to ask why is it acceptable to say you hate kids?

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Prompted by a certain female comedien saying this (whom I love btw!), it seems that it is the last taboo. By all means say you are not a child-person, you don't want kids etc but HATE them? You wouldn't be able to say that about any other group of people (and kids are people), so why do people say it about children?

All of them?

'I do hate dogs.'
What, all dogs? I'm not keen on irresponsible owners but dogs are alright, .

Makes more sense to me to hate all children than the parents who hate all children except their own,. Always strikes me as a bit narcissistic

It’s absolutely ageism. I don’t get how or why it’s deemed acceptable.

It’s also ridiculous, lazy thinking - of course not all the children are the same.

You love your own though turbo, it just happens, well it did with me.

It's better that people are able to admit it though. In the past, women were pressured into getting married and having kids because that was the thing to do. Many of them clearly hated kids and their kids had a rotten childhood as a result. Now it is completely acceptable to choose not to have kids (well allegedly anyway) and therefore hopefully only those that really want them will have them (although this is a little bit too idealistic).

Hermag But all children are the same in many regards. Young children I mean. They're needy, messy, noisy, vulnerable. Ugh. Nope, do not want that around me.

I also hate dogs too. Not in a theyre evil and deseeve to die type way bit in that i dont like anything about them and dont want annthing to do with any. I think thats what people who say the "hate" childen mean really, they mean "not for me"

flomper they should probably say that then instead of saying they hate them.

It depends how it's said: Mother after a long day of cleaning up after her own noisy, sticky but otherwise beloved kids. Fine.

That weird friend of yours that refers to kids as "crotch droppings": less fine. Probably.

All women are the same in many regards doesn't make it ok for someone to say they hate them

'They're needy, messy, noisy, vulnerable. Ugh. Nope, do not want that around me.'
They are also funny, cute, clever, it sounds cheesy but my life is 100% better with them in it. Can understand people choosing not to have DC but I can't understand anyone saying 'ugh don't want that around me' or that they 'hate' dc. Just a bit generalised and pathetic really.

Animals are also annoying and messy and noisy. But saying "I hate animals" in this country is going to get you labelled as a psychopath, whereas saying "I hate children" gets you kudos for honesty and courage. It doesn't actually take any courage, because British people say it all the time, but it enables you to think of yourself as honestly outspoken. Which is clearly very enjoyable.

Rosie How can you say that? Have you met all dogs? How can you tar all dogs with the same brush?

Whatever your answers are... I feel the same about children

So do I, so we're almost on the same page.

They are also funny, cute, clever, it sounds cheesy but my life is 100% better with them in it

I don't find children funny, cute or clever at all. I've never met a funny, cute or clever child or seen one on TV. I can't imagine anything worse for my life than having children.

I always think about this on the child-free wedding threads. Like, you're supposed to just accept that a couple don't want kids at their big day and not argue that this is unfair against an entire group of people.

Because kids will obviously ruin it by being noisy
Or they haven't got room/can't afford to feed people under four foot tall....

Their wedding, their choice, yaddah yaddah...

Can you imagine if somebody announced they were going to have a wedding without anyone aged over 60?

I think hate is to vague. Better to say something specific like they are too irritating

'I can't imagine anything worse for my life than having children.'

Well that's fine but to say 'ugh I don't what that around me' or that you hate kids is juvenile and unnecessary. Don't have them, no one cares.

Puppy

But I think child-free weddings are about risk aren't they? You're not saying children will definitely be noisy, make a mess and ruin your day but there's certainly a risk that they will. Whereas most adults (and I stress most!) don't present the same risk.

puppy I do think that's a bit different as you can invite who you like and don't have to invite anyone over the age of 60 either, that's ok as you're not saying you hate them. You're just not inviting them.

I think hate is to vague. Better to say something specific like they are too irritating

But then we'd be there all day. They're too irritating, they're messy, they're noisy, they're boring..... In a nutshell I can't stand them.

I think this might be the funniest thread I've ever read, proper belly laugh material.

All those tongues thrust firmly into cheeks.
Bloody marvellous.

Because she's a comedienne, and it's a joke.

Of course you can invite who you like but it's the thought of sending out the official invites and saying "no oldies, hope you understand xxxx".

As for risk, it's the adults who get pissed up and ruin things IME.