Hairzilla.

[KungFuPandaWorksOut16]

The next thread...

Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

So, she can now say that she tried to be friends again & blame you if that doesn't happen.

I'd be tempted to ignore.

If she had "got it" she would have apologised long before now & wouldn't also be blaming you.

You were both in the wrong?

You have done nothing wrong. Like fuck should you put it behind you.

I think you say ‘I’m willing to move on from this too provided you give a heartfelt apology for your actions and promise never to offer my services to anyone for free again’

No no no she's completely in the wrong both in what she did and how she's behaved since

Both in the wrong
Fuck right off

She gave something away that she did not own.....theft.

You helped her to save face (and did not, as was your right, accuse her of theft).

She really is a CF.

I'd text back.

"I completely agree with everything you said apart from the bit about us both being in the wrong. It was just you."

My arse, you were both in the wrong. Disgraceful baggage.

Do you want to keep things open between you - if you do, you could just say what you just said. Otherwise, I don't think any reasonable person would blame you for just binning her off.

Also, fwiw, i'd not be trying to have this exchange via text unless I was certain I just wanted to severe the friendship.
To be clear, I'm not commenting on what you should want with regard to your relationship, just that it's helpful, ime, to have your wishes in mind before embarking on such a discourse

I couldn't forgive her. I wouldn't reply, and would block her number now.

If you accept her non apology, it shows her that she can treat you really badly, blame you and get away with it.

She's not a friend, she's only doing this for her own advantage. Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

In circumstances like this, I think the best course of action is no action.

A friendly/polite response just encourages CF to carry on being a CF. A colder response risks the whole thing kicking off again. CF has shown no remorse and nor will she. Maybe the crocodile tears will come eventually if she doesn't get her way with Kung but it will all be an act. She's shown her true colours throughout this episode. She's no friend and doesn't deserve to be treated like one.

I wouldn't want a friend like this back in my life.

She wished you dead - and your friendship is worth less than £15 to her.

No thanks.

Just make sure CF's name isn't on the flyer as having donated the prize.

Gosh this woman has more front than Anyone I have ever come across.
I couldn’t forgive and forget. It would be the end of the friendship for me but then I’m not renown for being forgiving when people try to screw me over.
It is hard because you share friends although I’m guessing they have had their eyes opened wide for them with her behaviour. Good luck KungFu!

She wants her hair done...

She didn't wish her dead

TBH, from what I've heard here I don't think CF is the sort of person I would be keen on associating with and not someone I would choose as a friend. But that's not the point, it's not my relationship. It's for Kungfupanda to choose her own friends one way or the other

‘You gave away my time and professional experience like it was nothing, without asking. You didn’t check if this was something I could afford and you risked the reputation of my buissness that I have worked hard to build! I have tried to handle this as best I can but I am very upset by this and the horrible way you have treated me since. I don’t think I’m in the wrong and until you are ready to talk about this like adults I think it’s best you don’t contact me again’

Obviously only do the last line if you are happy for no contact but I can’t see what you get out of this friendship!

I agree! I also wish that I could tell her to just fuck off and leave you alone, she has caused so much unnecessary unhappiness.

Shameless placemarking.
FWIW OP I think you’ve done the right thing. An apology from here and I'd be inclined to leave things to settle and over time hopefully the relationship will mend.

Only you know if you want to salvage the relationship and give her the opportunity to talk things through so that she can see the error of her ways. BUT she did compound it all further by her awful FB comment as well. Perhaps you need to just reflect over the weekend as to whether you want to see if it's salvageable or not. Let the heat go out of it all for a while and then see how you feel. Or if you prefer comment back what you said in your last post if you would prefer to deal with it now.

Her not here

Have you spoken to your other friends in the group? What do they think?

I think that's normally quite telling as obviously they're aware of her and what she's like too.

Would she really be repentant? (But just stubbornly unable to apologise) or would this just be a sign for her that she can get away with all her cheeky fuckery?

What a twat. This isn’t something that can be washed off via text message! And you certainly have nothing to apologise for!

I'd reply as follows:

"You appear to have sent this message to me in error."

I think tinygirlsmum has it...

OP, you've handled it well in my opinion. Some regular posters seem determined to piss on other posters' chips, so I waste energy defending yourself to them. I suspect F1 has just realised how much a cut & colour would cost her if she had to pay full price in another salon, rather than any genuine concern for the loss of friendship. It's always about what's in it for her going by every response she's made.
I'd ignore and block her for now.
I'm also a hairdresser and rarely do mates rates unless in return for something important (such as friend dropping everything to drive me to hospital over an hour away for emergency IV drip).
Otherwise, you need to view it as friend helping themselves to your bank card and taking cash from your account.
Being re-imbursed by bottle of wine or chocolates doesn't pay the bills or feed the family, so I rarely do discounts.
I'm also wondering where you live OP because £45 for a cut and colour is a bargain basement price in this neck of the woods. I'd be looking to charge at least £80.