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Hairzilla.

999 replies

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 19/10/2017 16:52

The next thread...

Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

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MintyChops · 20/10/2017 18:18

Bloody hell, she is unbelievable. You don't need to reply yet (or ever), give yourself time to think about whether you want to give her another chance or not. You've had some good suggestions, my favourites are Gin's if you decide you want no more to do with her or Purple's if you are prepared to allow her to try to make amends.

She actually sounds so deluded I wonder if she is quite well?

keeponworking · 20/10/2017 18:20

I wouldn't respond OP if only for the reason of the appalling grammar!

For all of those saying 'oh it's such a massive overreaction and such a massive fuss about what was really nothing so big' - the ONLY reason it turned into a mega drama is because of F1 had such massive brass neck and forced OP into having to deal with her in yet more 'extreme' not actually extreme ways in order to just stand her ground. Jeez.

HughLauriesStubble · 20/10/2017 18:22

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qazxc · 20/10/2017 18:24

I wouldn't answer for a while, let her stew a bit.

HeebieJeebies456 · 20/10/2017 18:24

I cant brush over what she said last night or the facebook status and pretend it never happened without a sincere talk and apology.

You're never going to get a sincere apology from her......at best you will get a fake one so she can carry on using you for her own benefit.

You're still intent on NOT making a formal complaint about her behaviour as a representative of the PTA, well more fool you.
I can already tell that this woman will be badmouthing your business to everyone because her ego has been battered and she feels you need to 'pay' for that.
Don't be surprised if at some point soon you get a 'difficult customer' who makes a complaint against YOU/refuses to pay up.

Even if you pretended to smooth things over with her, she is nasty and calculating enough to still make you/your business suffer in revenge.

qazxc · 20/10/2017 18:25

And the tell her to take long walk off a short pier.

Scrumptiousbears · 20/10/2017 18:25

F1 is realising she’s been a big twat and rather than admit it, she’s still trying to save face.

HughLauriesStubble · 20/10/2017 18:27

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BewareOfDragons · 20/10/2017 18:27

"I have done nothing wrong. If you can't see that, and aren't willing to explain and sincerely apologize for your shocking actions and accusations, then we have nothing to discuss."

Mia184 · 20/10/2017 18:28

I agree with Scrumptious - F1 knows that everyone is on your side and this is her attempt to limit the damage.

TemptressofWaikiki · 20/10/2017 18:31

If it were me, I would not respond. F1 has gone too far. Her vile abuse and subsequent FB post in which she painted herself as the victim and exclaimed this friend was dead to her, crossed a line from which I would not want to go back to like nothing has happened. Some friendships have an expiry date when one party is disrespectful and abusive. There is no point to allow this former so-called friend to continue their bad behaviour. Life is stressful enough without adding unnecessary drama of the likes of F1. Don’t waste more time and energy on someone so deluded and blinkered. If you start putting firm boundaries into place, your life will be become easier going forward. F1 is just going to continue to behave in a hurtful and manipulative manner towards you until you shut it down completely. Don’t let her force you into answering or explaining yourself. It won’t stop, she will want to have the last word and try to bully you till you give in.

RhiannonOHara · 20/10/2017 18:31

Last night got out of hand, we was both in the wrong. Im willing to put it all behind me if you are.

Hahahahahaha.

I'd either not reply at all, or say 'I was not in the wrong.'

GabsAlot · 20/10/2017 18:36

what a weird woman

we were both in the wrong? so everyons cottoned on to her cfuckery an thats her aplogising?

its your friend king would you miss her or have you had enough

GabsAlot · 20/10/2017 18:37

or even better-

I cant im dead"

PoorYorick · 20/10/2017 18:39

I cant im dead"

Oh that is sublime.

Willow2017 · 20/10/2017 18:41

Panda
A few txt options for you

"Get ti fuck"
"You are having a laugh?"
"WTF
"Sorry panda cannot reply she is dead"
"ODFOD"
"Are you on glue" a classic 😉
"Fottfsofatfosm"

All work equally well in her case.

Fudgefase · 20/10/2017 18:41

Me too. I saw the original but don't know what happened when KFP went to the PTA. It's like the dog chewed the middle pages of the thriller away...

BriechonCheese · 20/10/2017 18:42

"As per your wishes
👻, RIP me."

But in reality I would never reply to her.

BalloonSlayer · 20/10/2017 18:43

My suggested reply would be more blunt.

No, YOU got out of hand and YOU are solely to blame. Your offering of an expensive service of mine without my knowledge or consent was tantamount to coming into my salon and helping yourself to the contents of my till. I have no doubt you ARE "willing to move on" - I expect you want your embarrassing and outrageous behaviour forgotten as soon as possible. But without a genuine acknowledgement of just how badly you, and ONLY you, have fucked up, and a sincere apology, that's unlikely to happen

LexieLulu · 20/10/2017 18:45

Text back "still no apology? You owe me two now, one for what you originally did and one for how you spoke to me last night"

"Oh and maybe a third for wishing me dead"

FlyingJellyfishInTheAttic · 20/10/2017 18:46

OP have been following both threads. Take time to decide what to reply if anything.

I know it must be tempting but don't say anything F1 can turn against you to make you look like the bad guy/ unprofessional or anything.

Sometimes silence is the strongest response.

If you do want to reply I would try and do so factually.

Hope you are ok.

HelenUrth · 20/10/2017 18:48

Be very very careful here!!

I suspect she sent that message expecting you to give her the (piss off bitch) reply she deserves.

She'll then go whinging to everyone that she held out an olive branch but you threw it back in her face, making you look like the bad one.

I'd be tempted to reply with your words -
"I accept your apology"

Understandably you would then give her a wide berth in future but she has no ammunition against you.

Willow2017 · 20/10/2017 18:48

She isnt apologisibg for anything.
She is out to minimise the whoke thing to save herself she doesnt care about panda a bit. She just wants het to take some of the blame so she can tell everyone panda is ok with it all and they are friends again.

Cupoteap · 20/10/2017 18:49

Best course is to ignore

Willow2017 · 20/10/2017 18:51

OMG this website is jumping all over the place.

Sorry for spelling couldn't change it as it decided to jump and i pressed post by accident

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