... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

Some people were clearly absent the day social skills were dealt out. I'm 6ft 3 and female so I've been called everything from huge, giant, big girl, even the big bird! usually by small men

Unbelievable thread.

18/20 is completely normal OP

I wonder how many of the people being deliberately unkind on this thread also post crap on facebook about being kind to people - and read / comment on other threads about unkindness and like to think they are nice people?

It's really not hard to grasp the face that everyone has something they are self conscious / unhappy about / would prefer not to be identified by - so it is unkind and spiteful to use a classically perceived negative about someone else to identify them!

Saying the fat / huge / spotty / skinny / skeletal person is NOT the same as saying dark haired / blonde / person with glasses.

It's not hard people.

This happened in work the other day. Customer comes in looking for "Sarah" the Sarah on duty appears and customer says "Oh not her, I meant the skinny Sarah!"

I had that, when working in a college a while ago, in a support capacity.

As I was sitting working with my student, a student referred to one of the support workers. Another student said, “oh, you mean Butchy?”

“No, not her,” was the response, “I meant the pretty one.”

@plantsitter

Try to reframe the comment though...you are tall and you take up room. You are striking. People notice you. Why the fuck shouldn't you exist? You are GREAT. You don't have to take up less room to be acceptable.

Love it! That's what I'm taking from this thread.

Threads about body size certainly bring out the dickheads don't they?

I'm sorry, OP, that must have been really hurtful.

I'm currently what I like to think of as curvy (actually fat) and I'd be very upset if I heard this. I like to think It would motivate me to go on a diet but actually it would probably have me reaching for the chocolate.

Annie anyone who had read the thread properly would understand that yours and my posts for that matter weren’t “fat bashing” I don’t appreciate being lumped in with Dexter for being goady.

I just go by shop size labels.
Sm, med, large, x large, xx large.

8/10 sm, 12/14 med, 16/18 large 18/20 xl 20/22 xxl

It was no doubt a very hurtful thing to hear OP and I hope no one says anything like that to or about you again

As for obesity healthy food is far more expensive so no wonder lower income individuals/families are affected by this. I once saw someone comment on another forum something like "well how much is a banana or apple" but single stand alone items like that don't make a meal or feed four children. (Likewise, healthy ready meals in the supermarket can cost £3.50 each and feed one person) Whereas a bag of chicken nuggets for a quid...

I just think it's something to consider before blaming people entirely for not necessarily their preferred choices

Dearie me there's a lot of sizeism nastiness on this thread. I'm 6'2" - from reading this thread I'm starting to worry there's something horrendously abnormal about me.

I have never given my height a second thought apart from the occasional bought of frustration at the length of clothes, but now I'm starting to wonder whether people are laughing and pointing behind my back, or referring to me as 'you know, the huge one.'

Essentially saying they pay tax on their products makes it okay when the NHS ends to taking the brunt is a bizarre argument

What a shame that, as so often, posters are accused of something they didn't say at all (and may I politely suggest you might like to look into the definition of collectivity?)

Don't fucking fat shame. That's the answer

It could be, yes, if only we had some agreement on what "fat shaming" actually is. My neighbour makes this claim because, for what seem sensible medical reasons, her doctors won't operate until she loses weight, and a morbidly obese acquaintance claimed the same when the school nurse offered some help from a dietician when her children started down the same path

It would be easy to fall in with what they want and say "ooooooo that's disgusting, how dare they fat shame you?", but would that be the right thing to do?

Bout, not bought.

Tainbri, high five!

PandorasXbox I agree. But I think most people who read the thread before several were deleted know the ones that were fat shaming and those who didn't.

Maybe it would be a good idea if @MNHQ said in the deleted posts why a post was deleted. I.e quoting the fat shaming not joining in with it.

Op YANBU for being upset. Like you say though, it's all relative.

You learn something new every day though don't you? I honestly didn't realise that huge was such a bad word. I just thought it was the next step up from large.

"Unbelievable thread.

18/20 is completely normal OP hmm"

No it's really not a normal size. Part of the reason we have an obesity epidemic is because people have lost track of what " normal" is.

That was a really tactless way to describe you, OP. People do tend to describe people by their stand out features, I am probably described as "ginger with glasses". Still for women especially, huge is quite a loaded term. It wouldn't have killed her to go for "tall and broad" instead.

am literally stunned

...people have lost track of what " normal" is.

Exactly what I've been trying to say.

dan you’re missing the point.

It doesn’t matter if the op is so big she has moons in orbit; to describe someone as huge is rude.

The obesity crisis in the uk is neither here nor there - it’s a thread about rudeness used to describe someone. She may be huge. It’s still rude to describe her like that in the way it was done.

Just like it’s rude to describe an ugly person as ugly, or a thick person as thick. The factual correctness of it is neither her nor there.

For some reason on mumsnet saying the truth about this is like a flag to a red bull and getting banned

Indeed

In fact i'm only surprised the thread's still here at all

It's all perception though isn't it? Poster above says anything under a 10 is tiny, but I'm a 8-10 and I've got a very curvy bum, and I'm 5'8". I have 100% never been described as tiny. I think huge is incredibly rude. 5'8" and size 20 is pretty noticeable though, and is an easy way to mark someone out. I'd probably say "the tall, well-built lady".