Am I a CF?

[CurlyWurlyHairCoveredChocolate]

Situation is this: I need a new slow cooker. The one I have just about feeds all 3 of us (me, DH and DD) but as DD is getting older and a bigger appetite it won't do.

My DM said she'd buy me one for Christmas, I enquired about budget and once I knew the budget started searching.

I've absolutely fallen in love with one, and sent the link to my DM. It's £20 under her suggested budget which means she'll probably buy a few extra small presents for DD, is larger than the one I have and has things like a delay timer which will be useful when I need to get DD to appointments and want it ready for when we get home. I thought it was a bargain.

When I sent it to my DM I said if she did buy that one could I have it in Silver so it matched the rest of the appliances in my kitchen. DM has not said if she's getting me that one and I will have to wait until Christmas Eve in my family we do extended family presents on Christmas Eve so the actual day is spent with immediate family to find out if I get the one I want or she might find a similar/different model. Knowing my DM she'll buy it me, as she'd much rather get me/DBro what we want for Christmas as a main present as we're adults now.

DH has just said i'm a cheeky fucker for asking for something specific and telling her what colour I want. He said I should of let my mum have the joy of picking me one and choosing the colour, in fact I was UR to even say I wanted a Slow Cooker as it's up to my mum what she wants to buy me.

So AIBU and a CFer? Or DH just a joy sucker because PIL don't bother with big presents for DH anymore - he gets a book and a DVD and that's it, they do spend a lot on DD though.

[Troels]

Not Cheeky, I make my grown up Ds's send me actual links to things they want for Christmas and Birthdays, not much point buying something thats not the right one.

[Peridot1]

How weird MagentaRocks. Had Nannybeach posted when you looked?

I’ll report it and see what MN say. Very strange to trend zombie threads.

[deepsea]

Not cheeky in the least.

Different families have different styles at christmas, I don't really think it is for your dh to say what is right or wrong between you and your mum though!!! Bloody cheek.

I would always much prefer to buy someone something they like including the colour! A slow cooker has it limits in terms of joy though unless you have a VERY boring life :)

[ohhelloitsyou]

I absolutely cannot stand people who don't give me any idea of what they want for presents. Wish lists are my best friend.
I hate the idea that I have to go out and search for something without so much as a hint of what to get people and wonder if I'm making some sort of faux pas or if I'm wasting my money because they won't need or like the present.
I think we should all have amazon wish lists at all times in case someone decides to buy you something. That way, the buyer has a selection to choose from (in a variety of price brackets) whilst knowing the recipient will actually be grateful to receive it.

[JustTheLemons]

This is 100% about dynamics.

My mum hates lists, and has been known to not buy something she was planning on getting if someone requests it later- which to me is bizarre!

Meanwhile, my MIL is totally reliant on my amazon wish list, and last year messaged my OH in November asking him to give me a prod and update my list as it was looking a bit sparse and she didn’t know what to get.

Horses for courses! Just tell your OH it’s how your family works and to hush up!

[TawnyTeal]

@Peridot1
This is the 3rd zombie thread I've seen now that was trending without new posts....

[BloodyDisgrace]

I think a specific colour is somewhat pushing the luck too far. It's not clothes, just some kitchen appliance, so I personally would have not minded not matching colour. It's what it does which matters.

I don't like CF term so wouldn't use it, but I do think it's a bit unrealistic/unreasonable.

[KindergartenKop]

Yabu you should have chosen a 'sear n stew' because there is less washing up.

[MeMeMeow85]

Not at all cheeky. Totally sensible. I write a Christmas list with links/sizes/colours and email it to DH for him to buy for me. We’re both happy then.

My PILs always buy us the most pointless, unwanted gifts that I mostly return for store credit where possible. They never want any suggestions, as they like buying “surprises”. We were at their house last Christmas, they bought DC1 a massive box of train tracks...without remembering to buy any trains to go with it. Obviously a 2 year old loves that 😂