To ask if you take offence at someone you don't know that well shortening your name without invite to do so?

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Even if your name is something like Elizabeth and 'Liz' would be reasonable or indeed Thomas to 'Tom'. Not as in Charlotte to 'Lottie' - I can't exactly articulate why but I find the latter unreasonable.
My name is a bit of a silly 'made-up' name if you like. I'm named after a capital city so when people shorten it it ends up sounding even more ridiculous.
But do you make a point of saying "Well actually can you call me xxx please" even for your dc?

Yes. It really annoys me.

Family, friends, colleagues who know me well - I have no problem with them using my shortened name.

People who don’t know me well or have only just met me shortening my name gives me the rage!

I must be unusual because it doesn't bother me at all.

I really hate my name because of the way it sounds when everyone shortens it.

It sounds like a whine when shortened and it really gets my goat when people say 'Irm' instead of 'Irma' (much nicer than my real name but still a weird whining sound).

I really don't understand why people shorten it as its really not that long and I never introduce myself using a shortened version.

flufffyy Close but not exactly. My name is London and I can just about cope with 'Elle' i.e L. But what the fuck is 'Lon'??

I'm guilty of doing this to other people - I can't help it! It's usually someone I'm quite familiar with thought But I do try and correct myself.

My name is always shortened which is fine, but I prefer one version and that is what I always go by. There is always the odd person who insists on calling me by a different version no matter how much I correct them. It's annoying but I honestly CBA further than trying to correct them a couple of times.

I quite like it when it’s friends and family but find it a bit odd when it’s someone I’ve only just met.

I usually ask what name someone prefers to go by if I’ve heard others use a shortening as I know a David that detests Dave yet a lot of people in our friendship circle still call him it.

London! I assume you aren't bothered about being anon OP, it's pretty rare . I agree, Elle is fine, Lon is just nothing.

I don't really take 'offense', but I do sometimes think "you don't know me at all to know if I like being called that".

I think you should say straight away, "Hi I'm London, just call me Elle" to pre empt this, or introduce yourself as Elle in the first place, then that can't shorten it .

My name is London

Really?

So if your name was Lyndsey for example would you be pissed off at people calling you Lynds?

Or is it just because you have been given a city as a name you feel it shouldn’t be shortened?

Names are in the public domain and can be used/said however people feel comfortable, certainly without ‘invite’ to do so. You’re not The Queen

No but I don't do it.

If it annoys you then YANBU to say! I think it's worse when the shortening isn't a proper name - so not too bad when maybe you make Thomas Tom as Tom is a proper name in the own right. However when my name is shortened it because just half a name (think Rachel to Rach). My family and really old friends mostly call me 'Rach' (not my real name) and I don't mind, its a affectionate but it feels really overfamiliar for other people to do it.

I suppose the PP that said it's infantilising is onto something actually because the only people who call me Rach are people I've had in my life forever, since childhood, or early teens at the latest.

I have this too. Whenever I give my name, usually the longer version to colleagues/people I don’t know, invariably they ask me what do I like to be called. Hmm the name I’ve just given you. Think Nicola and people asking me if I prefer to be called Nic or Nicky. Not my real name btw.

As I get older I prefer the longer version for work although I always give the shortened version socially as the longer version does sound quite formal.

It’s my pet hate that people shorten my name; it’s only by one letter but it turns it into a totally different name.

It infuriates me further still when colleagues reply to my emails using the shortened name when it’s already written down in front of them

For me it’s about basic respect. Imagine if you worked with a Bob and then just decided to call them Bo. It wouldn’t be acceptable so why is it acceptable to do it to me.

I have a 2 syllable name which is fairly commonly shortened to just the first syllable

I'm equally happy to be called either but would tend to introduce myself as my full name purely because that is my actual name

I am not offended in the slightest when people shorten my name

Yes!!! I'm a Hannah and I hate 'han'

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn I've mentioned it before on similar threads so don't think it would have been too difficult for a poster to work out. I've said it many a time IRL and MN that I think it's just silly but I have nor the will or inclination to change it via deed poll or whatever. and plus I can always name change

My name is often shortened but I only answer to my full name so will completely ignore someone until they say it.

If they want to be rude by transforming my name into the diminutive then I shall be rude until they acknowledge my actual name.

The only other names I answer to are mam, aunty and a playful twist on my maiden name which only my close friends and husband use.

LucieLucie Who rattled your cage this evening?

I have never put up with anyone shortening my god awful name.

It's bad enough in full.

It would be utter shit shortened.

If anyone shortens I just say "Dont shorten my name thanks".

I am happy to tack on a "I'm sure you don't like your name being shortened uninvited Elizabeth/Matthew/Katherine/William/Montgomery ..."

I don't mind shortening my name, but I hate people lengthening it.

Say my name was Lily, Lil is fine, Lilia, Lilith and Lilian absolutely not fine, I find it belittling. I have no idea why.

It makes me feel a bit punchy (and I'm a massive pacifist).

New person at work who is revealing herself to be a sociopathic horror has invited herself to add 'ie' to my short name.
Endearing when DGM did it. Arouses stabby urges with her.

Yes, especially if I've said my name myself, clearly. This happens a lot-

"Hi, my names Bob."
"Hi Bob, I'm Catherine".
"Nice to meet you Cath. So...."

It just gets me. I love my full name, only use my full name, hate the shortening. But people still do it. I now have a daughter with a beautiful full name, yet people still do the same. The conversations mostly go-

"Oh isn't she lovely, what's her name?"
"It's Alexandra".
"Oh hi Alex."
Death stare from me.
"Does everyone call her Alex?"
"No."
Awkward silence. Like I've been rude for using the name I registered and baptised her with. I hate to correct people.

Sigh.

I'm the other way around because the shortened version of my name is what I am generally known as. If someone I don't know well uses my full name I absolutely hate it, as it seems too familiar. It's what my family call me, and only my family, and not even my close friends use it. I've only ever once introduced myself to someone using my full name.

There's a woman I work with who constantly uses the full version even though I've told her "it's < shortened one>". I want to slap her.