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The next thread...

Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

PS I'm sorry this has happened, and for the appalling reaction of someone you thought a friend

Aridane That could well be why she offered it. They were lucky to get anything. You’re another CF aren’t you?

OP, I applaud you. I think that you played that beautifully. And you were more than generous.

There are some CFs on this thread...

It's almost comical that F1 posted such a diatribe on Facebook where the PTA lady (and probably all the other mums at school) could see it.

Even without F2's response, a dramatic post about someone being "dead to me" would make any group leader wary of having such a person representing their cause. She's told them everything they need to know about her, in a single post.

It's almost comical that F1 posted such a diatribe on Facebook where the PTA lady (and probably all the other mums at school) could see it.

Even without F2's response, a dramatic post about someone being "dead to me" would make any group leader wary of having such a person representing their cause. She's told them everything they need to know about her, in a single post.

Aridane, my DD is going to a wedding tomorrow - it's her 3rd or 4th this year (as a guest I mean ) & she's had a hairdesser's updo done each time.

It's the 'I've never done you wrong' part of the fb post that is the most - what, apart from the gifting of someone else's time, money and reputation? Without even telling/asking them?

I don't think some people are seeing the whole picture here. Kung had her services offered without her knowledge, and at a cost to Kung of £45. Not only would it be that cost of the colour/cut, it would also mean that a real paying customer wasn't in the chair for that time, equalling another £45 so it would end up costing Kung £90 at least. And that's for one occasion. If she'd gone ahead and let F1 get away with this, it would have been for every single ptfa event in future.
My DH runs his own business, and the head of our school ptfa was a force of nature. He ended up being tapped for donations for every single raffle, ptfa event, school disco, fundraiser going for the whole 10 years that our DDs attended the school over. It cost him at least £30 each time and that was the trade cost, as well as him having to order it in, and bring it home to the ptfa chair. Frankly he was relieved to say the least when our youngest finished school! We worked out that he had donated over £1000 worth of stuff for these events over the years, and not every business can afford to keep putting their hands in their pockets for charity.

You absolutely did the right thing OP. Your "friend" is just hiding under a rock where she belongs, and you've been a lot more generous in your dealings with the ptfa over it than a lot of people on here would have been, including me!!

I must have dreamt all this happened because F1 has just text

Last night got out of hand, we was both in the wrong. Im willing to put it all behind me if you are.

aridane an updo isnt just for special occassions. I do the festival hair and all the braiding and quiffing which I just put under the section of updo.

So what are you going to reply ?

Still no apology though eh?

Wow! Cheeky b*tch. I fail to see how you were in the wrong at all. AT ALL!!

What are you going to do Kung?

Personally I'd ignore it and have nothing to do with her ever again, but it sounds like you're a much nicer person than me. [smile}

And you were not both in the wrong, she was!

Bloody hell. She has a bit of a nerve. It's not much in the way of an apology is it!

I think f1 has realised that she is about to lose her old friends and be kicked of the pta. She is in damage limitation mode because if she gets you back on side she can minimise her behaviour to others because if you are still friends with her then others should be as well. It's up to you on whether you want to continue the friendship and take in her eyes 50% blame.

Oh how bloody generous of her considering she's the one who was 100% in the wrong and was responsible for it getting out of hand. I wouldn't be able to forgive the 'you're dead to me' comment quite honestly

OP, I wouldn't even dignify that text with a reply. Cheeky mare. Just disengage and keep your dignity.

Jesus piss. That excuse for an apology is far too little, about 20 hours too late!!

Kung, I know you're a nicer person than me, but please don't accept that 'olive branch'.

.....we was both in the wrong...... Is she on glue or something?
I would ignore and block op, she's either deluded or as thick as sh1t!

Ugh - how on earth can she say you were in the wrong? She sounds a right PITA . Why can't she do the decent thing and apologise properly!!

We were both in the wrong?!
Ask her to fucking explain how you were in the wrong!

Where's your apology?!

I imagine you are the sort of person willing to put it behind you for the sake of the group kung, however please don't do that without warning you won't let her pull a stunt like that again at the very least.

Both in the wrong!! !

Now's the time you're going to have to decide whether you want the friendship to continue.

Are you OK for her to think her behaviour is acceptable and to always be wondering if you can trust her.

I havent responded because quite frankly I dont know what to say.

I am quite a forgiving person, but the fact she gave no apology and said we are both to blame is taking the piss. I cant brush over what she said last night or the facebook status and pretend it never happened without a sincere talk and apology.