To think a single man travelling to Thailand regularly is up to no good

[Katyazamo]

My uncle (who I am not particularly close to) travels to Thailand alone several times a year. He is in his mid 50s and has lived with my grandad since divorcing his wife around 20 years ago.
It's suddenly occurred to me that he's probably up to no good :/
AIBU?

If he's into the wonderful culture/has a girlfriend I would expect him to talk about this to the wider family. Show pics when you visit, have books in the book shelf, that kind of thing.

DH and I go to Italy regularly. Anyone who knows us would know we never shut up about the place and can drone on about Italian art, favourite villages, best restaurants etc at length given half a chance. We know people who can do the same about India, Florida, France, Spain etc etc.

If he doesn't do the same, fraid I'd assume sex tourism as well.

Which as an adult he's entitled to do.

Given the ages of many of the prostitutes in Bangkok, NO he is almost certainly NOT entitled to.

I used to work with someone who also visited Thailand a lot. He is now in prison for having sex with numerous 10 and 11 year old Thai girls.

Lol, I have an uncle like him. He married a girl 25 years younger from a different country. Please don't say maybe it was love....I know why they got married. She's lovely btw, works hard, is beautiful, I feel quite sorry for her as my uncle is no catch.

I think it's not unreasonable to wonder what he's doing but as a couple of other people have said it's a lovely country and very cheap so it would be unfair to just assume he's ''up to no good''.

Plenty of British women are sex tourists too, just not in Thailand.

I think that all the 'underaged boys and girls' seen by pp are more than likely 18+

Underaged stuff is as hidden and underground as it is in every other country because its punished as much as in the uk

YANBU. Obvious what he's up to.

To give him the benefit of the doubt OP, he might just be a drugs mule.

My good looking son and friends went on holiday and spent 3 weeks doing charity work over Xmas and New Year. They went for beach parties but the islands had bad flooding last year.

They all just helped out where they could. They were all upset at the poverty as they had fortunately never experienced that level before. They loved the people but were completely disgusted by old men and sex trade. It is not the young and beautiful who visit for the sex trade and I would ask him what part he goes to. Pattaya and Bangkok are notorious the islands not so much. The girls mostly come from the North of Thailand to work in the sex industry to help their poverty stricken families. Ask him about his trips.

Titchy - eugh!!! Shows what I know :-(

@tawdry brilliant! 😂😂 though if he was I reckon he would be earning enough to move out of his dad's!

It depends what you assume? That he abuses children? - YABU
That he uses prostitutes? - it's very common everywhere so YANBU
As to why would he go all the way to Thailand. Well you get much more of the girlfriend experience in Thailand. You can have the same girl for the whole time your there. They stay the night, have meals with you, tell you your wonderful and they say they love you. It probably feels less sleezy ironically.

She's lovely btw, works hard, is beautiful, I feel quite sorry for her as my uncle is no catch

NotTheDuchess you don't say where she comes from - but to her, he maybe. In Bangkok is common for families to live and sleep in one room - many people in one room. It is horrific poverty.

A man living in a council flat on benefits in the UK is a total catch. It is a way out. A job cleaning in the UK enables money to be sent home.

This is the problem and why a young beautiful Thai bride with a loser old white guy is such a stereotype.

But maybe that's what he's saving for, Katyazamo!

Yeah he apparently tried to justify it by saying he was supporting the whole family and they needed him therefore it was fine.

Very probably.

Well he will be going for the prostitutes for sure . My dh step dad did this for a while and then brought one home . They are still married . You can get a much younger woman when you are a fat old man in Thailand .. sad but very very true .

To give him the benefit of the doubt OP, he might just be a drugs mule

You can't beat a bit of dry humour on MN.

Like a glass of water in the desert.

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So sad lovely Thai girls having sex with those horrible British jerks.

Mind you, I know an-above-board-young-British-man taken to the cleaners by his Thai bride. If you marry in Thailand the lady keeps the property in separation with foreigner I believe...

My cousin goes to Thailand several times a year. He goes to see his wife and son, as they can't get a visa to come here (UK) and he can't get a visa to live there permanently.

Perhaps your relative has a secret life there he's not telling you about.

Chestervase1

Your son's lying to you.

There's a huge amount of prostitution on the islands. It just tends to be with younger, move naive, "good looking sons". The pimps are more likely to be involved with extortion whereas the older men know exactly what they're getting into. There was also more surreptitious 'prostitution' where pretty girls will flirt with, dance for and stroke the bollox of young lads on holiday to encourage them to stay at a particular bar for longer or to buy them drinks at marked up 'for-the-girls' prices.

Also, people who didn't take drugs when partying on the island were in the tiny minority of people.

As I said, I worked in Thailand for 4 years.

I'm sure you son was different. Certainly not nursing a comedown but cleaning beaches, fixing huts and 'teaching English'.

Disgusting individual as well you know.

On the other hand, you should see the women in the Gambia.

To give him the benefit of the doubt OP, he might just be a drugs mule

Or maybe he's evaluating all the sex change clinics?

And BTW
If it is prostitutes he lives near central London..surely prostitutes are available there?

He may be looking for a somewhat different type of prostitute...

YANBU

Unless he has an interest in the country itself which you I'm sure know about

It's pathetic seeing so many men buying beautiful young women to have sex with and to fawn over them and they believe it fucking twats I have no sympathy for the men that get robbed or cheated out of money

"you should see the women in the Gambia" - curious, what does that mean, user14?

NotTheDuchessOfCambridge
Lol, I have an uncle like him. He married a girl 25 years younger from a different country. Please don't say maybe it was love....I know why they got married. She's lovely btw, works hard, is beautiful, I feel quite sorry for her as my uncle is no catch.

You don't seem to like your uncle much.

A friend of mine goes to Thailand with his Thai wife 3 or 4 times a year to see her family. She is bu no means submissive (as stated by a previous poster) , she has used their money to build 5 houses (at the last count).
When he retires they will move back over there full time and live off the rent of the properties. When he dies she will get it all.

Another friend who met his Thai wife at uni (in England) suffers abuse form many people as they assume like so many on the thread that she must have been bought and paid for.