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Original poster

Dh is simply a cunt!

107 replies

IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 21:11

I am NBU

On day 3 of a bulging disc and the most horrendous nerve pain. Have 2 yo dt's, can barely squat/crouch, cant lift, certainly cant move fast. So far every nappy change has left me in tears with pain.

Yet cunty h is kidding on hes still 18 and fucking off to a fucking noise music event tomorrow... although when his wee chum phoned me last week like a 13 year old to ask if he could go cause he didnt have the balls, i said no!

IANBU to hope the fucker chokes on his glowstick right?!

OP posts:
kaytee87 · 15/09/2017 21:13

Jesus, his friend phoned to ask if he could come out to play Shock

Op yanbu Flowers

Pollydonia · 15/09/2017 21:14

Yanbu. What a cock Angry

MyBrilliantDisguise · 15/09/2017 21:14

That is terrible. He shouldn't be leaving you like that. Do you want us to have a word with him? Give us his email address and we'll get him to change his mind!

pennysnow · 15/09/2017 21:14

Ummmmmm, how old are you both?

pennysnow · 15/09/2017 21:15

HE sounds younger than 18!

WhooooAmI24601 · 15/09/2017 21:15

From a legal point of view I think it's highly likely you'd escape a prison sentence if you choked him to death on a slipper right now, the fucking asshat.

Winosaurus · 15/09/2017 21:16

What a dick!
I know someone who pissed on her DHs toothbrush because he did something similar Grin
I'd say he's fine to go to the gig as long as he takes the kids with him as you're incapacitated and they (and you) will be in danger if left without help

fourandnomore · 15/09/2017 21:16

You would not be unreasonable to just lock the doors and hide all the keys.

Pollydonia · 15/09/2017 21:17

Well he's certainly showing where his priorities lie .

TippyTinkleTrousers · 15/09/2017 21:17

His friend called you?!

That's a low I haven't heard of before. Isn't your DH embarrassed?

Christ, I'm embarrassed for him. That's painfully cringey.

Cailleach666 · 15/09/2017 21:18

Let him go.

Gives him a chance to show his true colours.
In your position I'd want to see him in all his glory.

Ollivander84 · 15/09/2017 21:19

YANBU. Do you have good pain drugs at least? Or a treatment plan? For you, not DH

Fauchelevent · 15/09/2017 21:20

YANBU, if nothing more for the term "kidding on"

NC4now · 15/09/2017 21:21

I don't often get on my high horse, but Jesus! That's horrendous.

I've had a herniated disc. It went on a Saturday. DH took Monday and Tuesday off work (the only time he's ever taken time off to look after me) because I physically couldn't walk.

Is he always this selfish?

mummypeepee · 15/09/2017 21:21

Please please go to A and E if you have any numbness or pain down both legs. I didn't and will regret it google caude equina.

TheNaze73 · 15/09/2017 21:22

I'd be so fucking embarrassed if I Was your DH. You ask for forgiveness, not permission.
Schoolboy error.

Hope your back sorts itself out soon OP Flowers

Ollivander84 · 15/09/2017 21:22

Also what mummy said ^^
I'm 4 months post op for a 15mm disc herniation with cauda equina

Lunde · 15/09/2017 21:23

He is being vvu - he needs to put his family first and be home looking after his children and not going out to play. What will he do if the childcare puts you in hospital needing acute treatment.

Can you get the kids to help with nappy changing etc so there is less strain on your disc problem? For example have you got a little step so that they could climb up onto the changing area? Can you make a game of them fetching clothes, nappies and wipes? Save all the washing and cleaning for dh

RubyGoat · 15/09/2017 21:25

Have you talked to him about it. Point out to him, in words of one syllable, that you are in constant dreadful pain & are barely physically capable of looking after yourself, let alone your DCs. What is / was his reaction? Don't let him sidle off, make him listen to you. And if he puts his gig first, that tells you what you need to know about where you & your DCs stand in the general pecking order. And you can then make decisions accordingly.

I really hope he's just not thought about it & steps up, BTW. Some people really do need things spelling out sometimes.

Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2017 21:26

If I were you, my husband would come home from the concert to find all of his shit in the street.

LeninaCrowne · 15/09/2017 21:29

I don't think the OP is able to lift his stuff let alone fling it into the street.

OP, can you call on anyone else to help you?

Original poster
IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 21:29

Thanks folks!
kaytee oh yes he did! Like he did last time
disguise oh email would be a waste, i find fb shaming him much better, he doesnt like it..

penny im not sure what relevance our ages are? But im 30, hes 40. He really needs to grow up.

whooo no way would iwaste my slipper on him, they are new and rather comfy. Can smother him right? SnoringMadeMeFlipItis

wino he wouldnt even notice i bet. Its gatecrasher... id rather saw my legs off than inflict that shit on my dc.

four i hear you, im at the end!

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ginswinger · 15/09/2017 21:30

Oh no he's not.
I think you need to put his mobile number on here and he'll get a solid hour of text messages telling him he's to stay put, strap on his big girl pants and start honouring his wedding vows.

Fairenuff · 15/09/2017 21:30

I think you are probably being unreasonable because you married him knowing what he was like. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear but unless you want to make some changes, he is going to continue to behave like this Sad

ItsNachoCheese · 15/09/2017 21:31

Im cringing for him what an absolute balloon