Teacher 'donated' Dds money!

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My daughter has a knack for 'finding pennies'. She is 8. She collects the 5ps/10ps she finds for sweeties and the 1ps and 2ps go in a piggy bank until it's full. She find a them outside on the floor.

On the way to school yesterday she was saying that she wanted a mini figit spinner from the machine outside our local newsagents.
She had been super good this week and I was already planning on giving her £2 as a reward but she said 'I might find a pound!' So to humour her 'abilities' I dropped a pound a few minutes later and she spotted it.

She was super excited.

When I picked her up from school she was quiet and when we got near the ship I asked her if she wanted to get her toy she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school and the teacher said it wasn't hers to spend and told her to put it in the classroom charity collection box!!

Aibu to demand it back and be quite pissed off?

And as far as she was concerned it wasn't the child's either. She has care of the child during school hours and made a call about how to teach the child about what she owns and what she doesn't

That doesn't matter. You can't say to a child "you can't take things that don't belong to you, so I'm going to take something that doesn't belong to me either". It's like smacking a child for hitting someone.

If she had taken it and then spoken to the parent and given it to them, she may have had a point. But the way she did it was utterly wrong. Not least because the coin actually did very much belong to the child!

She's not the parent, and it's not a legitimate exercise of authority. Its a "I'm in charge so I can do what I like to you" exercise, but I don't want my children taught that. Do you?

It is showing a child they can't have what isn't theirs

Actually it showed that child that they can't have what IS theirs. Because it was hers.

I mentioned this to my teacher daughter. She said that she is supposed to take found money off the children, but she usually ignores coins/pretends she has no knowledge of the discovery. Notes would be a different matter.

Just drop another quid FFS 😂

She doesn't need to be the parent. She is in loco parentis

that extends to educating them (on the curriculum) and keeping them safe. It does not extend to moralising and punishing them for something not related to school.

As an adult, I am not that innocent. If I found a pound, I may put into my pocket. But as a parent, I would like to raise my child to be good person.
So, I would say to my child to give it to a charity. I know it sounds stupid to some people, but that's what I think.

The teacher was WRONG.

If teacher's argument is it's not the child's money to spend, then neither is it the teacher's money to donate to charity.

The money was 'found' OFF SCHOOL PROPERTY. The teacher needs to butt out of non-school business. And she needs to return the money.

Demand it back, teacher had no right to take it from her and is obviously one of these mumsnet do gooders! Seriously feel sorry for the kids whos parents must march them to the nearest police station to hand in the 50p they found in the gutter! Exchanging it for a lost property police report instead of few sweets, what a childhood!... get a grip!

grip!..... do-gooders!!...ffs!!!....hell in a handbasket!!!!!..... BINGO!!!!!!

I would speak to the teacher and tell her it was actually your money you gave her to 'find'. Oh and would people please please RTFT!

grip!..... do-gooders!!...ffs!!!....hell in a handbasket!!!!!..... BINGO!!!!!!

Thank for saying it so I didn't have to NotAgainYoda

Half a mo. You are on my side, aren't you NotAgainYoda? The side that thinks the teacher was an interfering cow? Otherwise, though we might come to respect each other, we will never be true friends.

By some people's logic teachers can apparently take whatever property they randomly deem probably doesn't/shouldn't belong to a particular child. Neither common sense nor the law agree with that. The teacher made a mistake and should be quietly told/ asked to apologise. Making a mistake isn't the end of the world and by asmiting it she could be a better role model than by stealing.

I'd ask the teacher for the money back out of her own purse. And then I'd put it in the charity box in front of her. And then I'd tell her never again to take something from someone else because they are weaker.

Because abusing power is always wrong, isn't it? It's a shame that some people take longer to learn that than others.

I'd ask the teacher for the money back out of her own purse. And then I'd put it in the charity box in front of her. And then I'd tell her never again to take something from someone else because they are weaker

^ This exactly.

OP is the teacher usually a complete tyrant, hell bent on grinding her children into the ground? If not, maybe give her the benefit of the doubt, explain what happened and ask for it back.
There's an awful lot of anger on here being directed at someone who looks after your little girl and her friends during the day.

I'm confused by this thread. If I find money on the street I keep it. I thought everyone did, (although that is obviously not the case, some very noble people on here) But surely the teacher was way out of line!