... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

*Medically,

5ft = 100 lbs
Every 1 inch = 5 lbs*

Medically what? A BMI of 19.5 is on the absolute lowest side of healthy. 8 stone would be closer to ideal according to the BMI scale.

(I think the BMI is BS, but can't think of another medical measurement.)

*Bombardier25966

livehealthy.chron.com/100-pounds-skinny-5foot-girl-1844.html

The University of Washington reports that women should weigh 100 pounds for the first 5 feet of height, plus 5 pounds for each additional inch. The same source notes that large-framed women should add 10 percent, while women with small frames should subtract 10 percent. For example, while a medium-framed, 5-foot-tall woman should weigh about 100 pounds, a small-framed woman of the same height should ideally weigh about 90 pounds and a large-framed 5-foot-tall woman should weigh about 110 pounds, based on the University of Washington guidelines. *

Personally when I was 168 lbs at 5'8" I looked healthy.

I care about good quality food, nutrition and activity, I just don't focus on poundage. A healthy mental attitude and resilience is more important to me. But I accept that other parents will disagree with my attitude.

As I have had members of my family with mental health issues, autism and unfortunately eating disorders. For me as a parent it is very important to have a positive body image and a focus on utility and healthy functional bodies above and beyond current aesthetic ideals and bmi (which is a very limited tool).

Women really are their own worst enemies. The OP was unhappy at being called huge. So many people have come on here and said ‘well you are huge’.
I would never describe someone like that because - well - despite being huge myself I like to think I am a kind person. Regardless of their size. It was bloody rude, end of discussion really.

I am sorry your hurt but maybe she is speaking the truth ?

I get what you're saying bigmouth but kids born to overweight/obese parents, are apparently 12 times more likely to become overweight/obese adults themselves and to struggle with weight issues in childhood too.

It's a cycle that desperately needs to be broken, although there are no easy answers.

Obese = a valid clinical observation.

Huge = more subjective, not knowing the finer details. Ergo rude. it implies a value judgement.

Visually, at 5’8 and a size 18-20 WILL look larger than average.

When describing people we don’t know we always use the most obvious striking features first. This guy, albeit rudely did see her size as looking ‘huge’.
One person has said it out loud but how many others are thinking it.

When we allow ourselves to become overweight we are open to criticism and unwanted opinions as people see excess weight as being generally unattractive.

Time to be honest and see yourself the way others see you. Don’t hide from the camera, stand next to other women and be photographed.

Sometimes it’s the best wake up call to do something about it.

I have also been overweight up to a size 18-20 at 5’10 but I lost 4 stone after hearing a rude horrible man on holiday refer to me as the ‘fat bird’.
He was fucking rude, but he was also right.

It was rude to voice it, but in all honesty given the size/height you've described yourself as I would think that was 'huge'.
I'm not being mean and I certainly would never say that to anyone or a third party but yes it would fit my description.

My family is not particularly obese when looking at my Children, my siblings and their children, Uncles and Aunts etc. Most are well within normal range for height. I am talking about a focus on healthy mental attitudes. I am not sure how to resolve the obesity crisis? Obsessing and lifetime of "being on a diet" is clearly not the answer. I don't claim to answers just my honest response to the issues raised by this thread.

Look at yourself and make your own mind up ! To me it sounds as if you already know that you are nowhere near huge and I declare you the expert on that subject. How many years experience have you got? 30? 40? And these people ? 5 minutes??

A size 12 is actually quite big

I've heard it all now.

Yeah the person WAS rude to you OP, and a size 18 at 5 ft 8 is not that big. Ignore people saying it is. It really is not.

These women (pictured) are 5 ft 8 - 5 ft 9, and size 18 , and no way in hell are they huge/obese etc....

I'm 5'8 and a size 12 and I'm overweight. Not massively, but I could do with losing at least a stone.

I think with all the vanity sizing that goes on nowadays there probably are a large number of overweight size 12 women out there. The number on your clothes is pretty meaningless - I bought a size 8 jumper from Sainsbury's the other day, but it doesn't stop me from being overweight. People should pay more attention to their BMI and their body measurements rather than an arbitrary dress size.

Yeah true. If it's a UK12 though like Topshop, then no. If US12 then yes.

JonSnowsWife Wed 11-Oct-17 20:06:23
"I'm sorry but even a size 12 is verging on the big side"

Im 5 foot 5 and a size 14 with 32HH boobs i was a size 28 with 46G boobs.

Size 12 is not verging on the big side Dont be goady.

Bing sorry but that picture is of a BIG woman. She's big all over. Not that she's unatractive but she is definitely not small or average.

I think what we have learned from this thread OP, is that there are vicious, nasty people everywhere. If OP would describe herself as curvy who is anyone yo dispute thst, it's not like "curvy" is quantifiable, there is no measurement to say what is curvy and what isn't.

Some people need to remember that they are talong to a real woman here, I doubt many of you would say to a friend irl "oh, but you are huge." "No, you are way beyond curvy," or "You should use this as a wake up call." So why speak to someone on a forum like that?

So why speak to someone on a forum like that?

Because nobody can slap you online

@HelenaDove I didnt say that. I was quoting someone else and telling them they were talking bollocks.

I'm not being mean and I certainly would never say that to anyone or a third party but yes it would fit my description.

Why? huge = implies 'whale like proportions' and is bloody rude. It's just basic manners to not refer to someone by 'the fat/huge one' or 'the one with the pointy nose, or my favourite I learnt the other week, someone saying to a bloke he was was 'folically challenged'.

It's social stuff most primary children have already got a good grip on.

A) they are Brienne of Tarth

Or the Mountain or the Hound, I think it's acceptable to call them huge too. :P

I'm sorry but you cannot judge a person's size on their clothing size!! Even when I was underweight I was still in a US size 6 jeans just to fit over my wide hips. The rest of the pants were hanging off me and made me look like I had a saggy bum, but if I went smaller I wouldn't be able to get them over my hips. Same now! (even though I'm not longer a 6), I generally have to go to a 14/16 to get over my hips, but they still sag at the back and legs. For shirts I generally have to go to a M or L and always have in order to go over my shoulders/boobs and cover my long waist.

There's no rhyme or reason to clothing sizes. I can fit into size 8 maxi dresses, but can't get a pair of size 14 jeans buttoned?

We're going off the OP's (who funnily enough hasn't been back) clothing size, which yes, is the above average size. However, we don't know if she carries her weight like Ashley Graeme (whose hour glass figure means she's quite healthy at her size) or Chris Farley (apple and all around the middle).

We can't base health off a clothing size.

Funnily enough, I live in Dubai where most of the clothes come from the UK, and just yesterday my co-workers and I, who come from the Phillippines, China, South Africa and Holland (myself from Canada), were saying how we hate UK sizes because they don't make sense! Even the chubbier Asians (who are definitely overweight), can't fit into the smallest sizes because the clothes are so big, while the Dutch and South African ladies were saying that, even though they are very slim!, they had to go three and four sizes bigger than they would normally would because the clothes are made for petite women. It's insane!

Bing those women are very attractive but they are overweight.

Same with Ashley Graeme. Just because someone is a plus sized model doesn't mean they're not overweight

There is nothing wrong with being overweight. Really there isn’t, being obese is a worry for health reasons, but we all come in very different shapes and sizes, and surely diversity is something to be celebrated, not vilified.

These women (pictured) are 5 ft 8 - 5 ft 9, and size 18 , and no way in hell are they huge/obese etc....

I would not be at all surprised if the second woman is clinically obese.