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AIBU?

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To think this isn't appropriate?

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skittycat · 21/09/2017 08:01

I'll try make this short - I'm looking for opinions as I'm after confirmation I'm not over reacting like I usually do.

I have a close friend (male) and once a week we do something on the evening (bowling, cinema etc) and then I stop at his. We are just friends, but quite close & I sleep in bed with him as there is nowhere else for me to sleep & we were both fine to do so.

Recently he's been talking to girls on snapchat/whatsapp/tinder on a night after I've fallen to sleep. Receiving explicit photos and messages & has on occasion sent explicit pictures of himself back.

He seems to think this is perfectly okay to do so but it doesn't seem appropriate to me - AIBU?

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ReanimatedSGB · 21/09/2017 12:56

Maybe he actually doesn't want OP to share his bed/stop over any more but doesn't want to hurt her feelings by saying so - and this is his attempt to put her off...

skittycat · 21/09/2017 13:27

Thanks for all viewpoints - I've taken them all onboard 😊

I can firmly state that I do not want anything from him more than friendship: I don't personally find it weird to share a bed with a friend (male or female) if both parties are happy to do so.

When we initially started sharing a bed he was not sending the messages, it has only started recently & as I mentioned in my original post I was not sure if I was overreacting

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misshelena · 21/09/2017 13:35

Yes I would feel the same if I was in bed with a female friend and she starting sending explicit pictures of herself to men.

And he would sext if he were in bed with a male buddy. He thinks of you as one of his male buddies. YABU

kali110 · 21/09/2017 13:36

skittycat
You must have feelings for this friend, you're wrong Grin

Fruitcocktail6 · 21/09/2017 13:49

Key word here is boundaries.

skittycat · 21/09/2017 13:51

@Kali110 I must do lol 😂

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