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Dh is simply a cunt!

107 replies

IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 21:11

I am NBU

On day 3 of a bulging disc and the most horrendous nerve pain. Have 2 yo dt's, can barely squat/crouch, cant lift, certainly cant move fast. So far every nappy change has left me in tears with pain.

Yet cunty h is kidding on hes still 18 and fucking off to a fucking noise music event tomorrow... although when his wee chum phoned me last week like a 13 year old to ask if he could go cause he didnt have the balls, i said no!

IANBU to hope the fucker chokes on his glowstick right?!

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happythankyoumoreplease · 15/09/2017 22:10

Calling someone a balloon is a Scottish insult...

OP YANBU!!

Cailleach666 · 15/09/2017 22:10

I'm not sure what that will solve.

Yes it will stop him going to this event, but it will upset the kids and not solve anything in the long run.

The problem OP is that he doesn't love you , and isn't a very good father either.
Any guy can remember birthdays, whisper sweet nothings, buy flowers, but it's when the chips are down like this that true feelings are bared to the glaring light.

Let him go, at least now you know where you stand.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who cares so little for you?

Ollivander84 · 15/09/2017 22:10

silver - why? At one point with similar I was in a&e being given morphine and wishing someone would cut my leg off. Cunt would have been the mildest swear word I used

PinkDaffodil2 · 15/09/2017 22:15

Tell him he can go if he sorts out childcare - you're too poorly to look after them, if he's going to swan off he can take some responsibility.
Failing that - I agree with PP to go off to the urgent care centre and not come back for long enough to make the point.

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IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 22:16

Oh silver you poor wee sausage.

I am indeed a fucking cunting spouse for not wanting to be emotionally, financially and physically abused over the years. Aye indeed, and you sound like a prize my love

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scrabbler3 · 15/09/2017 22:18

He's setting your children a bad example. Is this the relationship you want to model for them? You're in immense pain and it's very difficult, but I think you need to forget about toothbrush sabotage/changing the locks and consider seriously what to do about this sham of a marriage.

Cailleach666 · 15/09/2017 22:19

OP.

Get out.

Long overdue I suspect.

Do it for your kids if you can't do it for yourself.

MrLovebucket · 15/09/2017 22:21

@OP if it's the Gatecrasher event in Glasgow then it's 6pm - 2am though only a sad tosser would get there for 6pm

NC4now · 15/09/2017 22:28

I'm 40. I loved Gatecrasher when I was 20. Not more than I love my family now, and even on a bad day, I know they come first.

Cailleach666 · 15/09/2017 22:32

Does it matter what the social event is??

MrLovebucket · 15/09/2017 22:36

Does it matter what the social event is??

I was replying to OP's comment:

"Hes currently planning on leaving at lunchtime, these type things dont start til 10pm or so right?"

though admittedly that wasn't clear because I forgot to use the quote Smile

skyzumarubble · 15/09/2017 22:36

'Due to not being let out' get the hell out of there.

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IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 22:39

mrlove ooh is it? Thats awfy early for that? Sad tossers they are then. We're at most 90 mins away(80 mins according to eldest dd's dad), 30 mins register/chuck the bag in hotel, 20 mins underground/bus/christ even a walk

On another note, i miss glasgow :(

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IWantABlueBanana · 15/09/2017 22:42

NC4 apologies to yourself and others on my comments re this type of music, sorry!

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NC4now · 15/09/2017 22:45

Haha no need to apologise. I was a very different person 20 years ago. I'd feel well out of place and a bit tragic going to a Gatecrasher event these days.
Good memories, but that ship's sailed.

nigelsbigface · 15/09/2017 23:01

Dumbass. I had one like that (though he never stooped to getting his mate to ask to be fair). Now divorced, go figure.

BusyBeez99 · 15/09/2017 23:04

Had bulging disc earlier this year. I have never had pain like it. Even childbirth was a walk in the park compared with it. Poor
Thing :-(

blackteasplease · 15/09/2017 23:09

I agree with what everyone has said about your h being a cunt.

But I'm more worried about your medical situation. Do you have any numbness down below at all ( i wouldn't normally be coy and say "down below" but I don't think it needs to be a specific area to be serious).

Like a pp my mind went immediately to cauda equina. While that's quite rare it's v serious so I would get checked out.

afrikat · 15/09/2017 23:19

I honestly don't understand how he can even think about leaving you in this condition. How on earth are you expected to look after your daughter in this much pain? I've had bulging discs before and there is no pain like it - he's a fucking tosser. I'm sorry OP but if he can see you in that much pain and still go out he doesn't care about you like he should. Get rid

MammaTJ · 15/09/2017 23:23

Where are you, can any of us come and help you, if he does not step up?

QOD · 15/09/2017 23:32

I'd call him a cunt, but he's not deep enough

🥁

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IWantABlueBanana · 16/09/2017 00:00

Sorry folks hes sitting right next to me. On a pee break. Have just text his mate with my anger/concern about myself/dc.

blacktea no, no numbness there. Unreal for me nerve pain groin and upper thighs but no numbness or change in urination.

mamma i know theres a couple posters from my tiny wee town, none on this thread though. No-one seems to be from here lol

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IWantABlueBanana · 16/09/2017 00:16

Hes falldd

Dh is simply a cunt!
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FreshSet · 16/09/2017 00:19

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IWantABlueBanana · 16/09/2017 00:22

Ffs i pressed space and kaboom lol he is currently snoring like a pig on sofa. Have screenshotted pics with the friend, just need to work out how to scrub his name.

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