... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

Size 18/20 isn’t normal as in a healthy weight, no, but it’s normal in the sense that it’s not unusual.

That isn’t the issue here anyway, you may well think that 18/20 is huge but that’s different from calling someone huge in such a way that they’ll hear you.

@mynameisnotmichaelcaine, that’s a very good description. I would certainly have been happy to hear myself described that way when I was a larger size. (I’m happy not to be that size now, though.)

Everyone has a right to have their own thoughts on what is "huge" and what is healthy, what is attractive etc. But no one has the right to pass those judgements onto other people - their body, their business.

The NHS argument is a smokescreen, not only because it is also burdened with many other self-inflicted ailments (go into any A&E on a Saturday night and see how many incidents are caused by alcohol, for example) - but also because it hides the unpleasant taste of moral superiority and judgement. It is acceptable to pass open judgment on fat people, it brings out the schoolyard bully in many people, who don't really give a fig about a stranger's health.

Talk about the burden of obesity on the health service in the abstract, by all means that is a valid conversation, but commenting directly on a stranger's weight using negative terms is really nothing to do with that.

Anyone that is fat is huge. In comparison to those of a normal healthy weight.

People have lost sight of what fat is because so many people are fat these days. Same with animals your dogs too thin! Nope my dog is healthy yours is obese however.

Until people open their eyes and truly look at what is around us people will continue to get fatter and fatter Until normal weight becomes akin to anorexic looking in people's eyes.

Thanks for sharing how slim you are danTDM. It's super relevant.

Huge is a gross exaggeration. Huge to me is someone well over a 18/20. I'm large (size18).
Sorry you've been upset OP, it's horrid. I think people think overweight people are immune to feelings just because we're fat, we're not.

You're welcome. I was sharing that I have been called 'huge' because of my height. Not my weight.

I thought that was relevant.

I've been 'slimshamed' HELP MUMSNET.

18/20 is fat FFS. pp

5'10 is tall but I wouldn't consider anyone that height as 'towering'.

Generally we consider it rude to call someone out over a physical feature. Can you imagine saying "oh, you'll recognise her, she's the one with the massive nose" or "Oh, you'll recognise her, she's the one with craters all over her face"?
Fwiw I'm a size 18/20 and only 5ft5 (I had twins 6 weeks ago and my bodies gone to pot). I do look huge but I just don't think it's ok to describe someone as that. There arr plenty of nicer ways to put it.

With heels on, I was much taller than anyone. 5'10'' with 4'' heels is tall?

I didn't wear heels in the end.

2 glasses of wine a night, however, a PROBLEM

Yes. Because that's totally the same as being an alcoholic needing emergency hospital treatment because you've fucked your liver up. But it's okay because they paid tax on the wine and the other person ate one too many Krispy Kremes.

Well I thi

It's rude, but truthful, people are. [shrug]

What a cop out. Rude people are just that.

Rude.

Hiding behind the 'I just tell the truth / say it how it is' just makes me file such people into the twat category.

It is absolutely horrible to overhear someone calling you huge no matter whether you are or not .

I am very skinny and hate it, people have called me a bag of bones, skin and bone etc and it kills me, I feel so utterly crap and just want to hide forever. Bit like the heavier people knowing I know too why do people have to be so cruel? I cannot do anything about it and even if I could why does it become a matter of pointing it out to the poor person? I know the OP only overheard, it wasn't to her face but still really awful.

I think we were saying the same thing Jonsnow

Not sure though?

@starwhisperer congratulations on your twins.

rise yes, yes. I am skinny, my DD is too.

People insinuate I don't feed her properly!
She eats like a horse and yes, rude is rude and it is rude.

There are three situations in which it’s reasonable to describe someone as “huge” out loud.

A) they are Brienne of Tarth
B) they are eight and a half months pregnant with twins
C) they are about to enter a body building competition

As the most common size is 16 and I know a lot of women who are taller than 5'8" and many women who are a lot bigger than a size 18-20 I'd probably not think you were very big at all, unless you were surrounded by very small people at the time, perhaps.

A) they are Brienne of Tarth

Brilliant!

dan stop making this about you and your height. I'm taller than you and don't make a production show over it - even when I wear heels. And yes I don't like poutine either. Good thing my NN wasn't based on it.

I'm NOT making this about me.

AT ALL
I'm saying I have been called 'huge' many times. And I am not!