Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

FOD needs to take a break for a bit. Hopefully you see this message Simon.

Oh I just watched it and almost ate my own fist with embarrassment for him... Never before has someone tried so hard to seem unbothered and yet managed to come across as seething with consternation and incredulity that someone would have the gall to call him something as innocuous as a 'wanker'. My oh my. It does bring to light that these social influencers live in little bubbles where they are heaped with praise by their 'fans' and have such fragile egos. It would not even occur to a more robust and realistic person to make any effort responding to a vague and essentially harmless bit of criticism, let alone a series of videos demonstrating such barely contained... opposite-of-not-botheredness?!

Just to add - I do follow these people and do genuinely like them, I don't think FoD is a wanker at all, but I did just find that video totally embarrassing.

FOD can totally say what he likes.

He is in the public eye. He has gazillions of followers and since he's on the receiving end of all those 'likes' and supportive comments you just wouldn't think he would be so bothered by one comment on a different forum.

Made him look really precious and " you can't criticise me ".

There was the Insta 'mama' who wafted off to Byron Bay who had literally pages of followers commenting about how wonderful she was etc But the slightest questioning remark was jumped on an blocked. It felt really police state.

It's so petty for someone clearly raking in so much money they can decrease their 'normal' jobs, move, go for private education, have fabulous holidays. I bet her commute costs more than the NHS pay her.
At the end of the day, I would imagine they've said to the kids, right we are going to do this because it will give us financial security, you guys an education we would have struggled to afford, a lovely house by the coast and fantastic holidays and opportunities. We feel that the short term exposure and risk of daddy sharing his teenage wanking habits is worth the gains. Fair enough, it's their life. People do far worse things to their children.
It would be nice if they were a bit more gracious and grateful and less arrogant. Their Boden wardrobes, cupboards full of cereal, free car, free holidays, nit combs etc are all down to the followers they have and even the most famous of musicians etc are gracious to their 'fans' for giving them the platform they have.

To the poster talking about Feathering the Empty Nest - I have absolutely no problem with her making some money through blogging and Instagram. She's pretty transparent about any advertising and most of the time it's for items where a portion of the profits go to the NICU that tried to save her 3-day old son's life! If you follow her story from the beginning of her blogging you will see that Teddy's death left her traumatised and with severe anxiety, meaning she could not return to her former career. She devotes most of her time to fundraising (nearly £44 000 in 22 months). Her blog originally started as a creative outlet for her to express her feelings and to raise awareness about miscarriage and neonatal death (she has also suffered a miscarriage since Teddy's death), but has evolved organically since then. It seems a low blow to label her 'yucky'. If she needs to earn a small amount of money so that she can carry on fundraising then that's fine with me.

I have no vested interest in Elle or her blog, but she is one of the few instagrammers I still follow and I thought that remark unwarranted.

I thought his response was quite witty.

Oh hi Simon! 😂

Just reminds me of when mod attacked another insta Mum, wrote it in her stories and then the poor instamum was bombarded with comments like the ones from above. Stay classy mod, stay classy

In fairness, it didn't happen like that though!The other girl was on insta-stories after a night out slagging MOD off and basically everyone else that she considered to be 'middle-class', taking the piss out of MODs acne and pretty much everything else. I followed them both. I sat in bed on a Sunday morning with my brew watching it play out! MOD simply responded - quite politely actually after the complete bumming that she received from someone she'd never spoken to! The other girl was quite the 'instamum' herself though more working class, she was just being nasty! If you don't like someone fine but don't change history to make her come across worse!

What is very obvious when you look at MOD and FOD pages now, is how much the twins now feature compared to the other two. I could be cynical and say its for the cute factor, but I imagine it's because the other girls are getting older and a bit more uncomfortable with the whole thing so they have decided to ease off them - the look more uncomfortable in the pics these days.

But then that just seems unfair on the twins, because just because they can't consent to whether or not their photos get used, their parents are now using them instead of the older girls?

I have to say though, their children are stunning and it's bizarre how much they all look like their dad as well!

I just think their lives must be weird, like posing for 'spontaneous' photos all the time. I thought that about the Dorset Cereals ad - who took that picture and were they just stood there for ages taking photos until they got a natural enough one to post (with empty bowls Obvs!)

@juddyrockycloggs

Then the other mums who stuck up for her was bombarded by Mod and her fans. One of the mums I followed got a message from MOD and 15 other fan girls- all abusive messages! She did all of this while on her free cruise, or something like that. Posing infront of vibrant walls and drinking cocktails while her fans brought down another Mum to shreds. Who then had to leave Instagram because of it all.

But anyway, I think they have both made up and now ‘supporting each other’ like sisters or whatever.

Here’s an idea, if these people annoy you so much:

1. Unfollow them all
2. Stop bitching about them all over an anonymous forum
3. Get on with your lives

I’ve never read anything so ridiculous between grown women. I personally enjoy the content of these women and have more to worry about than if they put #gifted on a post. Good on them for doing what they’re doing! Maybe be happy for them and just let it go!

Ahhh. FOD response was tragic. How embarrassing.
I totally agree that they get fed who boosters with their comments but it's not representative of the wider world. It has to be that because why on earth would someone get offended by a singular wanker comment. It's not even that offensive. His response was terrible.

Helloitskate - why is it so out of order for people to discuss things? Maybe people don't want to just 'unfollow', they followed for a reason in the first place. If you read a magazine or newspaper you flick through and past articles with people of stories that you may not like or may not be of particular interest and you are allowed an opinion. These people are who they are because of their followers and it doesn't actually matter whether those followers like them or find them annoying, they still count as an audience. Good press of bad press, how many extra people watched FOD's stories after #wankergate? It will all just fuel the popularity and ads and it's naive to think any different. Personally I've read a lot more ridiculous between grown women on the internet than a discussion about people on Instagram.

I've unfollowed MOD and FOD as have a few people I know due to the constant adverts. I don't think 'good for them' because they take advantage of their followers as do the brands they work for. I joined Instagram before it was a place for selling and genuinely followed people for photographs. The arrogance shown when telling those who follow you that you now view them as consumers to sell to rather than just followers really fucked me off.

Also the lack of acknowledgment of their privilege drives me nuts too. Of course they must love being adored by those followers who don't mind being constantly sold something but some self awareness and as a PP said, graciousness that the reason you get lavished with free stuff is because of the followers you're happy to tell to fuck off if they dare criticise. Once the followers go, so will the freebies.

I personally enjoy the content of these women and have more to worry about than if they put #gifted on a post.

And me Kate. But you just crashingly missed the point.

And if this is the most ridiculous thing you've ever read

‘Mumofkids’ if I read an article in a magazine and starting voicing online my negative opinions on the matter it would be exactly the same as what you are all doing. It wouldn’t be ok and neither is this. I just can’t wrap my head around why you all think it’s ok to slate people like this. Some of you have said genuinely nasty things. Why do you care so much?!

I can't get my head round the idea that things are not ever up for discussion Kate.

I care about loads of stuff and talk about it. I love Instagram and talk about it.

I should add, I have nothing against any of them personally - I don't know them and I'm sure they're very nice people - but it's the selling and how it takes advantage that has led to me unfollowing.

I quite like following “instamums” and have found some great small businesses via them but I do find it in bad taste that MOD and FOD get free holidays and new washing machines given to them when they are in a position to pay for them themselves.

Another one that I find a bit much is mother.of.five.boys she literally puts her and her families whole lives on the internet and even did a story for the daily fail. I don’t get how she can possibly parent that many children and have the time to do all her insta stories?

Sorry this wa from pages waaay back but The Meldrums Tenerife holiday was an Ad? I missed that. Wasn't a very good one Mrs M didn't seem to enjoy herself AT all.
Watched her channel years ago after a thread on here actually which all went a bit bizarre with fans and MIL calling everyone jealous if they had anything negative to say. I think her husband comes across very well.

The worst for #ads are some of the smaller instamum accounts. Motherhoodrealeal promotes ANYTHiNG and her insta stories are just so set up and fake.It was unconfortable to watch.

I just personally think that if the discussion is as negative as this then have it with your friends at home or over text, not plastered over the internet for these people to read.

There is enough bad shit in the world to just add more negativity into the mix. Keep it behind closed doors or in your head.

Helloitskate- really? Have you even read the thread? What are 'we all doing'? That is so terrible? If they can use social media as an unexpected marketing tool to make huge amounts of cash, then others can use social media to discuss it. They have essentially decided to use their family to make money, it's not a poor topic to discuss, everyone has a different viewpoint. I haven't read anything 'nasty', differing viewpoints are not necessarily nasty. People do discuss things all the time, if a film comes out then it's critiqued, and people don't always agree. Next recently did an advert that was slammed, is that out of order to discuss? These people made a wanky advert about cereal with their kids not even eating it, why is it so wrong to bring that up on a forum. It's really odd that you think discussing a commodity is just slating.

FOD and MOD have PR teams who sit on mumsnet and insta just to defend their clients and post positive praise. My husband works in PR and has been told that many of these instaparents r doing this.