... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

I was brought up to think making personal remarks are very rude.

I never comment on anyone’s weight or height.

Why would you ?

stigmastyle I was just thinking that exact same thing

It's unfortunate your feelings were hurt but the harsh truth is that the majority of people describe someone by their most distinguishable feature.

'you know amy from accounts?'
'who?'
'You know the blonde lady?'
' lots of blonde women work here'
'the one with blue eyes?'
'?'
'the one who wears typical work clothes, but every once in a while a knitted purple cardigan?'
'kind of...'
'the larger lady?'
'oh yeah'! Why didnt you just say larger lady to begin with? '

Usually to save time people get straight to the point and isnt meant for their eyes.....not a great thing to hear but in all fairness everyone judges, whether that be baby names, someones choice of clothes or their physical appearance etc.

Anyone who says they don't is either lying or unaware they're subconsciously doing it.

Basically its sad your feelings were hurt, but thats life... Try and channel these feelings into something positive whether that be a foul mouth response to the person who said or something else...

Anatidae I read that as Joe having a huge cock - wasn't sure how one would identify him with that in an office environment!? Him being a huge cock would make more sense

YANBU OP - how very rude of her.

I am mortified by all the unpleasantness on this thread too.

"If you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything" springs to mind.

It's incredibly rude to voice (unpleasant) personal opinions about someone else's appearance.

The obesity crisis is not the reason the NHS is on it's knees. Funding issues, along with being understaffed and overworked are the reason they are falling on its knees

I used to think the same myself, except that there are some very responsible bodies telling us otherwise ... they're really not hard to find if anyone wants to search

FWIW I do agree about the problems around where to draw the line, though I'm not sure smokers/drinkers are the best examples when the tax they pay for their choices covers much of their collective treatment costs

As I've said, it's a complex issue and there aren't any simple answers - not even denial

Large isn’t rude in the way that huge is. I know what you mean, actually, Chirpychirpycheapcheap. But in that case, the large lady wouldn’t know you’d described her that way.

Just don’t describe people that way to DCs though. DD2 came back from school last year, telling me that her friend had told her that her mum had described DD2’s mum as ‘fat’. (I was then.)

I cannot believe that this thread includes a discussion about "the obesity crisis".

How many people have ever, ever lost weight as a result of someone else pointing out their size? Those of us who are fat generally know we are fat.

Calling someone "huge" is fucking rude, however tiny or not they are.

(And I'd love to be 5'8", OP!)

I know a woman, who’s around 6ft, her feet are pretty huge, as is she because of her height. She’s very small boned and narrow and a 10/12. I don’t know about huge but she’s tremendously tall with a super model figure.

Some of my friends are pretty overweight and much bigger than me. I don’t consider them huge. They are definitely obese, category 2. I’m 5’7” and have put on weight recently due to health and a 16/18. Since putting on 12kg, I am just inside the cat 1 obese. I’d be pretty annoyed if anyone called me huge.

FWIW I do agree about the problems around where to draw the line, though I'm not sure smokers/drinkers are the best examples when the tax they pay for their choices covers much of their collective treatment costs

Most people on a respiratory ward would be there because they smoke. I very much doubt the small tax they pay on their 10 Richmond king size covers the thousands and thousands of pounds used when they then end up in with pneumonia etc. I was once in hospital where a woman with pleurisy kept going outside every half an hour for fag breaks despite the doctors telling her it makes it worse.

Essentially saying they pay tax on their products makes it okay when the NHS ends to taking the brunt is a bizarre argument.

It's akin to me excusing the obesity crisis because those that choose to eat junk food pay sugar tax.

I'm really sorry this happened to you, why do people feel the need to be so nasty? To my mind your actual size is entirely irrelevant here, the comment was absolutely unacceptable. We all leave school thinking we've grown up and moved on from this type of thing, but sadly some people will always be horrible and childish.

I’m sorry for my cock based derailment 😁

Perhaps one doesn’t preclude the other...?

I'm guessing my posts were deleted because I quoted the vile posts.

Just for the record, MY comments were NOT fat bashing at all.

It would be nice of MNHQ to remember to put that in their message 🌷

I read it like he HAS a big cock too. However, the funny thing is, I just assumed he'd 'been around' a bit 😂

Nothing like a good derailment.

Bloody hell, who know that there was a provisional branch of Weight Watchers?

Lol at people pretending there are no more suitable adjectives than "huge". It sounds malicious OP. As a fat woman myself I always prefer to be referred to as such - let's not beat around the bush. It's ok to be fat, it's not ok for people to be c*nts

It doesn't matter whether someone is tiny, average or larger. You just don't refer to someone by their weight. it's extremely rude and upsetting. Really sorry you were on the receiving end of your colleagues ignorant and very immature remark.

AnnieAnoniMouse don't worry, there was only one gf here and hopefully they've got bored and left! It must have just been your quotes as your posts were fine

Some words are more loaded with values than others. Huge is a ruder term than large which is a simpler comparison against average. "Large" is considered objective enough to be a descriptor of clothing size.

People do tend to go for the most obvious physical characteristic. On me, "small" is one of the most obvious superficial descriptions. Some synonyms are fine, small, petite, some are ruder such as midget.

People compare others against their own filters. Trying to be fairly objective about myself, I'm averagely short for a short person (not unusually shorter than average) and an average build for that height (not unusually slim built) but I am perceived against other people's build; scale me up to an average height and my build would be medium and people's perceptions different against their experience.

OP is taller than average (but not unusually so) and broader than average (again, not unusually so), and that will be an obvious first observation (unless her hair is dyed pink or any other unusual distinguishing features). "Huge" is not a diplomatic word to express that though.

I get called "huge", and "a big girl"

At 6 ft1 and size 12/14, I get that I am bigger than averages and by no means tiny or skinny, but why do people have to go on about it?

I once corrected my boss (who calls me "big girl") saying that I think saying "tall" is ok, but not happy with the label "Big". Well, he just laughed and laughed. He is "only" 5ft7 and very slim, so I guess that in comparison to him, I am indeed huge. yet I never summoned up the energy yet to call him "tiny"...also, what would that achieve.

But yeah, it sucks if in your mind you look "normal" and then people point out you don't....

This happened in work the other day. Customer comes in looking for "Sarah" the Sarah on duty appears and customer says "Oh not her, I meant the skinny Sarah!"

Some people apparently live in a parallel universe where manners have not yet been invented.

YANBU

My best friend (passed away now sadly) was a shade over 6 feet tall, with size 9 feet. She needed a size 24 on her top half due to boobage, but looked fab in her size 14 jeans. She would go out wearing very high heels as well , I'm 5'2", and prefer wearing flats.

Please can we have a little bit of common sense on the BMI thing, as most of the calculators are very crude. Many professional athletes e.g. rugby players, sprinters, throwing event athletes and decathletes have a BMI well over the supposedly "normal" range, as muscle is much heavier than the same volume of fat and these are all superbly fit people.

Lol at people pretending there are no more suitable adjectives than "huge"

Quite. You can't possibly think of another description that doesn't sound so unpleasant. I'm taller and fatter than OP and have no issue being decribed as "large" or "fat" or "big".

Not quite sure it requires a discussion of the currrently obesity crisis and the state of the NHS to understand that being socially polite to strangers keeps the wheels of society oiled.

If blunt naked unvarnished honesty with no holds barred is the order of the day it's going to be an interesting world we live in.

"that man with the huge nose"
"that woman with the miniscule bosom"
"that child with the awful clothes"

Ah, it took a while but it always happens on these threads: someone claiming that many sports people have bmis outside normal range. No. No they don't.

Many professional athletes e.g. rugby players, sprinters, throwing event athletes and decathletes have a BMI well over the supposedly "normal" range, as muscle is much heavier than the same volume of fat and these are all superbly fit people.

And so health professionals will take this into account when looking at their overall health. However, for Joe and Jane Bloggs who eat a normal diet, do a moderate amount of exercise and enjoy a slice of cake now and then the BMI chart is a good indicator of health. There is around a 30lb range of what is "healthy" at each height too so it's not that rigid and prescriptive.