... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

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Wow! I'd not expected that response!

To those who asked I am ok... Although mildly appalled at the rudeness.

To those attempting to fat shame...... If you are so sure of your views - please divulge your proper name?

There are many more reasons people are overweight than laziness!

Glad you're ok op

Glad you are OK.

Why would people give their name? They may have other private issues posted on here under it. Asking for their name proves nothing

"Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl... "

Calling you huge to your face = rude, referring to you as huge = not rude.

Because it's bonkers to expect to control how people talk about you when you are not there.

But I was there... Walking through a reception area... They just didn't see me...

Quack porridge.... I wasn't expecting people to actually reveal their names... Just calling them on their unpleasantness /bullying stance.... It was not to those who had a different opinion but expressed it in such an aggressive /shaming way

If you weren’t expecting them too then why ask? It was a failed attempt at proving something to yourself. No one has actually fat shamed or at least I don’t believe they have. You are fat you would be classed as obese and that is fact, end of discussion really. I’m slightly taller than you and a size smaller and I am fat, I am heavy I have bad knees and struggle to breathe when using stairs. I am fat and I would be classed as obese, why deny it?

I don't struggle to breathe or have had knees, individuals will all have different issues in relation to their physical stature/ weight and general health. I am tall and fat by the picture upthread you can see, I am also relatively fit and strong. I think the objection to being described as huge is an honest reaction to an upsetting use of words; regardless of it the person was in earshot I would not choose "huge" to describe a person when there are so many, less loaded, terms to use.

I get that, not everyone who is fat will suffer health issues, they will one day though as it is inevitable. Either way if you have excess fat on your body then by definition oh are fat. If you also happen to be taller than most then huge is a description that some will use. I personally wouldn’t but I have before said bigger lady or bigger man maybe even the word larger instead of bigger. Either way fat is fat and I don’t know why people tried to bounce around that with words like curvy.

You* not oh.

So not everyone overweight has health issues until they do?

We are arguing semantics. Weight is a visible indicator of "weakness" people despise it in themselves and judge others for carrying extra weight, then use health concerns to legitimise the judging. If we are truly going to be honest about weight it is still unnecessary to be insensitive to how people may feel. So say "the woman with team green top" not "huge" it is just as true and not likely to offend.

Team should be the! My kindle is always rewriting my posts bloody irritating.

I get that, not everyone who is fat will suffer health issues, they will one day though as it is inevitable.

Well using that logic, everyone will no matter what size.

I mean weight caused health issues. Yes most people will suffer with ill health at some point but if you are fat and don’t do anything about it (like myself) then surely the extra weight will put pressure on joints etc especially the knees. Also fat on organs can lead to issues with them. If you are overweight and suffer no issues at the moment that’s great but surely over time you will. If I am wrong then I apologise as I am not an expert and wouldn’t claim to be.

The point is that whether or not the OP is an unhealthy weight, it is simply rude to refer to someone as huge

It wouldn't be acceptable to describe someone as the lady with the big hooter or the ugly man over there. "Huge" has negative connotations and the lady in question could have chosen a far less insulting way to describe OP.

quack How do you know the op is obese? Has she told you her BMI?

I forgot the word if, I do apologise. I was meant to say if you are fat then you are obese, which is true, surely?

Ahh wait I see where I have gone wrong, I’m imagining her weight due to dress size when in reality she may be slim. However I am taller and a size smaller and I am classed as obese so by assumption I would assume that the op is obese.

Quack have you read the whole thread? I think you will find plenty of fat shaming. It really is not ok to assume stuff about someone by the way they look.

I have read the thread yes. All I have seen is people stating fact that the op sees herself as curvy whereas most people will see her as fat seeing as she is of the dress size a larger person would wear, like myself. I wear a 16 in bottoms and an 18 in tops and I am fat, I have loads of wobbly bits and I would be classed as obese. The Op who is shorter and wears a bigger dress size I would naturally assume looks larger than me but could be the same weight just carried differently. Fat is fat, we all have it and some more than others and some more than they really should for their body type and height. If that is fat shaming then I do apologise as I don’t see it as that. If I have missed particular comments insulting the Op then again I apologise.

I think some of them have been deleted, but there are still a few, plus all the fake concern ones.

Threads around weight really annoy me I’m sorry I’m so sick of larger people moaning about their weight ! Ugh 😑
If it bothers you so much diet and exercise is the answer! Iv been a size 18 and I didn’t moan about my weight I dealt with it and I’m now a size 8! Loose the weight or don’t and deal with people smaller than your dress size commenting yes it’s shit but won’t change unless you change it
Sorry rant over

She is NOT moaning about her weight!
Jesus wept.
Maybe just maybe if society wasn’t so bloody obsessed with what people looked like, we could all just be happy with ourselves the way we are
radical eh?

Threads around weight really annoy me I’m sorry I’m so sick of larger people moaning about their weight ! Ugh 😑
If it bothers you so much diet and exercise is the answer! Iv been a size 18 and I didn’t moan about my weight I dealt with it and I’m now a size 8! Loose the weight or don’t and deal with people smaller than your dress size commenting yes it’s shit but won’t change unless you change it

I can't change my weight. It hasn't stopped ignorant people making comments.

HTH