Teacher 'donated' Dds money!

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My daughter has a knack for 'finding pennies'. She is 8. She collects the 5ps/10ps she finds for sweeties and the 1ps and 2ps go in a piggy bank until it's full. She find a them outside on the floor.

On the way to school yesterday she was saying that she wanted a mini figit spinner from the machine outside our local newsagents.
She had been super good this week and I was already planning on giving her £2 as a reward but she said 'I might find a pound!' So to humour her 'abilities' I dropped a pound a few minutes later and she spotted it.

She was super excited.

When I picked her up from school she was quiet and when we got near the ship I asked her if she wanted to get her toy she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school and the teacher said it wasn't hers to spend and told her to put it in the classroom charity collection box!!

Aibu to demand it back and be quite pissed off?

Actually Pengggwn this teacher did know.

She knew the child found the coin on the way to school. As the dc is only 8 then her mum would have been with her and aware of the situation but this teacher still thought she was superior and her rules trumped the ops

Olivers, but that may not be true though. Teacher may have suggested for her to put it into charity, and the child happily did it. But seeing Mum unhappy about losing her money, she may have said that her teacher forced her. Maybe not, don't know. Without all the details, we can't be really sure what really happened. Deciding teacher was totally wrong from OP's post is nothing but speculation and not nice to make it sound like she did something wrong.
I don't like to assume worst without knowing facts.

And AndrewJames, how can you not respect teacher as an educator?
They learned and knows hows educate our children.
Yes, there are many different teachers, some I respect more than others, some I may lose respect for them because of their actions. But if you can't trust and respect teacher in the first place, how can you send your children to school?

*how to

Can I just throw something out there as this thread is getting spectacularly circular.

1. We don't know what happened exactly.
2. Personally, i would assume good intentions over bad intentions (even if the actions weren't what I would have done personally). Nobody goes into teaching thinking 'oh great i'm going to bully children abd steal from them'.
3. Someone can make a call we wouldn't or a call we don't like without having every ounce of their professionalism questioned.

And the big one...

1. The OP had time to calmly contact school and resolve it and instead of doing that has come on MN outraged over something that they know will whip up raging anti-teacher sentiment and then has abandoned the thread.

Just saying, if i were a parent and that situation had happened to my DC I would think to myself Gosh. What happened? Ok. Maybe me and Teacher need to have a chat about it. and then call and have a reasonable and polite chat and resolve the issue.

Reasonable parents generally get reasonable responses (especially when we make mistakes). Livid excessively ragey ones generally end up being well known in yhe staff room for the wrong reasons

If I had an issue with you MaisyPops I'd come to you and explain it calmly and politely in private. For all we know the OP has done that and has gone away. But threads take on life of their own so that's why people are debating it. In the main they are not being livid or ragey or whipping up anti-teacher sentiment as you say, so I don't understand why you have brought that up.

Like most people, in this case I'd expect the teacher to give me or my child a brief apology and give the pound back. As you said, some people really do need the money. I don't, but I'd be calmly insistent because it is my money. I'd refrain from saying that IMO she shouldn't have taken the money in the first place because once situations have been resolved, I have no wish to continue pressing the point.

There's also no shame in saying sorry for things we have done wrong. I have more respect for people who do that. I do it even when it stings, because it's an important lesson we all have to learn. Do you agree?

I'd say that all the 'get DC to tell the teacher...' / the teacher is breaking the law and stealing etc is silly nonsense. There's even been suggestions that the teacher took the money for themselves. Such is the way on any school thread though. It's par for the course.

I'd be with you most of the way. I would say it was fair to remove the money until everything was resolved, but it shouldn't have gone to a charity box. I think the teacher should apologise for it going in the charity box when it hadn't been resolved, but not for removing it in the first place.

We disagree. I might have questioned the child about the circumstances but if she made it clear that she found it off school premises then I'd let her keep it. If it was ambiguous, and I accept that some but not all primary age children do get muddled sometimes, I'd say I was taking it for safe keeping until I could talk to her mummy.

If I thought I'd be too busy to have a conversation with the mother at pick up, I'd let her keep it because I agree with you, teachers have a lot of very important things on their plates.

I apologise MaisyPops I meant to say we agree, not disagree.

People often do say outrageous things but that's not representative of most people on this thread.

Mostly they agree with you and me that the teacher did not handle this in a good way.