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Aibu to not know why you wouldn't be able to feed your DC's breakfast?

511 replies

Bearlover16 · 12/10/2017 18:06

Daughters school has recently extended the 'paid' breakfast club to 'free' breakfast club due to an increase in the number of children going to school not having had any breakfast.

Are people really that much on the bread line that they cannot buy a loaf of bread or some cheap porridge oats for less than a quid?

I'm not well off by any means and I do donate to food banks when I can. I also ensure my dcs have had breakfast before leaving the house as I was always led to believe it's the most important meal of the day.

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DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:07

*Persiancatlady
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Not at all. You can’t accuse someone of cheating if they have given all the information in full, in date, unforged, questioned it, questioned it again, and still got the same answer.

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 14:13

Not at all. You can’t accuse someone of cheating if they have given all the information in full, in date, unforged, questioned it, questioned it again, and still got the same answer.

Yes you can. If you give the information in full you will not be entitled. If you do not give the information in full then you are liable for prosecution.

The most common benefit fraud prosecutions are under 'failure to declare'. it's a catch all prosecution then. That's all it is. You are simply liable for failing to declare.

EvilDoctorBallerinaVampireDuck · 16/10/2017 14:15

If you'd read my post, you'd have seen that fat and Brussels sprouts was referring to XH. I was using him as an example of what happens when you force feed a child. DD has only just started eating breakfast and was assessed as GAT 4 years ago. DS1 is also probably GAT, but was never assessed. I force fed DS1 once on the advice of an idiot GP, he was crying, I was crying. Next day I took him to A & E and he was diagnosed. The doctor there said I was right to let him live on chocolates off the Christmas tree, because it was keeping him alive. Never again will I force feed anyone.

Coconutspongexo · 16/10/2017 14:17

Daisy is ignorant your word of the day? Give it a rest

PersianCatLady · 16/10/2017 14:24

Not at all. You can’t accuse someone of cheating if they have given all the information in full, in date, unforged, questioned it, questioned it again, and still got the same answer
Have you told your LA that you are receiving student finance of whatever it is a year??

They should disregard £10 a week and the rest comes off of the HB.

While you may be entitled to a token amount, no-one I have ever dealt with has received SF and full HB.

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:27

JonSnowsWife

Not failure to declare if I declared everything.

😊

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:31

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DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:31

10-12 letters and you may be on to something 😂

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 14:32

If you declared everything, then you wouldn't be entitled in the first place.

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:32

Rents in my area are over £1000 pcm for a 2 bed 😊
I’m sure if you are paying £200-£300 you would not get anything

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:33

JonSnowsWife

Yes you would. Not for yourself. For your DC

Coconutspongexo · 16/10/2017 14:37

You really think you're above everyone intellectually don't you Daisy?

I feel sorry for you.

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 14:38

Yes you would. Not for yourself. For your DC

That's not quite how assessing your income works re student finance.

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:53

I don’t think I’m above everyone intellectually not by a long stretch but trying to make out I’m an idiot??

You expect me not to stick up for myself??

You don’t need to feel sorry for me love.

Also if you couldn’t tell I was being facetious 🤷‍♀️

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 14:56

JonSnowsWife

Well, the amount student finance allot for housing would not even pay for a 1 bed in my area, so HB make up the difference to a 2 or 3 bed if people have DC.

Not the only one I know who has been in that financial situation either.

👌

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 15:04

Yes whilst all the people who have been through uni and know this not to be the case are simply talking bollocks? Confused

Okay then hun.

DaisyRaine90 · 16/10/2017 15:13

“All these people”

As I said three people can disagree with something you say and you can still be right.

Pls pick on the HB thing. You can get HB top up if you are a full time student and meet certain criteria.
If you don’t get it then maybe your circumstances are different?

You can get tax credits, child benefit etc.

I am not going to continue this because I know I am right regarding HB in particular scenarios. If yours is different in any way it would not apply.

Also as al decisions are at the discretion of your local area their may be differences due to that.

Tbh the housing benefit thing is so irrelevant to my original point and this has digressed so far I am not going to waste my time on it anymore.

Make your kids a bowl of cornflakes. How hard it that? If you have time to come on here you have time to do that 😂😊

Coconutspongexo · 16/10/2017 15:18

Are you suggesting it's us who are the 'lazy'
parents now?! 'If you have time to come on here'

For future reference child benefits aren't technically a benefit. 100% not able to claim tax credits.

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 15:32

if you have time to come on here

The same could be said for you! Hmm

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 15:33

Glad to see you've stopped flogging that completely wrong and factually incorrect dead horse then.

JonSnowsWife · 16/10/2017 15:34

Dipping Don't be rude. You're simply wrong innit! Grin

tunnelBear · 16/10/2017 15:37

@EvilDoctorBallerinaVampireDuck

I have no idea what GAT is. I assume not Gifted and Talented.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/10/2017 18:16

Have you thought about earning a bit of pin money fills out people's benefit claim forms Daisy?

I'm sure that giving you £50 will be nothing to them as you are guaranteeing £48,500.

EvilDoctorBallerinaVampireDuck · 16/10/2017 19:28

tunnel yes. Just making the point that people who don't eat breakfast aren't necessarily held back academically because of it. I believe in offering food, not forcing it on people.

Coconutspongexo · 16/10/2017 19:57

I was first diagnosed as anorexic when I was 8 I'm 27 and still anorexic but I've got a really good academic record.

Breakfast isn't the be all and end all of education.

Although I do understand its importance but force feeding isn't the right thing to do either.

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