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Do your family, friends, work colleagues, anyone ever discuss Brexit anymore?

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StevieNicksMirage · 16/09/2017 17:11

My family don't. None of my friends are interested. Nor are my work colleagues.

Was wondering if it ever comes up in anyone else's conversations.

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specialsubject · 16/09/2017 19:18

BTW 1 in 3 didnt vote. We don't know the split of 'can't be arsed' versus 'none of the above', but there must be quite a few in the latter category. Probably keeping heads down in the face of utter belief from those who were certain either way.

histinyhandsarefrozen · 16/09/2017 19:19

Well perhaps it's your fault, agust, for not engaging nicely with leavers when they tell you to get over it. Confused

Or perhaps not.

MissionItsPossible · 16/09/2017 19:22

AccrualIntentions

You presume correctly, because I agree with you!

AccrualIntentions · 16/09/2017 19:22

BTW 1 in 3 didnt vote. We don't know the split of 'can't be arsed' versus 'none of the above', but there must be quite a few in the latter category. Probably keeping heads down in the face of utter belief from those who were certain either way

Very true, I'd be interested to hear more from people who weren't sure.

Personally I wasn't completely convinced before I voted Remain but thought voting that way was more responsible given that I wasn't sure. Were the referendum held again I'd have no doubts whatsoever now that I've seen just how badly the process of leaving is being managed by the government and the very real consequences which are already being felt, before we've even left.

surferjet · 16/09/2017 19:23

No. Brexit never gets mentioned anymore with anyone I mix with in RL. I think people have just accepted it's happening and that's it. There's not going to be a 2nd referendum or anything like that, so pretty pointless going over the same old stuff.

MrsNuckyThompson · 16/09/2017 19:24

Yes. Chatted about it with a friend today. We're both still firmly disgusted.

AccrualIntentions · 16/09/2017 19:24

@Mission - ok, I'm not really sure what you're trying to point out to me in that case. I don't agree with refusing debate or discussion, but I don't think that's a reason Leave won the referendum because it happens on both sides.

ChilliMum · 16/09/2017 19:25

Thank you Agustarella and Evelynismyspyname, it certainly does suck.

Yes I am planning to apply for citizenship. I am working on improving my French (I can babble away OK but my grammar is awful!) Hoping to take the language exam in January.

Agustarella. Welcome to France I hope you can stay we love it.

SunnyCoco · 16/09/2017 19:26

Yes all the time
It's Devastating
European friends in skilled professions (e.g. Doctors) all figuring out where to move to as they no longer feel welcome in the uk

I live in London if it's relevant

histinyhandsarefrozen · 16/09/2017 19:27

I ask leavers loads of questions- and it is always like:

I hate globalisation so I voted
Brexit.
How will brexit help?
No answer.

I hate what eu does to africa.
How will brexit help?
No answer

I voted brexit for better housing
How?
No answer

I can't wait for brexit
Why?
No answer

How will my life improve post brexit?
No answer.

Maybe I've been unlucky, but It is apparent to me that there's a lot of leavers who are happy to use sound bites/catchphrases but don't want to discuss things further.

SunnyCoco · 16/09/2017 19:31

Those who voted leave are too busy gloating about 'winning' whereas those who want to remain aren't concerned about winning and losing, we're devastated at the impact it's already having on our lives and don't want any more catastrophe for our children

megletthesecond · 16/09/2017 19:32

Can't discuss is at work because there's a couple of Brexitters in the same pod.

I don't really need to discuss it with my family, they're remainers too and in despair about the whole thing. It comes up if we're watching the news.

Occasional brief comment in the school playground about how much of a nightmare it's going to be.

MissionItsPossible · 16/09/2017 19:33

AccrualIntentions

I was just saying that the dismissive tone of Remainers to Leavers is probably why the Leave vote edged it and that it works both ways but more in favour to Leave. I'm not disagreeing with you

Luttrell · 16/09/2017 19:34

My family are white supremecists and my friends European. So yes. A lot.

histinyhandsarefrozen · 16/09/2017 19:36

I don't agree with refusing debate or discussion, but I don't think that's a reason Leave won the referendum because it happens on both sides

Accrual said it better than me!

InvisibleKittenAttack · 16/09/2017 19:53

I know a lot of people who are working in European countries, so it comes up when I speak to them, they are in rather a limbo now. Equally, came up talking to parents from a boy in dc1's class, they are looking to buy a house now, but the husband is Spanish and they have decided to rent for another year to just see what happens.

It does seem to only be the people who are obviously directly effected who mention it now.

PrincessoftheSea · 16/09/2017 19:57

Yes because 50 of us at work are losing our jobs now as a direct consequence of Brexit.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 16/09/2017 19:58

There are more remainers saying they refuse to discuss it with leavers

Just in case of any confusion i have not refused to discuss it with the two leavers i know

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 16/09/2017 19:59

Oops sorry

I was very happy to discuss it pre referendum

Sparklemummyx0x0x · 16/09/2017 20:00

No don't talk about it really. With family, friends or colleagues. I'm not very political, it all goes over my head a lot of it. But not to say I don't listen and pay attention to the news and the whole process, cause I do but I'm a wait and see type of person. It's done, now deal.
If something came up in conversation then yep I'd talk with them but not actively bring it up. I have no issues with those who voted to leave or stay, I'm easy going and agree both sides so happy to chat about it. On the fence myself that's probably why.

Was on the night shift when result came out, when we swapped shifts the next day, it was mentioned but not talked about as such even then. Same with family and friends.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 16/09/2017 20:07

No never.

No one is interested.

missymayhemsmum · 16/09/2017 20:10

Yes, I discuss it with colleagues who voted Brexit and think it's going to be great, but can't tell me why they think it will improve the struggling local economy. I discuss it will colleagues who voted Brexit 'to give the government a kick up the arse cos something has to change' and I discuss it with senior colleagues who are looking at how many of the former lot are likely to get made redundant as a result of the impact of Brexit.
Also with my young adult children who are building contingency plans to leave and work abroad.

ImminentDisaster · 16/09/2017 20:14

I discuss it all the time with my husband and siblings. We have got a Brexit plan in place to weather the difficult years ahead and hopefully minimise the effect on our children who are likely to be the most screwed over by it.

Both sets of our parents voted Leave and have gone very quiet. Mine are of the opinion that it will all be fiiiiiine and we've been through worse things. They change the subject immediately. His are firmly of the "get behind Brexit" nonsense variety. Both refuse to discuss, which leads me to think they are regretting what they've done. All of their children made their disappointment very clear.

Davros · 16/09/2017 20:22

We met up with family today as usual on a Saturday. We barely talk about it, I'm not sure what each of them voted, but we did agree that we need to get out and buy powerful hoovers before it's too late

CleverKnot · 16/09/2017 20:26

yes. Very recurring topic at work, I have colleagues nearing finish of a 9 million euro, EU-funded project, they don't have more work lined up yet. I do science research. Everyone in my office is non-EU foreigner. I was at a different research institute yesterday & many of their staff were not British (mix of EU & non-EU). In our bubble, Brexit is devastating.

UK got lots more research money back than it put in to EU budget -- :(. UK Scientists expect far less money for research, exiting colleagues, & our institutes being much less competitive globally, in near future.

Around school staff who teach my kids or someone who runs a sports club: I wouldn't bring Brexit up for fear of creating bad feeling, but those people never discussed Brexit, not even in June 2016.