Hairzilla.

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Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

Ignore and block.

Tempting as it would be to cut and paste her fb status followed by a row of ???????

Last night got out of hand, we was both in the wrong. Im willing to put it all behind me if you are

Thats quite shocking. She's trying to minimise the whole thing.

I think I would just say no, we weren't both in the wrong and your text shows thats something you'll ever understand. I wish you absolutely no ill will whatsoever but things will never be the same between us again.

You have been assertive and dignified OP. I guess your next steps depend on whether you want to retain any contact with her ( this is a lifeling friendship after all ) and if so, at what level.

Personally I wouldn't reply, but there are issues with the wider friendship group to consider.

You might ask her what she thinks you did that was wrong, but that would just inflame everything again.

Perhaps you could tell her that you are still upset over the way she treated you and the way she spoke to you. Although you agree that you both need to move on, it will be some time until you feel ready to meet/ socialise with her again

Wow. So she hasn't even apologised, just wants to ignore that it all happened?

Oh and I wouldn't be asking for a talk or and apology. She wants dialogue. Dont give it to her.

- I thought you were dead to her?

I'd take that personally! And never touch her again.

Your post is what you could reply to her text, send her your second sentence (obs change the wording so it works)

I honestly don't know what to say to that.

Kung - you're a lovely person. And the fact that this is not the first cf you've had to deal with suggests your kind and caring nature. But yes it would really grate on me that after bringing me to tears after ranting at me she can't bring herself to apologise

Is she normally like this? Has anything like this happened before?! Can she take blame for things?

Take care

Is she on fucking glue????

I like this:

I think I would just say no, we weren't both in the wrong and your text shows thats something you'll ever understand. I wish you absolutely no ill will whatsoever but things will never be the same between us again

But I'd change it slightly, to:

No, we weren't both in the wrong and your text shows thats something you'll ever understand. I wish you absolutely no ill will whatsoever but unless you are prepared to apologise wholeheartedly things will never be the same between us again

Sack her off for her crap grammar! Seriously, she still doesn't get it but someone has clearly got to her for this pathetic text to arrive. I suspect she thinks she's being very mature and dignified.

Posters saying isn't the friendship worth more than £45/£15 are basically saying the OP should accept this shitty behaviour. It's like when you are being bullied and told not to do XYZ so as to not cause an issue .

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3063565-How-to-get-out-of-something-that-I-didnt-agree-to

I suppose this would be the perfect time just to respond 'are you on glue?'
Well, in your head at least.

Good grief! I'm shocked at her audacity 😱

“Both in the wrong” oh ffs!

If it were me I’d block her without replying, after all, you’re dead to her and dead people can’t text.

I agree with Sandy your second sentence sums it up.

There isn't even an attempt at an apology in that message to you.

She is still painting herself as a victim of something and you the person who has done it.

both in the wrong my arse!

The cheek of it!

IMO losing this "friend" is no great loss now that she has shown her true colours.
And now you know who your real friends are.

She’s been told by someone either PTA or F2 & F3 that she’s in the wrong and she needs to apologise and that’s the best she can come up with.

Either that or she needs her hair done soon...

It would be too little, too late for me.

Just text back 'no'.

Just simply put

'Are you not going to apologise to me?'

I'd just reply "I think not. Please don't contact me again".

I'm with TotallyConkers on this one. She's landed herself in the shit with her universally outrageous conduct and is looking for an out. I can guarantee she isn't the slightest bit remorseful. She cares only about her image and her behaviour has confirmed this at every turn.

She said you were dead to her and turned it into a very public plea for attention and sympathy. RUN LIKE HELL OP

If you don't know what to say then give yourself time to think about what you're feeling and what you'd like to achieve

She's coming back for round 2.

Tell her to fuck off.