To be pissed off with marrieds who don't work complaining they are tired?!

[sloeginforever]

I know everything is relative and everyone has their own problems...but I am sick of hearing mums of school age children, who have partners, who don't work, complaining they are tired and have so much to do!

I am a single mum, I work full time. I get up at 5:30, deliver three children to different schools about ten miles in total, then drive to work, work a full day, collect same children, go home, cook everyday, clean the house, wash all the clothes.

I've got one friend in particular who is a stay at home mum. She texts me all day moaning about how tired she is, since they went back to school there is just so much to do, and getting it all clean before they get home is soooo hard. She's so stressed by it all. Her husband works, takes the children to school, cooks...

I have absolutely no issues with life choices as a stay at home mum. I'm not jealous and I don't have issues with them not being in full time work or anything. But just stop telling me how hard your bloody life is!!

And don't even start me on the married, childless woman at work who just got a dog and is soooo exhausted.

Rant over.

On an anon thread. Don't generally speak like this IRL.

YABU

I have done the SAHM when they were all full time school it was a doodle, compared to working FT.

They are horrid after school, dealing with that after having been at work is just horrific IME.

I find life exhausting due to MH illness but never would I say to my single parent friend (3 DC, full time work with long commute) anything like that. Her day to day life is endless grind with no support.

Epic fail - YANBU!!!

Jeez. Unless you walk in someone else's shoes you've no real idea what they are dealing with. Maybe they just like a moan or maybe their children are difficult or they have relationship or money worries?

Why wouldn't you talk to a friend about your troubles Random?

I think quite a lot of posters forgot to put "so nerrrr" at the end of their post.

the weight on women's shoulders these days no matter what their circumstances is unprecedented. It's to the detriment of all and competitive "I'm more tired than you are" attitudes just exacerbate it. We should all be encouraging each other to make more time for ourselves and support each other, particularly in the increasingly common scenario where there's no family to help.

I'd personally like to extend a massive great big fuck off to people who think it's ok to draw a simplistic comparison between parents who "work" and parents who "don't".

The biggest factor nowadays is not simply how you spend your time but how much support you are receiving yourself, how many people you are supporting, and the level of needs of your dependants.

If we started to think about each other's lives or choices in those terms perhaps we would all understand a little more about what we are each going through and appreciate what we have a bit more too.

Everyone is different. None of us know how thoroughly someone else cleans their house etc, so just ignore texts like that.

It's easy mincing around an office and getting coffee in peace whenever you fancy.

It's easy doing a bit of laundry and cuddling the baby.

Grass is always greener, always!

I work full-time.

A school mum told me she wouldn't have time to work (giggle!)

Fuck off and I hope your husband likes buying his own Christmas presents. (I didn't actually say that too her.....).

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Agree fruitboxjury.

Agree zzzzz truly vile.

I do wonder if women used to be so vile to each other 50 years ago. It feels like we are at war.

I didn't say it lol. I have more restraint than that.

vile, JamesBlonde1 , vile.

I'm fucking knackered. I get up at 5.25, walk an hour to school and back, do the shopping in our massive Sainsbury's, do any housework, then have to get ready to pick them up at 3.15, another hour's round trip, give them snacks, make supper, get them to bed, do washing, go to bed straight after the last DC if I'm lucky. I don't have anywhere near enough sleep.

Goodness me that ruffled some feathers unintentionally.

I imagine there are some SAHM's on this thread, James.

If people are happy with their choices I cannot understand why they are offended by my thoughts.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuckKeidis

Pfft don't waste energy on the "friend", she's an energy sapper. Stick with the kind and supportive. I have friends who are vastly better off than me who are fantastically supportive, and friends who are dealing with terminal cancer/seriously injured children/anorexia who are** still fun and supportive. Your moany "friend" is just not much of a friend and it's not for you to figure out her problems. Some people are just tedious.