told my other half and he told me to wash my hands with her. I texted her this morning saying how much she hurt me and that I was worried about her and asked why she hit me.in that situation I would absolutely retaliate in defence but I couldn’t I was too upset and shocked. She replied saying she’s to fucking hungover to deal with this shit. AIBU to let this friendship go? I don’t know if I can forgive.

well rid indeed.

You made me feel like a prick I was not going to do anything with !

So she WAS aware of what she was doing, and she lashed out in anger at being thwarted. You wouldn't accept this level of violence from a stranger, so why should you accept it from a so-called friend? I too believe that she may have used you as an alibi previously without your knowledge.

Is this something you can overlook? I would struggle TBH, after the swearing, slapping, asking you to cover for her while she goes off with another man, and then minimising & making it all your fault. I would also bear in mind that we are often judged by the company that we keep. Perhaps you would be best looking for friends who DON'T abuse you in public.

I wonder what she's told her husband?

She does sound like a prick, but just to be sure... have you actually told her that she slapped you? She honestly may not remember this, and just have a hazy memory of arguing. "Lashed out" could mean verbally lashed out.

Whether she remembers or not, the fact is that she did it. She wouldn't get a second chance with me after that, that's for sure, but if you really are sad about losing such a long friendship, then I would make sure that she actually realises what she did.

Text ‘assaulting an old friend makes you a prick’

She so was going to do stuff with .
You called her on it.
She slapped you.
She remembers it all and is embarrassed so she's playing the amnesia pissed card.

She herself behave like a Prick... you're well shot Lady .. I'm sorry things took this turn ..

It's genuinely sad to me the amount of people who'd prefer to lose a long-standing friendship than say the word "sorry".

I agree that all you can do is walk away.

20 years sounds like a really long friendship, and normally I would argue that it's worth working on. However, you met when you were 5, have gone through teens together and grown up. People then change a lot in their twenties. I think it's when we really start to define who we are and who we want to be.

I think it's worth hanging onto the good memories, and moving on now. You are starting to become very different people and the friendship sounds as if it's over. She's not close to apologising, and is clearly not looking out for you.