Teacher 'donated' Dds money!

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My daughter has a knack for 'finding pennies'. She is 8. She collects the 5ps/10ps she finds for sweeties and the 1ps and 2ps go in a piggy bank until it's full. She find a them outside on the floor.

On the way to school yesterday she was saying that she wanted a mini figit spinner from the machine outside our local newsagents.
She had been super good this week and I was already planning on giving her £2 as a reward but she said 'I might find a pound!' So to humour her 'abilities' I dropped a pound a few minutes later and she spotted it.

She was super excited.

When I picked her up from school she was quiet and when we got near the ship I asked her if she wanted to get her toy she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school and the teacher said it wasn't hers to spend and told her to put it in the classroom charity collection box!!

Aibu to demand it back and be quite pissed off?

Oh it's a 'sealed' charity box now is it? How about a 'box' where things that are 'found' go? We don't know! And until op updates us we'll never know!

The teacher was an officious twat with no understanding of appropriate legal ,professional and moral boundaries. She needs to be brought down a peg

Our primary school had charity boxes for different causes and they were all sealed and collected intact. Teachers did not have access to open them it's pretty standard with charity boxes so no one can help Themselves.

How do you know that the 'charity box' isn't a big red plastic box that contains all sorts of 'found' stuff and goes to charity if no one claims it? You don't. It could be a sealed money tin. The teacher could be an arse. We don't know. Op had chances to sort it before she came on here but getting us all fired up and chanting for the teacher's blood is much more fun.

I really do despair at the attitudes of some people towards their children's teachers. These are the people helping your DC every day, dealing with their minor (sometimes major) upsets, teaching them manners and morals as well as guiding their academic progress

Yes, all true. But they can also be wrong, and in this case, were wrong.

I am not chanting for any blood. Teachers are on the whole fantastic but having known a few really crap teachers over the years I absolutely know that they are not all paragons of virtue and deserve respect simply due to their job description.

This teacher made a misteak and she should own up to it or it makes a mockery of her so called 'moral stance'.

They are the same as any other professional. They get respect when it is due and not when it isn't. They aren't simply the worlds greatest teachers because they are teachers.

I have 2 in primary now. One has a fantastic teacher, absolutely wonderful, had my full respect and support. The other one.....well she seems like a nice young woman, but honestly she's not a great teacher, yet anyway. 2 months into the year and she still can't remember my childs name. Mixes up books, tells them they haven't done homework and then discovers she forgot to tell them what it was. Late for parent teacher meetings etc etc.
Does she have my respect? Not much of it, to be honest.

worlds greatest people.

Pengggwn could you explain that last point about bow teachers have earned our respect.I don't understand what you mean?

Yeah I have to say the teacher would probably be mortified to hear the details to be fair. You have no idea how much of the story she knew when she suggested putting pound in the charity box.
I think you are unreasonable to be so annoyed when you don’t have the full story. The teacher probably thought she was doing the right thing. A civil and polite conversation would be the right thing to do if you feel strongly about it. If not just be happy a pound has gone to charity and reward your DD for being so generous for those less fortunate.

To those thinking we are attacking this teacher you could not be more wrong, the teacher has made a mistake and her actions resulted in unintentional theft of a students property. There is no reason to go to police and report her or try to have her removed from her position. But she needs to know that she can not force a student to put money into charity tins, which are often locked!, as that is hardly legal even when it isn't for personal gain. The ops dd did not give the teacher permission to use this money but was forced by authority of teachers position to do as she was told. If the teacher did her job right she would have confiscated the money to the office and dealt with this case at the end of the day. It is a minor case but it is important as there is values that need to be installed. Being dishonest with a teacher is the lession taught, not a good moral lesson. There is a difference between these matters: purses, notes and identifiable scenarios versus the random change on the ground and it is our job to teach these differences. Not be judge and jury and end up stealing someone else's change. The teacher doubtedly put much thought into this scenario and has done wrong in her execution In this matter. Having a talk with the teacher and help ensure that lesson learned : found goods get taken to office, not disposed of according to teachers whim.

I agree with previous poster... we don't know enough about the 'charity box' to be able to make a judgement. I know of schools where things found were put in there until a set time, and if not claimed was then given to charity. If this is the case, then it is a reasonable step to take. If a sealed charity collection box, then it's not (unless there is some kind of school policy on this), which again we don't have enough information to make a judgement.

However, I would say I would consider the OPs decision to drop coins for her child to find and keep to be a poor decision. I do not like the message this teaching her child... finders keepers. That's not what should be encouraged in my book. I have never encouraged this attitude with my own children. If we find money, I've always encouraged them to hand it in. And yes, even the 57p we found at a leisure centre once. Again, as previous posters have said, some woman was arrested for finding £20 note and keeping it... because to do such things is illegal. I do think there's a difference between occasionally finding some money and being unable to return it and actively dropping money to encourage a "finders keepers" attitude. If my child needed £1, I would have got them to earn it.

she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school

On the way to school. Means not on the floor in school but when she was with her DM outside of school.
Not only did the teacher deprive the child of money but she decided she was morally superior to the parent and after taking the money from the ops DD she put it in a charity box.

Someone upthread was asking why if this happened Thursday why the OP was posting about this on Friday afternoon.
Maybe you can only see the teachers after school with an appointment.

I don't expect any professional to earn my respect: they have it by virtue of their position, until they prove they aren't competent for that position

Bit of a dangerous position that. Giving people automatic respect and authority because they've passed an exam or two.

Not surprised to hear you are a teacher.

. If you can't do, teach.If you can't teach, teach primary.

I'm not a teacher but I'm horrified by the tone of this thread. No wonder today's schools have such discipline issues if some posters on here are the role models for respectful behaviour. Depressing stuff. "Twat" "gobshite" she can "fuck off." Seriously?

And fwiw, I don't think she should have taken the pound either (or that your dad should have even had it at school in the first place) but imagine she was doing what she felt best with the knowledge she had at the time. A calm, good humoured conversation is always the best approach in these situations, not full on aggression. For the sake of a pound, I'd chalk it up to experience.

Dd not dad. Stupid iPad

whirly

Don't take it to heart. There are gobshites on every thread. And the specialised subject for some is winding up teachers