Nearly 10yr old DS still believes in Santa

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DS is 10 in Jan and still totally believes in Father Christmas. I assume it might be the last one and he's still really sweet & innocent about it all.
But another parent said to me that it was ridiculous that he believes still and that her son had worked it out at age 7.
Aibu to be worried about it or just. E glad that he's still innocent and sweet!

Oh, meh. Not read the entire thread but I have a 10 year old and a 14 year old and they both want to put a mince pie and milk out for Santa this year.
I'm sure they don't believe or at least deep down are just humouring me as it's part of the Christmas magic.
I'm still a big Christmas kid and believe in the magic of Father Christmas.

Adults believe some fairly weird stuff too.

My bff of almost fifty years told me when we were seven. It didn't come as a huge shock, but Ma never forgave her. However, I still got (and gave) presents from Santa Claus until Pop died when I was 47-years-old. It will work out.

Just look at how many people believe organised religion and you have your answer.

I think most DC who "believe" after the age of 5/6 kind of choose to believe. They talk about places where children haven't enough to eat at school, and many cities collect gifts for those in the worst poverty. This has got to make it clear to a child that wants to think about it, that FC is not visiting these children.

But then the Christmas story is magical enough for me without any added extras: amidst abject poverty, family discord, tyrants and nationalists - God is with us.

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I would be very concerned about his lack of critical thinking skills.

Failure to think makes people open to being taken for a ride easily later in life.

So, for that reason I would be helping him to think it through for himself. I wouldn't tell him directly. Question gently until he engages his brain properly and has that light bulb moment.

DC still believed at this age. He had very good critical thinking skills and had in fact determined that it was indeed possible for FC to get around the world in the required time after allowing for the countries that celebrate on different dates (ie, gifts are given on different dates such as in Germany) , countries that don't celebrate Christmas etc. He also thought that if the sleigh was high enough above earth, the journey would take less time. All in all, he made a pretty good case in favour.
We chose to tell him aged 11 because I did not want him bullied over it when he went to secondary school.
His critical thinking skills later helped him with his physics degree and MSc.

DD was 10 in September and still believes. It's funny because she's intelligent and logical. I have no intention of stopping her.

They talk about places where children haven't enough to eat at school, and many cities collect gifts for those in the worst poverty. This has got to make it clear to a child that wants to think about it, that FC is not visiting these children.

This is what actually did it for me. I had worked it out that either Santa Claus was a fairly unpleasant fellow who only gave presents to children who were fairly comfortably off or he was not real. As a result, I really didn't push the myth with my own children and they knew by the time they were 6 or so that Santa Claus was not real.

I can't believe how many people are so very proud that they worked it out aged 5/6 my now 11 year old no longer believes but if he did I would have mentioned it before he started high school.
I certainly wouldn't be panicking about his critical thinking skills! @!

My son is 10 and recently admitted he’d known for a long time (worked it out for himself) but didn’t tell me. Think he was afraid of spoiling something?

At the same age, I had to tell my eldest DS there was no tooth fairy in case he was teased. This led to shock and then he said “next you’ll tell me Father Christmas isn’t real!” and I said, “sorry my love, he’s not”. I could tell he knew really! He took it well and was then happy as long as it meant he still got presents

I'm 36 and I still believe in Santa!

My dgs is just 11 and has an 8 year old brother. Both still believe but the 8 year old is suspicious. My dd thinks she’ll let them have this last year then make sure they know before dgs goes to high school. Dgs2 will be 9 in February so he won’t miss out many years. It is a magical time for children but like so many things they do grow out of it and few, if any, feel sad for long.

As long as he knows the truth by the time he's in secondary school then it's fine, I would probably make this his last Christmas with Santa if I was you.

Jesus this thread is depressing.

Isnt religion the same thing?

We moan that out children are going up too fast, yet we rush to tell them everthing we can of the real world.

Ds1 is 10 this week and as far as I know he still believes. He informed me a few months ago that he knew I was the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny and I didn't confirm or deny I just kind of joked about it as I wasn't sure what he really wanted me to say.

He has asked in previous years if Santa is real and I just said "what do you think?" And he has said he thinks he is. So I've left it.

I will tell him before he goes to secondary school but I don't think it will go down well.

Isn't religion the same thing?

I’d say it’s worse, how thick do you have to be to believe in a magical sky fairy? That’s a failure of critical thinking right there.

I'm always a bit when people claim their 10+ dc still believe. Do they not read at all? Loads of children's books refer to parents filling stockings. And what about newspapers? Television?

When my eldest was about 8 she heard DH and me discussing an incident at the local RC school where the priest had announced to the school that FC didn't exist. "Oh, you mean FC isn't real?" she asked, displaying truly abysmal acting skills. I pointed out that she knew perfectly well it was her dad and me, given that a Jacqueline Wilson book she'd read had spilled the beans. She grinned, and acknowledged that she and all her friends knew the truth (and some of those parents still insisted their dd believed).

My 13 year old knows but I have never admitted it. My dd is 10 and similar she keeps saying she has been told the parents do it.
I will never admit it to the kids even when they are 18 because basically as a family we bloody love the christmas magic so we all play along, it is all part if the fun

Believe what though? That a fat man in a read suit who lives in the north pole and has flying reindeer buys presents for everyone and brings them down every chimney all in one night. I would hope hes just pretending for you, I still do the whole father christmas thing with my little ones (3 and 4) but they know that I actually buy them the presents and the above isnt actually possible.

Jesus you sound like barrel of laughs

DS nearly 11 still believes in the tooth fairy

I recently was informed that a majority of the Icelandic population think that elves could possibly exist.

2 of my DDs still believed at 10 and so did my nephews and nieces. The thing is Santa only bought the stocking presents in our family. We actually all have stockings in our family although we are all adults. All my DDs still pretend to beleive and get excitef about Christmas. Obvoisly its all a game but Santa doesn't have to stop when a child srops beleiving.
At 9 I would let your DS go on beleiving don't bring it up unless he asks

My DD is 9 and very clever, logical etc but believes totally.

I have said that as long as you believe he comes, once you doubt it's game over. Hence he doesn't come to most adults.

It's true though really, isn't it?

I hope I have one more year.

We have the three kings here too, on the 6th Jan. I have said I don't believe in them. She does though. They put something small in her shoe!