Asking DH to get up to check out downstairs

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I haven't done this in a while, but did it last night at 3:15.
Something woke me up, I'm not sure what but I was suddenly wide awake and on alert.

It almost sounded like a light switch.
I got up to see if my dining room light (leads to the stairs) was on - it wasn't.
Then I noticed my cat was on my DD bed so I booted him off.
So he buggered off downstairs, but then he meowed. And I'm sure I heard him do another noise.

All of this around DH snoring which always makes my anxiety worse.
My anxiety is also slightly higher at the moment as I'm coming off epilepsy tablets which can be used to help with anxiety, bipolar and a few other things.. although I only used them for epilepsy.
Whenever I'm pregnant (I am now) I always have more irrational fears of being broken into, no idea why!

I already freak out about noises during the night, it's the one thing I'm petrified of and he knows it. I've had reoccurring dreams about it, where I can't scream. Somebody once tried to get into my mums sliding door when I was asleep in the room next to it. Luckily I had DH sleeping over that night so he was there with me.

So at 3:30 I woke DH up and asked him to investigate. He said no.
I said "but you're the man and I'm scared.. please"
He said no again.
I said "I guess I'm up now then"
After a couple of minutes he got up and said "fucking dickhead" then went downstairs

He was down there for a while - so I'm thinking maybe he had a cigarette and I heard him go in the fridge. So he can't have been too bothered by getting up.
I also apologised when he came back to bed.

But AIBU waking him up because I'm scared? Should I have investigated myself?
I'm not happy that he called me a fucking dickhead so I will have words about that.

OP you do not need to defend yourself to Andrew et al on this issue. Take no notice of people feigning shock about the idea that most men would protect their family in a burglar- type scenario. Firstly, it's not really likely to be a female intruder, is it? Secondly, if physical size / strength doesn't matter, then why don't we all just send the kids down to confront burglars?

I hope you have had strong words with your DH about the name he called you. One of our cats wakes me up at 4am nearly every night, but I have never called him a f** dickhead. Similarly, I had 6 years of getting up most nights with babies - did I ever feel the need to talk to them that way? Or insult DH while I was at it? No I did not.

If the cat brings a mouse in or if I think there is a burglar then I would not hesitate to wake DH up and he has never moaned or insulted me. I would be livid, sorry. I do hope he has apologised big time for crossing that line.

In my opinion, the man is the protector of the family.

YABU for all of it, but especially this.

If you’re grown up enough to be a parent, surely you can see that it’s not reasonable to wake someone else up in the middle of the night because you’re a bit scared? Either go and investigate yourself or try to go back to sleep.

So basically I should spend over an hour listening for a noise that isn’t there, and struggling to get back to sleep because every time I do drift off - DH snoring jolts me awake and I’m back on edge like a meerkat?

Baring in mind I have to get up with our children at 7. Or whenever they wake up.

Rather than disturb him for 5 minutes rarely when he doesn’t have to get up for another 6 hours?
If he was so pissed off with me, then he wouldn’t stay awake until I’m asleep again (his choice). Surely he would huff back upstairs, get into bed and sleep with his back to me?!