To ask if you take offence at someone you don't know that well shortening your name without invite to do so?

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Even if your name is something like Elizabeth and 'Liz' would be reasonable or indeed Thomas to 'Tom'. Not as in Charlotte to 'Lottie' - I can't exactly articulate why but I find the latter unreasonable.
My name is a bit of a silly 'made-up' name if you like. I'm named after a capital city so when people shorten it it ends up sounding even more ridiculous.
But do you make a point of saying "Well actually can you call me xxx please" even for your dc?

Hate it. Wish I’d stopped it years ago, now most people call me by the shortened version. I can’t suddenly demand everyone calls me by my full name, it would be easier just changing it.

No but I take offence at them enlongating it after I've introduced myself as the short version.

Hi, I'm Steph.

Oh, Stéphanie?

Yes, Stéphanie is my full name but I call myself Steph.

That's great, Stéphanie

Completely agree. My name can be shortened but isn't an actual name if shortened so is only really done by friends and family. I was recruiting to a post at work and was emailing the successful candidate and he called me this shortened, familiar version in every email even though I signed off with my full name. I couldn't decide if he was doing it on purpose but either way, he was a complete dick. Way too over familiar when you don't know someone well.

I almost always go by the shortened version of my name, but use the full version in anything official and in work emails to external contacts, at least until we've built up a bit of a relationship.

I was very annoyed at my last job where upon arrival I found that my email address had been set up as e.g. [email protected] with my name showing as Sam Jones rather than Samantha. I never managed to get it changed and it stayed that way for seven years.

To make things worse, it was a very male-dominated company and industry, so when people saw 'Sam' they would just instantly assume I was a bloke.

Only1scoop When I was in my 20s I came across many a twat man mainly in bars that actually would do that and insist on seeing my drivers license But I don't begrudge them that, tbh I used to always cringe a little when introducing myself as so many people repeated it as if to make sure. But here we are.

My best friends and family shorten my name I have no problem with that as it is done with affection. But someone I don't know or don't know well would be told not too.

No doesn't bother me. I have an unusual name so people say my name wrongly all the time anyway. They can shorten if they like. I'm happy with whatever anyone calls me as long as it isn't rude.

No i like it. My name is short with few abbreviations and I like them all!

This is like fingernails on a blackboard for me: I hate it.

I have a simple name. It sounds as it spells. But, because it's a foreign name, people get confused by it. It often happens that I have to coach people over and over how to say my name, often because someone else has introduced me incorrectly.

I do not have a nickname. Shortening my name changes its pronunciation. Don't. Just don't do it. Grrrr.

The absolute worst is shortening DH's name.

It's French and can't be shortened. Like calling someone called Peter just Pe.

Drives me nuts.

I've a friend named after an American state- she let me guess a few times before revealing it, and I swore never to tell anyone else. She goes by the perfectly normal Jenny 😂 She simply changed what she introduces herself as to people to suit a 'normal' name, absolutely hated her birth name.
As it happens, everyone I know calls me my actual name, two syllables, easily shortened. Hate my name though, so old fashioned.

think being precious about your name is pretty childish

I think calling people precious for wanting to be called their own name takes childish to a whole new level

I hate it; mainly because my first boss used to do it to EVERYONE in a pretty transparent attempt to show how approachable and friendly he was. (The irony being it diminished any genuine 'common touch' he might have had.) Also my name is only four letters long, so it doesn't even work as a shortened version anyway.

I worked with a girl who had a very unusual, four-syllable name that many people tried to shorten. She was VERY forceful in telling people not to, to the point that she would reply to emails addressing her as the short version simply stating 'My name is X', without answering any of the points in the email.

My OH introduced me or more so called me by shortened version of my name to everyone he knew before I met them.
Its been nearly impossible it seems to get anyone to recognise me by my actual name.
Even someone asked what exactly is my 1st name.
Its fairly obvious as short version was just a y added to start of my name but clearly not obvious ie like Jennifer/jenny so why Jennifer is an alien concept(not my real name by the way)

I sign all cards/ address labels my full name all social media full name but no I'm still labelled "Jenny"

My name is Elizabeth.

I couldn't care less if they immediately shorten it. It typically does get shortened to Liz and Lizzy without me ever saying, "By the way, you can call me..." Doesn't bother me. I would only be bothered by someone calling me Eliza or Beth because I despise both as standalone names, and as nicknames.

I think this is standard where I am though. I have DS' Frederick and Samuel, and a DD Lily Rose. I never assumed that everyone would always call them their full names, and always figured people would automatically shorten them. If I wanted people to call them their full names all the time, I'd've named Sam and Fred.

My name gets shortened a lot, can't say it really bothers me

Nope. Don't care. But then my name is hard to shorten.

There are 3 shortenings of my name (traditional Hebrew name). One I go by regularly, family started it when I was wee and it’s stuck. The other two make me cringe, and I really don’t like them. But I tolerate it so I don’t look arsey.

DS1 and DD go by nicknames of their Sunday names, DS2 wasn’t going to but he’s shortened his own name and refers to himself as that so the rest of us do too.

I’m guilty of shortening peoples’ names but only after I’ve heard it already done. Mine is a 4 letter name that gets both shortened and lengthened and gets changed to other words beginning with the same letter, affectionately. I’ll answer to anything!

Every time I visit Liverpool (I LOVE Liverpool) people I meet shorten my name from four syllables to one. Doesn't happen anywhere else, not with strangers anyway.

I see it as a sign of affection rather than an irritant, I don't mind at all, just find it funny!

The only people who ever full names me is my Dad. My Mum only full names me when I am in trouble!

I am 'Jon' to my closest friends, my family, 'JonSnow' to Dad, and then other people who don't know me that well. It doesn't bother me to much but if the bank manager was to suddenly start calling me 'Jon' I'd raise an eyebrow.

I'm guessing not many of you live in Liverpool? Your name is automatically shortened there! I don't mind at all if my name is shortened by people I know. I see it as a sign of affection, however I take issue with people doing it who I don't know and who I am dealing with in an 'official' capacity e.g. if you phone a business.

My daughter has a very short name, which I actually lengthen by adding an -ie sound. I'm the only one to do that though.

I expect people to call me by the name which I use when we are introduced.
I'm not upset about it but it's often done by someone who thinks that what they want yo call you matters more than your choice so it's often arrogant and rude. I don't like rudeness.
It was incredibly common amongst the middle aged me I worked with when I was in my early 20s. It absoloutely was done by the guys who then asked me if I could get them a coffee so it's never sat well with me.
I don't get pissy about it but I do correct them with 'actually my name is (proper name) and I don't like (short name)'
The only time someone ignored that I just got his name entirely wrong for the rest of our relationship. Including on emails and once on a name tag at an event

Names are in the public domain and can be used/said however people feel comfortable, certainly without ‘invite’ to do so.
Total bollocks. My name is mine and I get to decide what people call me.

That said, I don't mind my name being shortened. I have one of those names that every third girl in my school year had, so it doesn't feel personal if someone says 'Sar' instead of 'Sarah'.
Otoh, I put a lot of thought into my dc's names, picked ones I totally love and expect people to use the name I introduce my children as. Certainly I expected it when they were little and bristled if people abbreviated them without asking. It feels so rude.
Now they are older, I figure it's their choice - if they like the shortened version then great and if not, they are all pretty vocal when it comes to making their opinions known.

YANBU I'm always surprised when a person I barely know, refers to me using the shortened version. It feels over familiar and I've never been able to articulate how I've felt about it.

I don't object or ask them to stop, I usually just shrug it off and let it go.

This thread is making me think twice about it.