Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

I hope you understand the irony of that post.

Wait, so you mean all those women blahing on about beauty products and all that other guff on instagram have been sent them for FREE by the companies? Jeez, I just thought they had more money than sense.

Meant to say getting it wrong and getting it right.

It's fucking advertising then, isn't it? No matter how you try and dress it up

I don’t know I can’t speak for beauty bloggers

There’s a decent ongoing thread in S+B about bloggers and instagrammers.

Starting a new thread smacks of you being a bit of a twat looking to reignite a past thread.

There’s a decent ongoing thread in S+B about bloggers and instagrammers.

Starting a new thread smacks of you being a bit of a twat looking to reignite a past thread.

I’ll have a read of that then can you link it?

Seeing as you've apparently apologised to the IGer you got into the argument about, I guess we'll move on from that although it does leave a bit of a hypocritical bad taste in the mouth when you're always talking about 'being kind' on your IG.

However, I'd like to ask why you think it's a good idea to post personal stuff about your kids, like the instastory you did about one of them being constipated last year? I can't imagine what the thinking behind that was.

You really don't get the point of mn do you?

Good question! We were driving back from Cornwall on a b/h weekend and had no access to our usual gp she was severely constipated and having never had a baby who had this before I didn’t know what to do. I have a few followers who are gps/paediatric nurses so I was hoping they’d have the answer. In the end Dr Ranj (!) messaged me and gave me sound advice we got it sorted. Lots of mums use Instagram for all sorts of advice such as teething, constipation

I’m learning slowly

Have you met women before? I went to an all girls school and it was a bitch fest. No idea why you thought a group of Internet women you've never met would be supportive

Is mumsnet always like this? Maybe I’ve missed the point

Oh dear....

The bloggers thread is here

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/.../3116299-Bloggers-and-brands-2

These comments! 😂😂😂

It’s not that different from the pouting sexy girls who then share their amazon wish lists with besotted fools , in my opinion

And can someone kindly explain in a few sentences what instamums are and why their annoy people

I know nothing of this instamums thread, I know little about the instamums phenomenon. But I have to take issue with the notion that instamums bringing joy and happiness to the world. I imagine there are a tiny %age making real money, that will be from selling stuff to other women, stuff we don't need, by making their entire lifestyle into an infomercial.

Commodifying your life and creating a social media persona to sell cushions and artisanal soap and other shite is not bringing joy and happiness to the world. I find the whole concept of showy posed pictures, selfies and artfully arranged objects very alien. I take nice pictures of my children and share them with my 97 fb followers and I take nice pictures of the sky and share them with my 27 Instagram followers. So I am a mum on Instagram. I harbour no particular ill will towards instamums. But I do think they are symbolic of the self obsessed and trivial nature of social media not anything to be admired or supported.

There are many ways I can think of to bring joy. Being nice to people in real life, being respectful online. But respectful doesn't mean agreeing with or supporting choices that I don't respect. I can respect a person and dislike their life decisions.

I wish you joy op. Bye.

Interesting I have started using the man app. I wrote my post nicely spaced with several paragraphs. It posted as a wall of text.

Why do I have to support other women just because I'm a woman? I didn't sign up for the Ya-Ya Sisterhood. Some women are insufferable boring arseholes and I don't have to support them because they have a vagina.

Well this thread has certainly been an odd read but I have come to two conclusions

1. if you are not aware that you are advertising a product when you are advertising a product, you really should stop going on any sort of media, social or otherwise

2. rampant, unregulated consumerism probably isn't good for anyone's wellbeing

An insta Mum is a Mum who uses Instagram to promote a blog, business or cause.

Part of their usp is they are "ordinary mums".

Many started it as a hobby but now have 000s of followers.

Many promote products.

Sometimes it is unclear if the product was purchased or was given to them or if they are promoting it for money. There was a long thread in this last year.

I find all this 'instamum' hostility quite disconcerting. If you don't like someone, don't follow them. What's it to you if they choose to post about their child being constipated?!

These threads need to just go away. They're unkind and unnecessary.