Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

The only offence that could be taken from FODs latest video was the nappy going in the bin with the recyclables

Pretty sure they have ‘help’ too. They definitely did when they lived in London. I really hate how people comment on his videos like he is the first man to be a dad. It’s embarrassing.

Of course they're going to be out of touch. They are earning decent money, with fairly decent careers, having all sorts of deals thrown their way. What should they do? Turn the job offers down? I get the criticism but what's the alternative - they should stagnate in their lives to please the followers they have? I imagine they are having a great but exhausting time, and their children's privacy is a sacrifice they are clearly prepared to have made. I'm sure for every comment against them plenty of others would gladly take their place.

Green grass, I guess we all like to think that if it happened to us we'd be very careful which path we took and take careful advice (their agents seem dreadful) and I can't help but think that often in families people parent differently. My husband would probably be far less open and sharing than myself, he reigns me in, I'm anxious, he's steady and knows his mind and likes to be private, so I guess there's a balance. Clemmie seemed to have a slowly growing business and blog and Simon's exploded, they are competitive and appear to egg each other on. Maybe that's a good thing for them. FOD clearly loves the fame and adoration. I definitely think if it happened to me, I'd be very careful, and take things seriously (MP) and be grateful and humble, Mutha.hood. Fantastic at saying yes I did get a free mattress but I was looking for one and they offered, sorry guys but can't afford to say no. I'd want my advice as how to be likeable and myself not smug and blagging. But it's not me and it won't be, I don't make cool sweatshirts, have adorable twins or talk into my phone for hours at a time about my life.

I can’t stand FOD’s smugness in his last video! I can’t imagine him being a kind and patient father!

@SpaceCats3 NB is a total beg.So what you have said totally fits.
She likes to name drop the 'big hitters' of the insta mum brigade on her Instagram stories in the hope of gaining more freebies, brand deals followers.
I noticed today she is on about Stacey Dooley..

susiejverrill has had me in stitches today with her insta stories

She's genuinely funny and doesn't try too hard. But MOD seems to hashtag her into her posts,so they must be instamum friends

Runmummy well on that last big thread that MOD and FOD were mentioned on, Susie Verrill did a really bitchy insta rant about vile mumsnet. Unfortunately that's the only time I've ever heard of her or seen her and she came across really badly and so nasty considering what she was ranting about so I've never followed her. Too scared of her rants! But as she was sticking up for instamums they seemed to all form a clique or pack, anti -mumsnet. Which was a shame as she completely missed the point and spent no time even trying to understand the actual points being raised. Not ever followed NB but Stacey Dooley is the worst presenter in my opinion. Can't bear her style at all!

Oh did she? That's disappointing then. I really quite like her

I also love Esther Mccoren. She makes me laugh every day.

@adidasgirl on the one hand fair play to her for understanding the zeitgeist and making the most of it, but on the other I just find it really distasteful she's using mental illness (including her own anti depressants) to flog iron supplements. Vintage dresses is one thing but this is a different kettle of fish.

I'm enjoying all the V signs and back-slapping going on today.

Babaloo, I know exactly what you mean. Do you remember when he had an ad he'd been working on due to go live at 8pm and he couldn't get it to upload and he was ranting on stories and so frustrated. It must drive his family nuts!

The whole 'village' thing reminds me of moldies. Singling out other insta-famous women as their special friends screams of 'exclusive club' and is, well, very "YOU are MY best friend" a la primary school. It strikes me as being, in reality, the very opposite of the message they are trying to send. Ironic.

The village thing is just pretentious wank. Half of them are so miserable and boosted up by this fake Insta-reality where they all have each other's back, but does that even figure in real life? And the fragile ones who seem so vulnerable but is there anything there. I quite liked upallhours but again it's only if you say the right thing. And one of them professed postnatal depression then sold her house, got a job in a factory, changed kids schools moved to the country, never sees her kids as she works such long hours, seems bizarre based on her postnatal depression. I know everyone copes differently but it's stops ringing true.

Susie is quite funny. I did enjoy the story of the lamb. I never know what to make of Izzy judd. She does do a great campaign for infertility but she seem quite boring. I am also extremely envious of her hair! It always looked so perfect!

Susie seemed quite vicious in that story mumofkids just referenced. That was the first I’d heard of her, and I wasn’t impressed.

What I’d like to know is when (and how) did FOD become more popular than MOD? Her I understand, she had a good blog, is a midwife etc. Did he become popular off the back of her?

On one of these threads someone said FOD made it his mission to get more followers than MOD, just because apparently. Take that as you will. His USP would appear to be how useless he is at being a dad.

Susie Verrill made an instastory about what bitches everyone was on MN and how we shouldn't have called MOD lazy (which no one had anyway) and seemed to completely miss the point of the thread. She then quickly deleted it 'because she didn't like having a lot of stories on the go at the same time' (this was sometime last year around the time of the first thread).

On one of these threads someone said FOD made it his mission to get more followers than MOD, just because apparently. Take that as you will.

I take that as a man who can’t bear his wife to be more successful than he is.

I follow MOD, but not him. He’s too much.

Oh and she was pissed off because she'd been referred to as 'Greg Rutherford's girlfriend'.

Having said that, I do actually like her.

I take it the same way @Flamingoringo

I kind of remember him joining, MOD highlighted him I think, and maybe because he was a man and initially quite funny (he did dad tips) he got really popular very quickly by being tagged by loads of people. She then became MOD instead of midwifeyhooper. He was very competitive from the start.
I do seem to remember in London, Clemmie instastorying when she got in from work and he'd had the kids and there was just crap everywhere and he'd not done the dishwasher or cleared the floor and she'd be doing it all when she got in from her shift.
Haha I always watch them thinking that inside she's hoping it all ends and she can stop pretending he's amazing to keep up with all his adoring fans, because inside she's thinking on my god you're such a dick.

I like MOD FOD and their kids.
Izzy Judd was mentioned and I think she’s a sweetheart. Wouldnt group her with most of the instamums mentioned though, she’s not reallt in that vein. Susie Verrill I also like 80% of the time BUT she can be very bitchy, eye rolly and rude.
I can’t get angry about the freebies or ads of any of the insta lot really because I compare it to youtubers like Zoella and the embarrassing amount of free stuff she is sent by the literal truckload and the money she is paid for literally fuck all and it’s nothing in comparison.

This thread is the gift that keeps on giving, I hope it never ends

MODS stories, perhaps instead of showing how they manage with 4 kids by doing a video of hurling stuff around the house (I just don't feel very impressed by the toothbrush- but that now it's down to the smugness) he should practise hurling plates into his dishwasher and cleaning up!

I can imagine him not being the nicest person if you confront him. I do feel for Clemmie, you go to work at an ungodly hour to come back home to a pig sty. Especially when all you have to do is put dishes into the dishwasher....