Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

I really don't understand why bloggers offend people, it's another way of making a living. If I could earn money doing it I would!!

Much nicer than 9-5 and working with idiots

(yes I hate my job. Lol)

Iloveabiccy- I don't think bloggers do as such, I think it's the outrageous blaggers and hidden ads. Mixed in with smugness.
There are many grateful, lovely people on the internet who are funny/happy/helpful whatever, but then there's those who seem to lose what made them popular and develop an arrogance which is grating. There are also way too many mummy bloggers with little to say!

SV can be absolutely savage. Yes shes witty, but by God shes a tough cookie. She has come on here. After she called us "vile psychos" she came on but it was all very passive agressive. She didnt bother since. Whereas MOD is on the Bloggers and Brands thread every day and even though I dont follow her, she has been such a grown up about the criticism. She tries to take it all as constructive. Ditto MP on here. You gotta repect people who say "I fucked up, im trying to learn". SV is just too prickly for that.

Is SV the one who is Greg Rutherfords wife?

Just to add, I unfollowed SV because of the vile psychos comment. It was fascinating to feel the difference. I hadnt quite realised how acid she had become till I unfollowed her and realised my feed was nicer for it. Shes just too sarcastic and sour under the guise of wit, for me. I dont mind it the odd time, but not every day.

Yes, mumofkids. SV is Greg’s partner.

Is SV the one who is Greg Rutherfords wife

Ssshhh! You aren't allowed to mention him when you reference Susie.

She's so much more than that. She grew her IG account all on her own by having Greg Rutherford's babies.

Pavlova 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I really like susie, yes she can be acerbic and acted like a bit of a knob over that thread, but she is really funny and much less insipid than most insta mums.

She is currently doing some really cringe advertising for warburtons toastie pockets at the moment though

I love it when Instagram floggers (NOT bloggers) say 'I only promote brands that I use anyway' - as IF Motherpukka was chugging frozen roast potatoes prior to her ads with them. Ditto those toastie pocket things and SV. Come ON ladies, we're not stupid.

@ElspethFlashman
The difference is the bloggers and brand thread is fully of really useful constructive criticism, whereas this one seems to breed a very nasty tone eg calling my husband a wanker and a dick amongst other things. Once the comments get really personal the tone is lost on me and I just feel I can’t engage with any of you. And those who have made nicer more complimentary comments seem to get laughed at. It’s a bit means girls if you ask me, I’d never conduct myself in that way on Instagram

I totally agree with you. 100%. I think the line has been crossed several times on this one.

@anyalovesrose it's actually not really nasty at all, you put your lives and children out there, do not respond to any genuine questions raised and find it nasty when your accounts and how they are conducted are discussed. The wanker comment was removed and you yourself were very happy with your apology, (and let's be honest these days on the internet, wanker is not really that offensive. He did then talk about champion masturbating, on Instagram...) and he has been referred to as possibly a bit of a dick. It's a tactic to make comments like that to detract from genuine discussion, such as choice of ad, free holidays and nights away, and selling your children for money. Really neither of you have been personally insulted and other instagrammers such as motherpukka make really intelligent responses without trying to just deflect and focus on the petty comments that, Simon thrived on. #notawanker

maybe FOD gets less abuse because he is generally funny whereas MOD is quite dull. Just sayin'

At the risk of going off topic @anyalovesrose, I do have a request. Thanet, as you know, is an area with huge potential but still very much up-and-coming. I have noticed that you and Simon post photos and stories from many of the restaurants and local attractions - GB Pizza Company, Dreamland, Revolution Climbing Centre, Morelli's, Turner Gallery, Shell Grotto and the riding centres, to name but a few - but you never tag them. As Broadstairs, Margate and Ramsgate depend so heavily on tourism and some of these attractions are at risk (Dreamland particularly), a nod from yourselves (as Zoella did recently) could really help to drive some tourism from your massive London following.

As a London-then-Kent dweller myself, I don't think Thanet is suffering from a lack of London tourists, tbh...

I honestly find it bizarre that people can put so much of their personal lives on insta as entertainment and make money from selling both themselves and their kids and then get SO upset that someone calls them a wanker on the internet. A wanker! One of the most benign sweary insults going! It does make me that the whole insta popularity has gone to their heads.

@anyaloveroses I thought the person already apologised? I’d take it as criticism if your viewers, who lets be real are the reasons why you are getting these
Lavish gift (without followers, no brands will approach you) feel that he is abit overbearing then use that for your advantage. Rather than saying ‘I can’t engag to any of you’ lala. Also if you find to the reference of this thread being mean girls. There have been numerous of times
When you yourself behaved very mean girl
Ish on instagram. So yeah, let’s not get in your high horse just yet.

I doing think wanker is that insulting either. He loved it!

Let's have it straight..He could of been called much worse.

Oh my god. I thought following in from this, I bet there are actual conversations on the internet that have been more genuinely just nasty. Do not NOT google
'Fatherofdaughters a twat'
I don't think I will ever recover.

Omg agggh!

@anyalovesrose I’ve seen less than professional behaviour from bloggers / brands / businesses on Instagram. A forum is a very different beast and it can be unpleassant but, as most Instagram followers would say, we don’t have to follow it if we don’t want to.

I've been reading this for ages and I'm just so confused as to how many of you can be so spiteful without knowing these mothers or fathers.
If you don't like what you see then don't look.
An honest question, how many of you actually like your job? Agree with what you sell? Believe in the products you work with?
Stop making out that so many of you are such perfect parents mothers or whatever with great values and morals.
I see exactly why any mothers would be defending themselves in a public forum if they are being dissected by women they don't even know.

The phrase "if you don't have anything nice to say..." comes to mind.

It's not like these are compulsory follows and a whole thread with almost 1000 posts of people being jealous rude and nasty about others is totally beyond me. Imagine if this was a thread you wrote about the mom beside you in the playground? Do you honestly think this ok? Do you feel comfortable commenting on other people's marriages? Because I don't.

I would like you all to think about how this would be perceived as conversation in the office or at home.
Show your partners. Do they think you're being kind?
Stop breeding negativity in life and spreading hate.
Be positive and move forwards.

And remember the way you write comes across as jealous when you moan about other people's success.