to find it sad that women talk about their DH’a achievements like they are their own

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On all these “how much do you earn” threads I find it sad to see so many women who gave up careers of a lot of money to be a SAHM and talk proudly about their DH’s income as if it’s their achievement. I wonder why it’s always the woman who cares for the children and how so many woman can decide to give up work leaving them in such a vulnerable position if the husband leaves them.

horseshit, even

sunandmoonshine and ftw you SO get me

What a load of hosrsehit this thread is

Yep.

I'll tell you what's horse shit - if my plane takes off in the next hour or two, I will wake up with a hangover while still three hours from Heathrow.

Now that's tragic.

mistress I posted before I read your post, but you’re inspirational!

Poor Carl. At least you are in the lounge. It could be worse (try being trapped in Madrid airport when easyJet falls over with nothing more than a three euro voucher, as happened to me recently)

I always figured barristers would be rather un-judgemental considering what they do. I must be wrong. I feel sorry for you having your head stuck so far up your arse tbh

In no universe does a barrister on £100k give a flying fuck about an obvious piss take response on a Mumsnet thread. And in no universe would someone who's paid £100k to argue cases whether they believe them or not be unable to "understand" why some women choose to be SAHMs.

This thread is just a turd that keeps on giving.

I also think it might be a generational thing. My friends and I were born in the 80s & 90% of us work part time out of choice (2 are SAH & 1 works f/t) even though 90% of us grew up (London) with our mothers at home.

I once spent a night on the floor of Athens airport

No shops open because of a strike

I felt pretty sorry for myself, I can tell you

karlos it is a very little lounge. Though that hasn't stopped me eating and drinking everything in it.

DH has ventured out into the public area and says it's like chucking out time on a Friday night in Doncaster.

I last spent the night in an airport before I gave up the high-flying job to be a high-flying SAHM. I do not miss airports one bit.

I think it’s also a geographical thing. I’m from Merseyside and all my school mates have careers. I didn’t really believe stay at home mothers still existed til I moved to the Home Counties - I’m very much the exception here. Probably something to do with salaries - not so many high paying jobs up north

ftw I love what you did with the thread there. This makes you a high-flying mnetter too.

Ah the deathbed reminiscing. Well if I’m about to croak it I’ll be proud of a career I enjoyed. I’ll not feel I missed out because I worked.not at all
I’ll be proud of my dc and that they are happy,well rounded people. I consider myself fortunate that I like my career.it suits me

I find your comments incredibly patronising OP. I gave up my career as my DH has to be away from home much of the time and we both felt that there was no point in having a child if it was going to be brought up by a nanny.

My children have benefitted hugely from having me at home, both to attend events at school with them but also to be able to not be in a constant state of rushing around, trying to fit in far too much. We have a very relaxed life, and I do not feel that I need to "achieve" anything other than enjoy my life.

Not everyone feels the need to prove who they are by the job they do.

News flash jezza - working mums go to school events too! And so do working dads! V damaging for a father to offload all that to mum and not go themselves. Parenthood should be a shared project, wherever possible (recognising there may be very good reasons why that’s not desirable in some cases).

@curiositykilledthrcat seriously? Why even have children of you don't want to raise them yourself?

I am lazy

What da fuck does it have to do with anyone else but my husband and i

I'm boarding!!!

Crawls to gate...

This thread is just a turd that keeps on giving.

This can't be said enough. And from all sides.

DH is the most honest and moral person I have ever met.

What's your speciality op and how many years since you were called?

Congratulations!! I’d keep drinking if I were you, delay the reckoning as long as possible

Why even have children of you don't want to raise them yourself? - Hmm, I don't know, have the SAHMs of those high-flying, never at home DHs asked their husbands this question?

Hmm, I don't know, have the SAHMs of those high-flying, never at home DHs asked their husbands this question?
I don't think this is necessarily the case though. Successful doesn't always mean working all hours. For us it was more inconvenient hours and trips. However once the crunch period was over he had time to spend with DD.