To ask if you take offence at someone you don't know that well shortening your name without invite to do so?

[VladmirsPoutine]

Even if your name is something like Elizabeth and 'Liz' would be reasonable or indeed Thomas to 'Tom'. Not as in Charlotte to 'Lottie' - I can't exactly articulate why but I find the latter unreasonable.
My name is a bit of a silly 'made-up' name if you like. I'm named after a capital city so when people shorten it it ends up sounding even more ridiculous.
But do you make a point of saying "Well actually can you call me xxx please" even for your dc?

LucieLucie Who rattled your cage this evening?

@VladmirsPoutine No one London, you’ve posted in AIBU, and I think you are being precious.

I prefer Gin to wine

In Australia, shortening is default. People name their children anticipating this. If you ever objected to a nickname, that would probably lock it for life.
That said, my aunty successfully transitioned from a girly version of her name to a more adult one by requesting it from us all. I'd still use the old name affectionately occasionally still though.

If you don't have autonomy over your own name, you don't have autonomy over your own life. Odd idea that other people can decide what to call you. Just keep correcting.

My own name has three or four possible versions. There's the birth certificate one, which I hate, the one I've been known by for 90% of my life, the intimate family and close friends' one and the smart arse one from one person who decide to call me a lengthened version, although it's ok as it comes from a friendly place.

When someone addresses me with a name that rankles, I say so.

Only once has anyone ever shortened my name. But people do lengthen it. That is also very annoying. E.g my name has one syllable like Bob. But people try to call me the long version (like Robert). But my name is "Bob" on birth certificate and everything. I once had to correct, initial, sign etc a 10 page rental agreement where they had used "Robert" on every clause. I was soooooo angry and I should have made them reprint it.
(I had one annoying colleague who addressed emails to me as "B", but he was an arrogant so and so)

I prefer to be called by my short name, because my given name - despite being completely phonetically simple - keeps being mangled.
It is literally easier to introduce myself by my short name rather than have the countless crap attempts at my given name.

Names are in the public domain and can be used/said however people feel comfortable, certainly without ‘invite’ to do so. You’re not The Queen. What the actual fuck???

Right, so my identity is fair game for anyone to change as they please

As a by the way: I'm quite often misquoted on here as FastWidow.

I hate one of the shortened version of my name and have found in the past 20 years the most effective way of correcting it in others is not to answer when its used! Rude but so is changing my name.

I also ask when I have a new class at school what they prefer to be know as ie Thomas on the register are they Thomas or Tom as I will use full name unless the student (Secondary) tells me otherwise. Pointing out I hate my name being shortened.

Very few use the other shortening and its normally my family and mainly my sister.

Oh, Fatwidow it is such a shame that people misquote you.

My name is one that cannot be naturally shortened. My family, friends, work colleagues and former school friends never shorten my name. I'm a GP Receptionist and a couple of patients shorten my name even though I answer the phone with my full name. I generally ignore it but I did tell one very unpleasant individual not to shorten my name.

I don't take offense but I don't like it. My name can be shortened like Elizabeth/Lizzie/Liz. I introduce myself as Liz and I don't mind Elizabeth but I hate the cutesy -ee shortening of my name.

I got somebody I know to stop calling me Lizzie by calling her Carol short for Caroline. She didn't like that for some reason.

LucieLucie then have one on me then

Pest touche :)

Are you also known as 'eye' or 'Bridge' perhaps?

I must lose weight and regain DH :D

London is ok. You could have been Scunthorpe. And everyone would have called you Scunny

DS2 has a name which is frequently shortened, but he is only ever known as the lon name. He also identifies as the long name. When he started school and was learning to write, the reception teacher asked if he could learn to write the short version of his name to make it easier. We agreed, but expressed a wish that he was still known as longer name. Oh, yes, yes no problem we were guaranteed. Within weeks, all staff (and consequently, children) called ds2 by short name. Still makes me cringe.

I don't mind. I think being precious about your name is pretty childish.

Saying it is 'rude' to call someone by the shortened version of their name without being expressly invited to do so is projecting your own neurosis on to others. Most of us don't care.

It is rude to continue calling someone a version of their name if they have made it clear they would prefer you didn't, but in the first instance it is generally just an attempt to be friendly surely?

I like it, and the informality of it. I like people being relaxed around me.

Names are in the public domain and can be used/said however people feel comfortable, certainly without ‘invite’ to do so. You’re not The Queen

Wow! Donyou really just decide on another's persons name?

Hi I'm Kate - Oh hi Caitlyn - sorry I don't like Kate you don't mind do you? You do? Oh well you're rude aren't you??

You’re not The Queen

How do you know she is not the Queen. I have it on good authority she is a MN'er

This reminds me of a colleague. On his first day at work he introduced himself, we’ll call him Alexander. Anyway my shift asked if he preferred Alexander or Alex as we have many others by that name. He replied by saying that at his last job he was known by a nickname and proceeded to come out with something ridiculous (you don’t get to pick your nickname at work it’s just not on). What resulted is one of the guys promptly renamed him. He is now known as Bob. Several years later and he is known by wider reading colleagues and management as bob. People don’t even realise his real name is Alexander!!! Be careful what you give as your name

I don’t mind it. Seems quite a friendly thing to do.

I hate it, it's presumptuous and I never use the abbreviation of my name. They can use the first letter of my name if they can't be bothered with the full name but I just don't identify with the standard shortened version.