Would you think this is cheeky?

[SuzukiLi]

Is it cheeky to make money selling things that someone has given you for free?

I think the polite thing to do, if it was me, would be to offer the clothes back first and then pass them off to someone else who is in need or agree to sell them and split the cost.

Exactly theft.

But you gave her them! What about if you give Xmas presents and birthday presents the person receiving does not need or use it do you then ask for them back if they decide to sell it on.

No I think gifting someone a present you've picked out for them is a bit different to letting them have something in a time of need. If she had given me clothes because I couldn't afford to buy any, it wouldn't even occur to me to do anything other than offer them back when I had finished with them.

I had a similar thing some years ago. I gave my friend a shed-load of expensive lego when she was telling me how much her kids enjoyed it. I obviously wasn't clear enough when I said 'feel free to use it whilst the boys are into it'. 1 year later, you mentioned in passing she had sold it all off on Ebay. I was a bit out out. I am a single parent with no financial support from the ex and my plan was to sell all the lego myself - I just thought she could use some of it whilst her kids were going through the lego phase. However, I didn't make it clear to her that I intended to sell it on at a later date.

I think in future you could say 'I have some good quality clothes for you to use but if you don't mind, when it no longer fits, would you mind passing it on to me, I'd like to be able to sell it on Ebay etc'

If she had asked I would've said yes

so there is NO issue. NO ISSUE.

No becuase when you give something to someone it is there’s to do as they wish with surely

Generally I think this is rude, but for some reason I don't mind with baby things. In fact when I give anything to a new mother, if it has any value I always tell them to feel free to sell it when they don't need it any more and use the money for new stuff. If I cared about selling it I would have done it myself and very often baby things are given away to free up space, so I've got what I wanted.
I think you have to be very, very clear if you expect to get anything back. I just wouldn't do that, to be honest, because it would feel mean-spirited to me. If you don't want to give something freely and without conditions, it's usually better all round to just keep it.

I think it's rude. If she had no need for them she should have said so and offered you them back. DH gave his sister something as he thought she would find it useful for a hobby/business she does, only to find that she had sold the item - imo she should've said she didn't need it and asked if he wanted it back.

I think what's clear is that some people are not bothered if their gifts are sold on but other people are. Therefore, if you want to make sure that you are not going to piss off a generous friend, it is sensible either not to sell on the gifts or to check with the giver that they are happy that gifts are sold on.

I think its fine.

When you give something, give it away - no strings attached. If someone is that skint that they need to sell it, good luck to them. I've been on both sides of it.

I've been skint skint not that long ago. I have no problem if I give someone babg clothes for example because they're skint and once outgrown they sell them and buy clothes in the next size up. What I have a problem with is people who offer things for free on Facebook someone takes them and then the next day it's on Facebook for sale for a tenner. Because those could have gone to someone who needed them ie free nappies for a skint mum

It wouldn't bother me. When I give things away to people, without specifying that I want them back, then I don't care what they do with them so long as they're not cluttering up my house anymore.

I think that once you give something away, you no longer have any say on what happens to it next. If you feel attached or sentimental about it or you think it should be used by a specific person or for a specific purpose and you're going to feel pissy if it's not, don't give it away.

I certainly never acepted baby hand me downs under condition that they be given back or held on to forever more. Similarly if I pass something on I say goodbye to it forever. If someone can be bothered to sell them then that's up to them.

They are not your belongings anymore, you chose to give them away your exfriend is choosing to sell them.
I don't understand why some folk give things away yet seem to think they have ownership over the items. If you value belongings that highly learn from that and dont give anything away sell it on as you are not being kind or generous you are just adding extra stress to other peoples lives.
Most likely the woman is selling baby clothes that include items you gave her and stuff she has bought herself or been gifted off others.

If you value belongings that highly learn from that and dont give anything away sell it on as you are not being kind or generous you are just adding extra stress to other peoples lives

How is giving someone something for free adding extra stress to their lives? They could just say 'no thanks' I don't need [whatever it is they're being offered]. Bizarre.

I think it's generally those who have either never been really broke, or who have this precious image of themselves as the soul of charity and therefore expect tearful and lifelong gratitude for anything they pass on, who get really pissy about the fate of the stuff they gave away. If you got given some clothes for your baby and your baby has now outgrown everything in that size (incuding stuff given by different people and stuff you actually bought, as well) you're not remotely unreasonable to stick the whole bundle on eBay for a few quid rather than sorting out who gave you what so you can ask everyone what they meant you were permitted to do with it. This is particularly the case if no one among your social group is PG or planning another baby in the nearish future - you don't want to store the stuff forever and you might be in a position where three or four pounds via eBay actually makes a lot of difference to whether you can eat this weekend.

The stress comes when the giver starts whining and moaning about what you should have done with the gift.

Baby clothes dont always last more than two babies without accumulating various stains, giving something for free that you later expect back puts lots of stress on people especially trying to keep the clothes in decent condition. Its a nightmare, even more so when people dont specify that they want their freely given belongings back after you have used them and decided to get rid.

It's rude. I've been given hand me downs - I always pass them all on again (well unless they got really trashed).

I've sold a couple of bits that I personally bought but anything given should be given again IMO.

I agree Chib - which is why I never accept anything that someone wants back or kept in good condition. Life is too short to have to take care of other people's belongings or dispose of them in a specified way. If you give it to me, it's mine...otherwise you can keep it.

So its alright to sell unwanted gifts on but not secondhand goods that someones already used and doesnt need/want anymore but have passed on freely of their own choice as if they wanted them to be sold they could have done so themselves? What absolute madness is this?
Its an awful lot of nonsense for a load of baby clothes. Its not like they have a high resale value. Around £10 a bundle for a wardrobe full.

Yes, someone did this to me - sold something I had lent to them actually. Very rude.