... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

i hate bmi.you could have two people with exactly the same weight for heigh and because of there makeup could look completely different.its doesn't take into account the way the weight is distriputed.
they show a program where they lined up 12 people all the same bmi and the difference in how they look was astonishing.

Actually I have viewed a file which said that when BMI was 1st categorised healthy was 20 to 25 so it's quite scary that a University is saying that a small framed 5ft woman would be healthy at 90 pounds.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4890841/

Quite a long way down above article indicates that healthy was originally 20 to 25.

Fantastic what is unhealthy about being 5 foot and 6 stone 4?

It is a Bmi of 17. Something which is underweight.

Horribly rude and hurtful. Said 3rd party was a bitch.

Incorrect. bMI calculations for the petite and tall have been revised and the 90 pound 5 footer would have a revised bMI of 18.5.

For me the benchmark here isn’t perceived body shape/size but considering how would the description make me feel if said about me. Being described as huge would make me feel hurt. That’s all I need to consider.

As for some suggesting this is perhaps a good wake-up call, I would beg to differ. Lots of women put on considerable weight and often this is due to emotionally eating. Pointing out weight gain and excess fat isn’t helpful in most cases, as it just adds to the spiral of self-loathing and comfort binge eating. I refuse to watch weight-loss type programs because I find most of them emotionally abusive. That poop poking quack Gillian McKeith is among the worst. I remember her humiliating some poor lady for piling on the weight and it transpired that she lost both parents in quick succession only very recently and was overwhelmed with grief. Comfort eating to deal with the raw pain is still a damn side better than excessive drinking or taking drugs and may have been a temporary coping mechanism. And most women really aren’t unaware about their weight, they may simply chose not to address this until they feel ready to tackle their issues and try to lose weight. A lot of taller women actually do not look fat/obese or ‘huge’ as a size 18-20, it really depends on how the weight is distributed. Anyway, back to the OP, the description was obnoxious and bitchy.

OK so a 90 pound 5 footer is just within normal with yet another category revision.
I am screwed.

As it would seem I need to adjust down my target wait.
And I agree Re wake up call. When I had a surprise pregnancy after my mother's and sisters death (I had comfort eating a bit do was obese) I knew I needed to be careful and I was until a midwife told me I shouldn't gain any weight during whole pregnancy. That I would be assessed by anaesthetist etc etc.
So it really didn't help. Although breastfeeding and tramadol did.
Some random at work made a comment to my sister when she was a size 14 and she developed anaroxia(sp).

temptress - 'Comfort eating to deal with the raw pain is still a damn side better than excessive drinking'

says who! i would rather get drunk than comfort eat any day - i think over eating to deal with emotional pain is a really bad idea, and i have never done it

As a one off lethal fine but if you are drinking excess alcohol regularly than you have as big a problem as the comfort eater.

Dress sizes are a bit misleading so I can’t picture your size. If you’re happy with your weight that’s fine, but if you’re not happy then perhaps look to change it? From a medical point of view your size is probably not healthy. Women with a waist measurement of 32” or above are at an increased risk of heart attacks and stroke - 35” waist or above and it’s a severe risk (source British Heart Foundation).

I am all for body confidence but not necessarily if it means compromising your health. I am personally sceptical of the word “curvy” as any person of any size/weight can be curvy, so to me it doesn’t bear a relation to weight or size, only shape.

i hate bmi.you could have two people with exactly the same weight for heigh and because of there makeup could look completely different.

That's why BMI is a range. So for instance a healthy BMI is 18.5 to 24.9, which if you're 5'7 is anywhere between 118 lbs and 160 lbs. So it allows for individual differences in body type. For some people their ideal weight will be at the lower end of that range and for others it will be at the higher end.

I should have added that describing someone as “huge” is horrible and demeaning, and it should never be said. It is just hurtful.

fantasticday - excess in anything is bad for you - i was merely pointing out that overeating is not better for you than over drinking as the pp was implying!

I agree.lethal

Weight and size are minefield op. I am bigger than you (closer to size 22) and the same height. I am under no illusion that I am curvy. I am absolutely obese (morbidly obese in fact) and not average size at all. I am probably older than you (52) and have noticed many fewer comments about my size from both men and women since I slid into fat middle age territory rather than young and fat.

I wish I could offer help or advice on how to handle it but I know how difficult it is. Only you can decide if you want to lose weight but even if you do, as a woman you will be subject to judgment and comments about how you look (from everyone male and female) regardless of your size.

The comments about your looks will reduce as you slide into middle age. So something to look forward to anyway😕😕

Lethal drizzle
I think drinking alcohol to deal with a proven is a really bad idea and have never done i not even once. I think smoking for the same reason is a bad idea and have never done it, ditto gaming, gambling, taking drugs, having too much sex or the miriad of other addictions out there.

Generally though the damage done by most addictions is not visible to other people. You can't see it on the outside. Lung and liver damage are not outwardly visible. The damage done by the addiction to overeating is very very visible so much easier to see and judge

How rude to comment on someones appearance! You would never describe someone as ugly or that skinny one. Think the person who made the comment is the one with issues not you OP.

Medically,
5ft = 100 lbs
Every 1 inch = 5 lbs

This is insane. If I fit into this classification, I would look like death. The leanest I've ever been, when doing 14hrs of exercise a week, including indoor rock climbing, circus classes and a lot of cycling, was about 24kg heavier than that insane recommendation.
Never forget, there is BIG money to be made in making people unhappy with their weight. Offer them solutions, even if they don't work, after convincing them they will die unless they do something. You can sell them any old snake oil, and they do.

Flumplet
So what am I now? Gargantuan? Mammoth? Gigantor?!

Be Gigantor, you get .

Wow - discussion of weight really brings out the nasty in people.

Nothing to do with weight but I am 5' tall and I sometimes feel I am surrounded by huge people when I'm with a lot of tall friends.

Very late to this thread but OP it doesn't matter if you feel you need to lose weight etc, it is a very rude way to describe someone. Please remember it's say much more about them as a person, than it does about you and your height or weight.
Don't dwell on it, it's there problem not yours.