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Teacher 'donated' Dds money!

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WoWoWorrier · 13/10/2017 13:55

My daughter has a knack for 'finding pennies'. She is 8. She collects the 5ps/10ps she finds for sweeties and the 1ps and 2ps go in a piggy bank until it's full. She find a them outside on the floor.

On the way to school yesterday she was saying that she wanted a mini figit spinner from the machine outside our local newsagents.
She had been super good this week and I was already planning on giving her £2 as a reward but she said 'I might find a pound!' So to humour her 'abilities' I dropped a pound a few minutes later and she spotted it.

She was super excited.

When I picked her up from school she was quiet and when we got near the ship I asked her if she wanted to get her toy she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school and the teacher said it wasn't hers to spend and told her to put it in the classroom charity collection box!!

Aibu to demand it back and be quite pissed off?

OP posts:
Ta1kinPeece · 14/10/2017 21:27

Fenny
Legally the teacher is right. Stealing something is taking something that isn't yours, even if it doesn't appear to have an owner.
But case law proves you are talking bilge

Willow2017 · 14/10/2017 21:37

Fenny
that doesnt apply to coins found in The street. You have to prove that the rightful owner could be found with reasonable steps which is patently impossible with a coin found on a busy pavement in town/ on a bike path etc etc. What are you supposed to do stand waving it around on the street corner asking if people can price that this is thier 20p piece?

Willow2017 · 14/10/2017 21:38

Can Prove that it is thiers.

Stupid phone.

65cleo · 14/10/2017 21:40

I'm appalled at the people that think it's ok to keep what they find. What kind of children are we going to have in the future,one's that have nt even been shown how to be honest by the very people that they look up to, their parents.

Willow2017 · 14/10/2017 21:43

Penn
No she wasn't.

If you find a coin on the road with no way of finding the real owner then it is yours by law.
Teacher had no right to take it from her and dispose of it herself.

That action was actually real theft.

Ta1kinPeece · 14/10/2017 21:44

I'm appalled at the people that think it's ok to keep what they find.
So what SHOULD they do with it ?????

If others are dumb enough to drop a coin,
why should the alert not pick it up ??

Dianag111 · 14/10/2017 21:46

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Willow2017 · 14/10/2017 21:47

65cleo

For the nth time can someone actually explain how you find the owner of random coins you find on the street? Or do you just leave them to get swept up and binned. Kids have always picked up coins they find, it's a bit of luck that's all.

It's not like we are talking about finding a wallet with £200 In it.

Tattybogle89 · 14/10/2017 22:09

This thread is fucking stupid 😂

The teacher shouldn’t have taken control of your daughters belongings without your permission.

But handing a pound into the police station incase Someone comes to claim it.. that seems to be what some people are hinting at . Bugger off

AndrewJames · 14/10/2017 22:10

I'm appalled at the people that think it's ok to keep what they find

It IS ok to keep a coin you find in the street.

What would you do with it?

hippyhippyshake · 14/10/2017 22:23

This happened Thursday and the op didn't bother to query it Friday morning, just came on here Friday afternoon to ask if she should 'demand' it back. So did she ask for it back Friday after school? I'm sure she would have posted if the teacher was the villain most people seem to want to think.

Roversandrhodes · 14/10/2017 22:24

Failing to see wtf it had to do with the teacher ,ask for it back I would

caringcarer · 14/10/2017 23:47

If your DD had behaved well and you wanted to treat her why on earth would you throw a £1 on the ground and let her find it? It is odd behaviour and is encouraging your DD to keep money that does not belong to her.

Daddystepdaddy · 15/10/2017 00:05

Teacher should have made her hand it in to the office as could have been another child's money.

Willow2017 · 15/10/2017 00:10

It did belong to her. Legally, which a lot of people are having trouble understanding.

It could have been any of the people using the path that morning. Early morning Joggers, cyclists or walkers how on earth would they prove who it belonged to in the school office?

limitedperiodonly · 15/10/2017 00:39

People are just so fucking weird

Purplealienpuke · 15/10/2017 07:05

IF it was in her bag then the teacher had no business demanding the money!
BUT if your dd is anything like my dgd of a similar age the money would have been in her hand and shown around, discussed loudly etc. Then the teacher would be lead to believe your dd had 'found' it and maybe donating it felt the right thing to do?? I'm not entirely sure I agree with the teacher in that instance either. Maybe in future if your daughter 'finds' money on the way to school keep it safe for her til after school so it's not misappropriated elsewhere??

Pengggwn · 15/10/2017 07:46

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user789653241 · 15/10/2017 08:12

Pengggwn, please don't despair. There are parents like me who think the teacher did the right thing, and appreciate their dedication to educate our children.
Some of the comments on here are beyond understanding for me too.

manicmij · 15/10/2017 08:20

Teacher was doing her job - showing children that anything found no matter where, does not automatically belong to the finder. Why on earth did you allow your DD to take money into School? You should have taken for safe keeping. Some you win, some you loose situation- forget it.

MaisyPops · 15/10/2017 08:33

Supportive parents are the norm irvine. It's just MN threads tend to attract people who love a pop at teachers.

I would disagree with it going straight to the charity box but it should have been confiscated. But the way to deal with that would politely call school or queery it at home time (not as some people suggest complaining and kicking off or telling your child to be argumentative back to a member of staff).

Oliversmumsarmy · 15/10/2017 08:59

I'm appalled at the people that think it's ok to keep what they find. What kind of children are we going to have in the future

Hopefully ones with a lot more common sense than is being shown on here.

Of you find a random coin in the street and you didn't see who had dropped it. Then it is yours to keep.
If someone came up to you and said it was theirs how would they go about proving it was theirs
OTOH if you find a purse with a £1 in it then that is a completely different situation. It is identifiable and someone could describe the colour and style of the purse .

On the issue of the teacher being in charge. I am interested to know why she thought she had more authority than the mother who knew the child had found the money and had allowed her DD to keep it with her.

Only person in this scenario who has stolen anything is the teacher.

hippyhippyshake · 15/10/2017 09:13

Are you aware oliversmumsarmy that being telepathic is NOT a requirement for a teacher at the moment? As far as the teacher knows op's dd found the money on the 'floor' and to most of the English-speaking world that means indoors and here it would probably mean the classroom. Therefore money belongs to someone else. So simple but so hard and draining on here sometimes.

Willow2017 · 15/10/2017 09:40

Hippy
So the teacher thought the money 'belonged' to another child in school.
So instead of handing it in to the office in case a child told someone they had lost it she put it in a sealed charity box so they couldn't get it back anyway. Genius.

bastardkitty · 15/10/2017 09:43

^ what Willow said

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