Would you think this is cheeky?

[SuzukiLi]

Is it cheeky to make money selling things that someone has given you for free?

People are for more important. Priorities.. and to think you allowed this to ruin a friendship. Good riddance frankly

Oh fuck off. I've stated twice in this thread that that's not the reason the friendship ended.

It’s probably cheeky but I would do it anyway! We need all the help we can get as mums! Go for it x

Depends on what. I sold some baby stuff at an NCT sale but just so it would have a good home as free stuff on Facebook tends to attract suspicion.

@Sheffmum1 but that's the point, isn't it? I've been the recipient of help from other mums who gave me their old baby clothes. I then helped other mums in my turn, as I passed those clothes on. I didn't help myself a second time by making a profit on what had been given to me - I passed the help on.

I think it's rude. I give things away on Freecycle, local Facebook etc, but I don't expect people to profit from it. It came for free, pass it on for free.

It wouldn't bother me at all. I would think "Good for them, getting organised to sell them. I certainly couldn't be arsed."

It wouldn't bother me. I've given stuff away and couldn't give 2 hoots if the person sold it on. If they need the money more than the stuff then that's fine by me.

It’s very rude, it should be given back to the original owner or passed on to someone else for free. Why should someone make profit off a freebie

Surely the key word here is "given" (rather than "lent" / "loaned"). In this type scenario, one should operate a finders-keepers policy.

Why are people bothered? My sister gives me clothes for free and says she can't be arsed to sell them. But I can be arsed to sell them! She thinks this is fine.

I also give clothes away, and if people want to sell them afterwards, that's up to them! If you give something away it's not yours anymore and you can't behave as if you can control what they do with them. They are not yours anymore!

Definitely, unless you ask first

Of course it’s cheeky.

Perhaps if they sorely need the cash then people should be more understanding.

When I give something away, it's not mine anymore. The recipient is free to do as he/she pleases with it - regift it, recycle it, sell it, throw it out a window, etc. If I value something so highly I'd be inclined to monitor it, then I shouldn't be giving it away.

Yes, it's more than cheeky.

Bold But then some people are kind and generous and others are tight and grabby.

The grabby ones will tell you it's fine and the principled ones will tell you it's not. Take your pick.

Yes, it's more than cheeky.

But then some people are kind and generous and others are tight and grabby.

The grabby ones will tell you it's fine and the principled ones will tell you it's not. Take your pick.

It is fucking rude. Not cheeky. Offer them back or split the proceeds. Passing them on is even better.

But HOW are you supposed to remember out of the eleventy million sleepsuits which one belonged to whoever wanted you not to sell it?
Maybe those who think it's cheeky should microchip their hand me downs.

I gave my Sil some good quality toys in excellent condition that my children had outgrown. She put them away and gave them to her children for Christmas from THEM. Her children didn't know they were from us, which upset me.They lived a long way off and we only saw them occasionally.

It wouldn’t bother me at all.

You decided to pass along, she used them then decided to sell on. You seem upset that she is making money from it but despite what you say does anyone really know someone else’s financial situation ?

Just know you did what made you happy at the time. Anything else you can’t control and isn’t worth getting upset over

Curliox - from ‘them’ or from Santa?

You might have saved their Christmas that year. Knowing that would make me happy.

I think it’s cheeky. I could have sold my stuff. It wasn’t a case of not being bothered. I had kept it in case baby number 2 was a boy but she was a she and in the meantime my friend had twin boys so I gave my boys stuff to her. I then saw it being sold on fb. I also bought a baby seat off her (like a booster dining seat) and she wanted money for it which I thought was pretty selfish given how many clothes I’d given her but I didn’t say anything I paid the money, I didn’t mention the clothes she’d sold and I didn’t let it affect our friendship I just don’t give her stuff anymore I pass it onto people who I know will pass it on once they’re done. And no she’s not short of cash she’s just tight and that comes from experience with other things with her too. So I’ve lived and learned and moved on.

Who has the time or inclination to keep everything from person a separate from everything from person b?

You give it to me, its mine. It all goes into the same wardrobe and when the dc are grown out of it it gets sold on. I NEED the money to buy the next size up bundle. How lovely for everyone who can just walk into the shops and buy everything their kids need without thinking twice. It must be wonderful.