... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

It is absolutely rude to describe someone as huge out loud in that context.

However I do wish that people wouldn’t describe 18/20 and above as curvy.
People have such a warped idea of what is a healthy weight these days
And telling people that size 18/20 is normal or healthy is just continuing this trend

Dan, yes, huge, but also you are very slim?

And you are happy to be so very slim?

And it's lovely (but difficult) to be so tall and slim

it's a brag dressed up as a complaint

Ruby it is really horrible when people make remarks about your size though, when I have been upset in the past others have said 'oh they are only jealous' and I know that is a pile of pants. You don't tell someone they need a good meal or some meat on their bones if you are jealous, they are just being downright bloody awful. So no bragging or stealth boasting from me, can't speak for Dan but tis not always that way.

Ah no, Ruby

I have always been slim but am now menopausal, I had cancer, was in ICU for 4 months. Last year.

People comment on my weight ALL THE TIME.

OP is overweight, I am underweight, people are rude and comment.

Thanks rise

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Oh Dan that is not good . Hope you are better now?

See what I mean about comments? People should just keep their thoughts to themselves in general as they have no idea what is going on in people's lives.

"Concern trolling"

Yes, its exactly that. Being fat is seen as a moral failing in women, its seen as being caused by sloth and greed and is a sign of general depravity where someone has given in to their hedonistic baser urges instead of being steadfast and temperate.

Men do not get treated the same way.

I’m 5 ft 2. To me, 5 ft 8 is huge. You don’t see too many women of that height where I live

Totally love this. Had a mental image of Frodo gazing out over the shires muttering this,,,

Absolutely rise am fine but with no muscle tone though and had to learn to walk again Everyone and his brother comments on my weight etc. Also my hair!

BUT I have always been thin and tall and people comment on it and my DD.

I really don't like it.

But, don't pretend size 18/20 is normal.

I repeat, it is bloody intrusive though. Especially when they comment in front of your DD.

I'm wondering where the poster upthread lives where most women are no more then 5'6'' and 5'8'' is towering!

Similarly @dan, some people are overweight due to health issues as well. We really don't know what is going on with every individual, and it is better not to comment at all.

Hope you continue to feel better and people start to be more sensitive with their comments. Sounds awful and intrusive.

I'm wondering where the poster upthread lives where most women are no more then 5'6'' and 5'8'' is towering!

I’m voting Guatemala. If indeed it’s not the shires,,,

Absolutely yaz and if the OP has had a health issue I am so deeply sorry.

I have always been thin though and people always had a reason to comment.

Bloody annoying

Huge and curvy are both inappropriate at work. Huge because it’s a far too harsh a label for overweight and curvy makes me think of big boobs etc (like Katie Price) so seems like sexual harassment in a professional sense.

I’m 5 foot 7 like my daughter. I’d say that I was taller than average but not super model in height (5 foot 10+)’ Maybe the 5 foot 2 person lines somewhere outside the UK like the Far East?

Totally love this. Had a mental image of Frodo gazing out over the shires muttering this,,,grin

I’ll go with Frodo. It’s better than Liliput. 👍

the only time I worry about people's weight is when you see whole families who are obese- because the children are being set up for a life of potential long term health issues, and often the parents really don't see it.

I'm sure the parents do see it, but find it very difficult to do anything about it.

I can't help thinking that the reason we are not allowed to state true things is a reflection of the esteem of the receiver rather than anything else.

I know I've got massive bags under my eyes and people constantly say I look tired. I do! I bloody know it! And I don't consider it 'rude', it's just something I am aware draws attention.

I also have a disgusting toenail, a birth mark, a bad hair dye job, a large forehead and massive calves.

It's just stuff that people notice and I have to learn how to deal with it, I just wonder why being overweight isn't in the same category. We all have stuff about us that people notice, we either have to change these things or deal with the responses.

It is factual thst size 20 is huge. It's not shaming, not judgey, just the reality. I don't know how you can expect people not to notice it?

When people say it's nasty and rude, it is only rude if you take it that way, (presumably you also know you are huge) and so the offence only comes because you are not actually comfortable in your own skin, and therefore that has to be your problem not the person who notices it!

If I steal something I can't get hurt about someone pointing out I'm a thief. Prob bad example, but same principle

A better example might be don't bother tidying my house, I can't get offended if someone calls me a sloven

I was 5’8” and a size 18 years ago. My 4’11” size 18 friend called me huge as well.

I am the same size as you, and would retaliate with
'Watch it, or I'll sit on you.'

Rude twat.

It's really simple.

I teach my three year old that we don't comment on people's appearance. There's no need, and whatever you say about somebody could be perceived as rude by them.

If a three year old gets this, then maybe we could all try.

This thread has turned quite nasty. Sorry OP.

So she was describing to someone how to visually recognise you. Why is huge offensive when tall isn't? You are both tallish and large.

I am short and fat. However people seem to describe me as a " hippy". I am not in the least bit and I wish knew why I remind them of one but obviously that's how I come across.

However said blokes don't care as much have got it right. I think they would be devastated to know how many women won't even look at a short bloke but they all seem to manage fine.

Rude to call you that but a size 18/20 isn't usually healthy and I wouldn't say curvy either. A size 12/14 I'd class as curvy.

We seem to have lost all sense of a healthy weight hence children now have to be weighed at school and it pointing out to parents when there is a problem.

I'm sorry but even a size 12 is verging on the big side.

5ft8 and size 18-20 is quite big and unhealthy.

Children have been weighed at school for a long time, even in the days when parents were morally superior beings to parents of today, and fed their children on Findus Crispy Pancakes and Angel Delight.

I am normal, healthy BMI at a size 12 and in no way verging on the big side, unless you mean verging on the tall side at 5'7", or you have an eating disorder, or a very distorted view of women's bodies.