Or is my MIL?

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MIL just rang DH to say his younger brother has missed his last train to be able to get home from uni for the weekend....could he go get him? This would be a 4 hour round trip for DH who has just got in from work. DH said he would talk to me and ring her back. I said it is a ridiculous request and at 19 his brother can sort himself out!! DH agreed with me and rang MIL back but she's making him feel guilty and trying to persuade him. Are we being unreasonable?!

Why can’t she get him?

MIL is BU.

DARLING 19yo needs to wear a watch.

If he missed the train can’t he just get one in the morning?

She doesn't drive

Taxi?

Is he coming home for an event (wedding, family party), or just because he fancies a weekend being cooked for/ having his laundry done?

He can get a train in the morning then. How ridiculous to expect your DH to go!

She is being ridiculous.

I'd go. But is he a decent bloke or an immature entitled ass?

bil can book himself onto the next available train/megabus/national express....or if he checks the car sharing apps - he might even get a lift from his doorstep!

Where is he travelling from op?
Last train at 8pm? Hmm......not sure i believe that.....

Little bro can get his ass up early tomorrow morning and get the first train. It's an unreasonable request

The last train isn't at 8pm but the last one for him to make his connection is apparently. He is working tomorrow in home town but not until 10am and I've checked... there's a 6am train that would get him here in time. MIL says that's unfair to make him get up at 5.30am.

First train in the morning, not much difference really. Or see if he can get there by train if he takes some different connections instead of a direct train. Or see if the coach station is running a coach overnight. 19yr old's problem, not dh's. I used to get myself several hundred miles via various means from uni aged 18 without any problem, it's not rocket science!

Get the next train to halfway and you do pick him up from where he should have met the connection

Cross posted... not fair to get up at 5.30 to catch the train he wants to get....

OFFS.

He'll live, and she can change his nappy when he gets there.

YANBU it's a lesson learnt for BIL. We've all got to get up early sometimes, he will be more mindful next time.

Haha change his nappy!!

So funny, because DH is not a mummy's boy at all but I've noticed how much she babies his siblings.

PP asked if brother was a decent bloke or a entitled twat...neither, more like an incompetent child.

He can get the 5.30 train. It’s not fair? He missed the train himself! It’s not fair your husband has to drive 4 hours!!

Is there any other train he could get in your direction that DH could meet him half way?

It’s not ideal to have to do a 4 hour round trip on a Friday night but sometimes it’s nice to be nice, unless obviously the brother is always asking for favours.

If MIL can't be bothered to get him herslef, then the idiot who can't tell time spends the weekend at school, end of.

Not your problem. Not your DH's problem. His brother needs to grow up and your MIL needs to get over herself and stop babying him.

If he's old enough to be away at school, he can get his arse out of bed at 5:30 to catch the train. He's only in this predicament because he didn't get to his actual train on time. Again, not your problem.

I'd turn off my phone at this point.

If he got the next train-how close could he get to you?

Why didn't he phone himself?

ould the other siblings help?

That said-6am train if none of the above.

We have just looked up train times and other options. He could get a train at 9.15 which will get him to a station about 45 mins away from us. DH is on the phone to MIL suggesting this now. I'm pretty annoyed he's given in to be honest.

Sometimes a lesson needs to be learned. Let him get up at 5.30, it won't kill him, if it puts him out, he'll maybe think twice, and get a move on next time. Cosseting him, will not help.

Darling Mummy needs to learn her "little boy" has got to be responsible. He knew he had to work the next day, so he should have gotten his ass to the train. Your husband driving for FOUR hours in this particular instance is completely ridiculous.