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To be fed up of sexual fetishists on here?

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brasty · 14/10/2017 12:56

So many threads at the moment that are obviously posters looking for wank fodder. Including disgustingly a fair number to do with children. So fed up of these. And so fed up of so many staying up for several days even though they are reported.

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Marinade · 14/10/2017 13:55

@Brasty I think we have all done it because your starting point is that you think it must be genuine. Its perplexing as you know on some level that it is not right but you don't feel certain until you sit and reflect about the fact that some posters are not here for the right reasons and join the dots. The fact that it is an anonymous site is wonderful in some ways but there is no authentication and anyone can post, including the unsavoury ones amongst us.

Saucery · 14/10/2017 13:55

Sometimes it does, Iamagreyhound as a way of steering posters towards the level of detail they require. Not always, I agree.

MaisyPops · 14/10/2017 13:55

It hadn't occured to me until recently that some people starting school threads that aren't explicitly sexual might have weird fetishes.

I've had zillions of uniform chats over my career and talked about it online loads. The idea of it being wank fodder for some perv disturbs me.

GerdaLovesLili · 14/10/2017 13:58

There's also a tendency to resurrect perfectly innocent zombie threads on similar subjects with a slightly "off" post. It's really best to check the date of the original OP and work out what the motivation for resurrecting it actually is. There was one yesterday about breast-feeding on a beach that was quickly zapped.

user789653241 · 14/10/2017 13:58

brasty, as a foreigner, I really don't get terms, whatever, is used in the thread is "off" or not, and I think I am an easy prey.
Thank you for posting this thread, I should be more cautious.

MiraiDevant · 14/10/2017 13:58

Agree. Rather horrible.

Also people seem to think that "sharing" - I hate that word - you are only sharing if I want some of what you are giving away - is a helpful, unselfish thing to do and that anyone who doesn't want to hear it is for some reason a Bad Person.

Since much of what is written is fantasy anyway you are often taking part in a work of fictional porn, each new post more titilating than the last.

It is a difficult line to find though because no-one wants to limit peoples' freedom to speak.

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brasty · 14/10/2017 13:59

Marinade Its because I didn't know what the term meant, and thought other posters descriptions were accurate they were not.

Ghosty I didn't see that, but it sounds grim.

Goldfish I know anything can be wank fodder. But very different some random doing it over a genuine post, to a sexual fetishist posting a thread looking for wank fodder. One is unavoidable, one is not.

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wrenika · 14/10/2017 14:03

...but people can easily just search for existing threads if they get off on that stuff. So it doesn't really make any odds. Say someone wants the content of a thread somehow about kids and wee...they just have to search back through it. MN contains plenty - from questions asked legitimately - that would be what these people may want.

Goldfishshoals · 14/10/2017 14:03

unless it is a poster with a long posting history, be very wary of any post dealing with wee, poo, periods, knickers, sexual tips

So, to be clear, you believe that it's fine to share stories with long standing op's, presumably because there's some sort of magical wank shield that prevents perverts getting off on a story unless they started the thread themselves?

DixieNormas · 14/10/2017 14:05

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MiraiDevant · 14/10/2017 14:06

To be clear I am not accusing PPs of lying - most are genuine of course - but it seems clear to me that some are not

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brasty · 14/10/2017 14:06

I think it is like catalogues with kids in nightwear, etc. It is created for innocent reasons, and some perverts may use it as wank fodder. Unavoidable.
But I would campaign against a publication of photo of kids in nightwear, that was purposely produced as wank fodder.
You may not care about the difference, I do.

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CockacidalManiac · 14/10/2017 14:09

Too right. The amount of oversharing (and over investment) that goes on on MN in particular is weird. Especially as the DM/red tops are forever lifting stuff.

DixieNormas · 14/10/2017 14:12

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Landed · 14/10/2017 14:17

I didn't realise this was happening. Ince again time to think about leaving MN for good. It's definately the way it used to be getting too ugly in more ways than one, repeatedly so. Don't wish to be part of this kind of thing in real life so definately not online.

CockacidalManiac · 14/10/2017 14:20

There's also a tendency to resurrect perfectly innocent zombie threads on similar subjects with a slightly "off" post. It's really best to check the date of the original OP and work out what the motivation for resurrecting it actually is.

Like the ten years old oral sex thread that’ suddenly been resurrected for posters to happily overshare their sexual adventures on.

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brasty · 14/10/2017 14:23

That is grim.

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bloodymaria · 14/10/2017 14:23

I think a big part of the problem is the "troll hunters are worse than trolls" mentality that is rife on MN.

Elendon · 14/10/2017 14:24

It's appalling and it's also a way of shutting down discussion amongst women.

Even threads about sexual assault and rape are on the radar of these sickos.

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brasty · 14/10/2017 14:26

If it is someone sharing a personal situation that seems unbelievable to some, I have some sympathy. I know people who have had a lot of shit things happen to them, and people with more privileged lives may not have come across people whose lives are really hard and call troll.
But sexual fetishists and pedophiles are really a totally different situation.

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Olympiathequeen · 14/10/2017 14:29

I’d never even thought about that and therè was one recently about a little girl on a slide not wearing knickers!

I think mm hq needs to start monitoring and weed these out before they appear.

You are quite right

KatieScarlett · 14/10/2017 14:30

I wonder why anyone would want to encourage the perverts to keep posting/bumping these threads. And why some posters are so keen to have them stay. And why they want to shut down the people who rightly say, hang on, this doesn't look right... Because that's not a hill I would want to choose to die on in the name of free speech.

CoteDAzur · 14/10/2017 14:33

Well done for this thread, brasty.

I had no idea sickos were using MN to gather wank fodder on peeing, period and young girls, the color of their underwear, etc.

People over on Reddit opened my eyes to just how many zillions of these threads are being deleted on MN on a regular basis Shock

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brasty · 14/10/2017 14:35

I can understand lots of threads being deleted. What I can't understand is obvious posts being allowed to stand for days, even though people have reported them as obvious wank fodder. And the ones about kids actually upset me.

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Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 14/10/2017 14:36

Yes, well done brasty. I hope this thread isn’t removed because ^it’s not in the spirit of MN* to call a spade a spade.