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Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

I’m a pretty forgiving person up until a point, and once someone has crossed a line then that’s it. IMO F1 has crossed that line, not because of the CF volunteering your services, but the way she reacted to you afterwards, shouting at you at work and posting on FB. Your friendship will never be the same, on either side

If it was me I would respond to the text with this “Can't believe a friend I would have once trusted with my life, would stab me in the back like you have done. Always been there for you, never done you wrong and always had your back. After yesterday you're dead to me."

WeeMadArthur has nailed it!

Of course a dignified ignore would be the way go but we can all dream about what panda should say to her and what she bloody deserves.

Ok a text along these lines maybe

I feel very upset by what you have said and done. I feel you don't fully understand how these actions have been harmful personally and professionally.

Know that I'm not trying to hurt your feelings.
I think we need more time to think about events.
I care about you and I want to continue being friends.

On another note don't avoid expressing how you feel for the sake of preserving a friendship that has run its course.

Well done op. You’ve done great!

I’d probably text nothing back. Or text ‘You volunteered my services without my permission, then refuse to take responsibility or resolve things, then verbally attack me instead of apologising. Theres been too much water under the bridge TBF.

Have you decided what you will say?. I think as just said upthread, something like apology accepted is pretty good. It is a refusal of acknowledgement of your part in the situation and gives her no fodder.

Her response is something. Could never forget, even if you move on, you know what she is capable of. She was in the wrong only, it backfired on her. She is not offering up a sincere apology trying to blame you.

I might just write her an email mail of how her behaviour made you feel. How you don't volunteer services, unless you ask the person first. That is why you were not happy.

She laid into Panda last night called her every name under the sun and reduced her to tears and wrote that vile fb status about her and you want panda to stay friends with her?

After her reaction things cod never be the same again. I wpd think that much less of her all the time.

Agree with silence being a perfect response.

She's clearly trying to save face and is in denial about what she's done. Give her some time and space to reflect on it.

In a week or so, you'll have a lot more clarity about this situation and the way forward - whether you are willing to let this slide for the sake of the friendship or if this is the signal to part ways.

I havent responded no. The immature side of me is to use the suggestion from a pp " sorry I cant im dead " 😂😂 But dont think it would be wise to add fuel to the fire.

I dont think I can find the words too respond.

She doesn't give a shit about Panda.
She is just trying to save face as she knows the whole school will be talking about her by now.

I agree with the other posters saying just reply with her Facebook status that she posted about you last night then block her

F1 is delusional and trying to deflect and minimise her atrocious behaviour. Drop her status from close knit friend to acquaintance and be wary from now on. When you're ready to forgive, tell her that she's paying full price from now on. :P

Personally I wouldnt be interested in saving the relationship with such a horrible person

You don't owe her a response. You don't owe her anything.

I have to admit, to a certain point I was inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt, if she really was such a longstanding, good friend and usually nice person. She might not have realised how expensive a cut and colour is, she may have assumed you wouldn't mind since you all give each other little gifts and sometimes do her hair and so on, she may have just made a series of silly assumptions. Still wrong, but silly rather than malicious.

But she had the option to set it all right with £15 and an apology, and when she rejected that, she showed what your friendship is worth to her. That was the point when I personally felt we did have the measure of her.

I think f1 underestimated the support YOU would receive from your joint friends! She does not for one minute regret her behaviour, she can't even bring herself to apologise! This is her attempt at making herself seem the reasonable one! So that she can go crying to your joint friends that she has tried and you are not prepared to put it behind you!

F1 is being very manipulative! Contact your other friends! Let them see that she hasn't even apologised for her abuse of you yesterday! Tell them how hurt you are and that after the way she behaved you can't consider forgiving f1 without a genuine apology. And that her cruel words on fb cut hard and you are not sure you can get past it.

Remember you have done nothing wrong!! To accept her proposal would be to accept blame!

This👌

I would not reply and block her.

I'd remove myself from the situation for a while. Long-term it may be best to become superficially friendly for social reasons - for the sake of joint friends and future occasions you may both be invited to.

Lapdance - that's the thing though, the only people I know who have ever had an updo have had them done in connection with weddings!

Missing the fucking point...

Lapdance - that's the thing though, the only people I know who have ever had an updo have had them done in connection with weddings!

Another saying don't respond. That will annoy her more than anything. She's made her bed. Consequences and all that. Ignore her permanently and move on.

Panda. What do your other friends say after the last text from F1? It's a balance. She is out of order but part of one of your friendship groups.

You are so lovely, I would totally send a message like the voice mail thingies
"I'm sorry Kung can't answer your fuckery, she's dead to you, feel free to leave a message of condolences"

I'd say nothing at all

And wait