Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

I think the whole thread just came full circle 🙄

For a reason. Because it's wrong to be so cruel about people you don't know.

@mumofkids my eyes!!!!!

@disappointedafternoon I assume your afternoon became a disappointment after you read through this thread?

@dissapointedafternoon Agree with a lot of what you’re saying. Balanced debate about these brands should be welcomed though - they’re not your average Janes - they’re businesses. All businesses are accountable for their content.

@Disappointedafternoon no one on here thinks they are perfect parents. The whole thread is by no means jealous and rude and it's not moaning about other people's success, far from it.
The fact that you consider an instagrammer who gets ads and free holidays, 'a success' to be jealous of makes me think, are you FOD?
Lots of very good points and questions have been raised and lots of chat has been had. It's not all negative at all. If I were MOD or FOD or their agents I would be very interested in why their followers (and let's face it these '1000 comments' mainly come from people who follow them) are so divided and have such reactions to their posts. Other accounts simply are not getting the level of discussion. Maybe (as #wankergate shows) any publicity is good publicity. But to suggest people shouldn't talk about these issues here is like going on their account and saying they shouldn't have posted. Why not? They have a right to post dreadful ads, people have a right to discuss them. All these commenters are essentially giving them the chance to make their money.

@Mumofkids sorry to break it to you but I'm a 25 year old woman who is married with a son!!

@babaloo88 I seriously did not anticipate that!

@Mumofkids this is a good example of Mumsnet jumping to conclusions 🙄
@anyalovesrose is just basically being slated non stop here and I hate it.

Stop talking about others!!

@Babaloo88

No joke I made this name after people being repeatedly mean to me on here I don't know why I bother

They make a business of putting their lives online. We know their children’s names, what they eat for breakfast, where they work, what they wear and where they buy their clothes, what brands of make up they wear, when their children are sick, what food they like, their opinions on lots of issues. They make their business out of making you feel like you know them. I know more about them than I know about many of my real life friends.

Go talk to your friends and stop watching them eat breakfast then!!!

I came to this thread thinking I could just add water and get a Mum.

Aaah.

I love it when bloggers come onto these thread incognito

@dissapointedafternoon, @MessySoVeryMessy has a valid point. I don’t follow those being discussed but I can clearly see how unhealthy this kind of influence is.

@disappointedafternoon FOD would never have commented so rationally 😉 I can see where you are coming from but the point is, they are a business, they make money of their followers, they are a brand. They are not just you and I. They've made it a product. Every business gets critism or questions.
I personally think if you were in the playground with either of these 2, or any instagrammer, you'd be more likely to discuss them as it's such a weird world. They put so much private life out there. People discuss Katie Price's surgery, Ant Mcpartlins crash/addiction, it's actually normal to discuss things in the public eye. The weird thing about Instagram is it's a very specific kind of 'fame' people without the app have never heard of these people.
They get their free holidays and financial deals because the have lots of followers. And the reality is, if MOD had said like Motherpukka 'do you know what, we don't know about the kids' we don't know how long we will use them in ads' perhaps she wouldn't feel quite so got at. But given FOD has 810k followers and MOD half that, a thousand comments on a discussion thread is not really extreme.

anyalovesrose is just basically being slated non stop here and I hate it

Perhaps you should follow your own advice then and not read this thread or whatever the equivalent of 'unfollowing on Insta' is on MN.

Besides which, MOD is perfectly capable of defending herself.

Stop talking about others!!

Nah.

@disappointedafternoon I did not jump to conclusions, I did not for a minute think you were FOD. He doesn't write like you. But when posts like yours come along they are often other instagrammers or bloggers. It tries to make it mumsnet v Instagram. When the reality is 95% of the mumsnetters are on Instagram so it's crazy to come on and try to put everyone down, it's more beneficial to the people trying to make a living to question and listen, as the people commenting will not be the only ones having these thoughts.

@Mumofkids The social media bubble is about to burst and I can’t wait. Most bloggers are businesses without the expertise to handle all the crap that comes with it. Some of the irresponsible posts and irrational responses to criticism have been interesting to watch though.

@faceandpalm it's bizarre how social media has created a kind of business that thinks itself untouchable. Seeing how much it's changed so quickly, you've got to wonder what's next. It just seems for ever person that's questioning an ad or child security, there's a 1000 others saying 'don't listen, we love you, you're amazing' and it just pushes it further on.

@MessySoVeryMessy

That's very cynical of you.
Do I look like a blogger?

I'm not for one minute saying I know people on instagram or that they are genuine but I am saying that they are no more phoney they you or I.
I'm also saying that just because you are in the public eye it doesn't mean it's ok to be shred to pieces by people you don't know.
And adding on to that;
I also think it's naff to comment on Ant at the minute. He's really ill. I don't agree with drink driving but I don't feel that should be public information.
If people share things online that's their choice but Ant didn't share any of his problems with the car accident so why are we all privy to this info?

@disappointedafternoon Actually I totally agree with you about Ant. I was making a point. I feel very sorry for him and haven't discussed him, but I've seen it discussed on tv, on the internet, newspapers. I'm not interested, I hope he gets well. However I disagree about Instagram, that's the very point. In many ways it IS phoney. And that's the issue, it's gone from likeable, believable midwife and dad, to floggers. And it's that shift that people are disc siding.

🙄 discussing not disc sliding