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Nearly 10yr old DS still believes in Santa

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Happyhappyveggie · 22/10/2017 17:28

DS is 10 in Jan and still totally believes in Father Christmas. I assume it might be the last one and he's still really sweet & innocent about it all.
But another parent said to me that it was ridiculous that he believes still and that her son had worked it out at age 7.
Aibu to be worried about it or just. E glad that he's still innocent and sweet!

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ElizaDontlittle · 23/10/2017 10:07

Seneca it was a children's toy service that did it for my DD at not quite 5 - I got her to choose the toy she gave and it was something she really liked (one appeared for her on Christmas morning!) - and she realised that FC was not visiting these children. I wonder if those who 'believe' til 7+ avoid these sorts of opportunities and conversations?

Spikeyball · 23/10/2017 10:09

I sort of believed until the end of primary school but I had doubts from around age 7 because of hearing about poverty and famine and wondering why santa did nothing to help people in those situations.
I had much siblings so that was probably partly why I still wanted to believe.

Spikeyball · 23/10/2017 10:10

much younger siblings

Supermagicsmile · 23/10/2017 10:11

Lovely letter to share when the time is right (not mine!)

The letter:
Dear Lucy,
Thank you for your letter. You asked a very good question: “Are you Santa?”
I know you’ve wanted the answer to this question for a long time, and I’ve had to give it careful thought to know just what to say.
The answer is no. I am not Santa. There is no one Santa.
I am the person who fills your stockings with presents, though. I also choose and wrap the presents under the tree, the same way my mom did for me, and the same way her mom did for her. (And yes, Daddy helps, too.)
I imagine you will someday do this for your children, and I know you will love seeing them run down the stairs on Christmas morning. You will love seeing them sit under the tree, their small faces lit with Christmas lights.
This won’t make you Santa, though.
Santa is bigger than any person, and his work has gone on longer than any of us have lived. What he does is simple, but it is powerful. He teaches children how to have belief in something they can’t see or touch.
It’s a big job, and it’s an important one. Throughout your life, you will need this capacity to believe: in yourself, in your friends, in your talents and in your family. You’ll also need to believe in things you can’t measure or even hold in your hand. Here, I am talking about love, that great power that will light your life from the inside out, even during its darkest, coldest moments.
Santa is a teacher, and I have been his student, and now you know the secret of how he gets down all those chimneys on Christmas Eve: he has help from all the people whose hearts he’s filled with joy.
With full hearts, people like Daddy and me take our turns helping Santa do a job that would otherwise be impossible.
So, no. I am not Santa. Santa is love and magic and hope and happiness. I’m on his team, and now you are, too.
I love you and I always will.
Mama

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 23/10/2017 10:22

You want them to keep their sense of wonder and innocence for as long as possible.
I have no shame admitting I still believed in Santa until I was almost 13.
In fact I'd probably still believe in him now if I'd not seen my mum filling my stocking Grin

arethereanyleftatall · 23/10/2017 10:30

Super magic - I love that letter. I've copied and pasted and it's ready to go when I need it. Thank you.

ProfessorCat · 23/10/2017 12:14

Isn't religion the same thing?

No, it's worse. Much worse.

Grown adults are believing in something that doesn't exist, so much that some will kill for their beliefs.

I've never heard of any acts of terrorism in the name of Santa.

MrsHathaway · 23/10/2017 12:16

Religion is different because parents pushing FC don't actually believe he's real, whereas parents pushing religion do actually believe in what they're saying.

The Father Christmas thing is more like an atheist teacher in a church school having to present Bible stories as fact.

KH369 · 23/10/2017 12:22

I think let him have this Christmas if he's not even showing hints he's wavering on belief. But definitely tell him before school starts again next year, r he may find out the hard way. I have a step son this age and me and his dad have made the decision to not even mention Santa when it comes to Christmas as his older brother doesn't believe and I don't want my 2yo believing either (wait for hate) I'm one of those just be straight with your child type people, Christmas can still be magical without an imaginary fat man taking credit for your present buying skills!

debbs77 · 23/10/2017 15:09

My 13 year old, 11 year old and 10 year old all genuinely believe. And believe in the tooth fairy

SlightlyJaded · 23/10/2017 15:43

My DS, 10, believes 100%. DD 12(!), also believes. She asks me difficult questions and I don't lie, I evade, but she believes. I think, because she wants to. We live in London, she is year 8, bright as a button, academic, streeetwise, fashion aware, watches ridiculous YouTubers, likes Hip Hop BUT SHE BELIEVES. So do most of her friends.

At her school the debating society had a session on 'Santa: Real or Mythical' and she had to be on the side of 'not real'. And she STILL believes.

It's bizarre really. In all other areas she thinks practically/scientifically but Father Christmas is the exception.

tellitlikeitispls · 23/10/2017 15:48

My 10 year old is doesn't believe in santa, but he got pretty upset when the 'tooth fairy' didn't remember to collect his molar last month...

septembersunshine · 23/10/2017 16:36

We told my dd, 11, before she started secondary this September. She still believed and was totally shocked. She is now our 'helper' and enjoying keeping the magic alive with me and my dh for her three younger siblings! She is going to help me wrap too and enjoying the whole thing in a different way.

SenecaFalls · 23/10/2017 16:40

All these children who are still believing at 10, 11, 12, and 13, how did they avoid other children telling them the truth? Or did other children tell them the truth and they just not believe it?

Tilapia · 23/10/2017 16:46

SenecaFalls - yes, my DS had heard from other children that Santa wasn't real, but he thought that they were wrong. I think he thought it was a bit like God - some people believe in him, some don't, it's your choice and either way is OK.

Kittymum03 · 23/10/2017 18:17

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krustykittens · 23/10/2017 18:23

I think it is lovely. Some kids hang onto the belief for a long, long time because it is such a lovely thing to believe in. I'd let him crack on. I like to believe in magic too, like if I tried really, really hard, I could be a size 10 again! Grin

midnightmisssuki · 23/10/2017 18:29

sharklovers unnecessarily rude - hope you feel better after saying that.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 23/10/2017 18:29

My dd is nine and definitely on to it, but is still struggling to convince herself and just about winning.
I’m not bothered by that.
“Critical thinking skills” got a derisive snort (we need an emoticon for that - a big sneery nose?)

why12345 · 23/10/2017 18:30

Why would anyone sit their child down to tell them the "truth" about Christmas? Let them decide on their own. They have got far to many grown up years ahead of them let them be little ffs!!

🎅🏻 ❤️

Thirtyrock39 · 23/10/2017 18:36

I got into Trouble last year for Asking my friends year 7 (age 12) daughter if she still believed as her mum didn't want her even to question it - I'd assumed she would def not believe but now I have my own secondary school age kid who has never questioned Santa or the tooth fairy or Easter bunny !! My parents told me when I was 8 and it ruined Christmas for me

SenecaFalls · 23/10/2017 18:46

Why would anyone sit their child down to tell them the "truth" about Christmas?

Well, I certainly would if they were still believing at high school age.

ForalltheSaints · 23/10/2017 18:47

Unusual but nothing wrong in my opinion. Adults believe far worse things.

overloadedwithchocolatecake · 23/10/2017 18:57

Aaaah super magic that's lovely - 😢 Halloween Smile

VodkaLimeSodaIce · 23/10/2017 19:33

My 8 year old decided this year that “Santa’s a bit like Amazon mum. You order the stuff from him and mum’s and dads pay for it” ‘Twas one of the very few times I was lost for words!!! 😂😂

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