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Flatmate said my Halloween decorations are offensive

430 replies

QuestionableMouse · 18/10/2017 13:57

They're a string of Halloween paper chains hanging on the outside of my bedroom door. She said they're offensive and she doesn't like them.

I really love Halloween and they make me smile when I come in. I have more hanging in my room too.

Who is being unreasonable?

Flatmate said my Halloween decorations are offensive
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Fekko · 19/10/2017 11:19

Tell her that she's not being very Christian in her attitude not in her silly behaviour acting like a child.

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2017 11:23

Honestly I'd prefer more notes to her slamming doors all of the time!

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Lweji · 19/10/2017 11:25

Leave her a note to make less noise in the morning. You find it annoying and offensive.

sashh · 19/10/2017 11:26

Its pagan.

No it's Christian, Samhain is pagan.

Fekko · 19/10/2017 11:30

Or a note saying that you find her annoying and offensive. I really can't be bothered with people who won't compromise and take the moral high ground over silly things.

LagunaBubbles · 19/10/2017 13:23

And yes, by England I was referring to the UK.

Then OP I would suggest a map may be more useful for you to hang up than a Halloween decoration.

Willow2017 · 19/10/2017 14:03

Actually the origins of the halloween celebrations - dressing up/guising, feasting, decorations do have pagan roots and have been carried on.

All Hallows Day is christian, all hallows eve was just renamed to stop us pagans having a good time without the christians so they decided to join in Wink

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2017 14:33

@LagunaBubbles,

I'm perfectly well aware of the distinctions between all the various names. It was something I posted in haste without really thinking. I had other things on my mind.

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Flippetydip · 19/10/2017 14:38

What's she doing at 0645 in the morning if she's a student?

Honestly, you will both grow out of this. She will look back on this episode in years to come and cringe and realise that her belief is not going to be knocked by someone else doing something she doesn't want to do, you won't feel the need to get over-invested in a very passive-aggressive note, you will just let it float over your head.

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2017 14:41

Slamming doors apparently. Angry

I'm 32, don't think I'm going to be growing much more lol.

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LagunaBubbles · 19/10/2017 14:45

It was something I posted in haste without really thinking

Clearly. Scotland is not and never has been part of England. To use the term England to refer to the UK may seem nothing to you but is deeply annoying when you actually come from Scotland.

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2017 14:48

I understand and I'm sorry. Both sets of grand parents were from Scotland so I do get it. It was just a slip on my part.

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AndrewJames · 19/10/2017 14:53

The USA stole Halloween from England

I see that by England you meant UK, but did you also think Ireland was in the UK? Halloween is a Celtic Irish holiday and the modern traditions were all imported to the US from Ireland, and then back to Europe.

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QuestionableMouse · 19/10/2017 14:58

God this thread is weird.

I don't think I mentioned Ireland at all?

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Lweji · 19/10/2017 14:59

How about you hang a map of the UK just saying England and see if she finds it offensive?

AndrewJames · 19/10/2017 15:01

No, that was the point. You thought the USA stole halloween from England/The UK, when actually it was imported with Irish immigrants.
That's what I literally just told you.

Happyemoji · 19/10/2017 15:03

I learnt something new today^

gamerwidow · 19/10/2017 15:04

They’re offensive because it’s the middle of October but otherwise can’t see the problem.

kootoo123 · 19/10/2017 17:40

I bet she is happy with a Christmas tree...another pagan tradition.

jayne1976 · 19/10/2017 18:25

Probably a whole heap of little things you do that bug her but she keeps quiet, this is obviously big enough for her to voice it for whatever reason.
Put them inside your room where I'm sure they can still 'make you smile', surely even more so knowing they're offending no one else!

tea4two4three · 19/10/2017 18:35

During my first year of uni I lived in a flat with 3 other young women and there were three different religions and significant cultural differences. One woman worked at Ann Summers and we got loads of free merch they were chucking out. At one point we had a floor to ceiling wall size poster of a naked man with his modesty being covered by a parrot penis warmer. He had to get put away everytime someone's family visited. Funnily enough the most offensive thing we had was hundreds of Richard Whitley heads we'd made into a paperchain. It was constantly being stolen. Good times.

Keep the decs and invest in some earplugs to avoid the early morning door slamming.

fairygarden · 19/10/2017 18:37

Just leave them there! Seriously some people need to get over themselves. You have not done anything wrong. She is being ridiculous!

Juzza12 · 19/10/2017 18:44

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Gertiegoolash · 19/10/2017 18:49

I've had my Halloween decorations up since the first of October, because that's the way I roll (and I'm pagan and Samhain is my favourite sabbat). Tell her to go and fuck herself.

WoollyMollyMonkey · 19/10/2017 18:56

Personally I hate Halloween with a passion, detest it, but I wouldn't find your string of decorations offensive, as long as you hadn't decked the whole friggin flat out with them haha! (And I'm RC) each to their own!